I've blown some opportunities recently just due to being a coward. The other day I'm shopping at my local Kroger for groceries. I usually do my shopping around 12-1A. I notice when walking in that there's this new girl who looks pretty cute...probably a 6.5-7 in the face and 8-8.5 body. She kept looking at me as I rolled my shopping cart. When she was close enough to me to make eye contact she looked at me and smiled like she was interested. Finally I go to checkout and she's a few aisles down doing nothing. So she rushes over to check me out (my groceries at least) and she smiles again and appologizes for the delay. The delay was like 3 seconds! She was really friendly and talkative and smiled alot so it seemed that signs of interest were definitely strong. When I make my return trip for more groceries in a few days, how should I go about approaching her and getting her number. Or should I wait until the 3rd encounter for good measure. Talking to chicks..and especially trying to get their numbers is majorly stressful for me so I need to go in with a plan. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
chickenlegs03
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i don't know, not to discourage you...and i'm in no position to be giving advice with just being in a dating drought for the past 4 months...but my 2 cents are that anyone who is working probably gets paid to be 'friendly'
that doesn't count really...you should try to illicit those reactions in girls not doing their job.
i know this because at work, i put my game face on and act like i'm in the most joyous mood and am nice to everyone even if i'm really feeling sh!tty on the inside.
just keep that in mind. and nonetheless, at least you're making an effort i guess, whereas, i haven't been.
keep it up.
that doesn't count really...you should try to illicit those reactions in girls not doing their job.
i know this because at work, i put my game face on and act like i'm in the most joyous mood and am nice to everyone even if i'm really feeling sh!tty on the inside.
just keep that in mind. and nonetheless, at least you're making an effort i guess, whereas, i haven't been.
keep it up.
johnmich
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is she is that forward and there are that many IOI's then she could like you and not be like that cos of her job.
I guess I'll go for it later this week on my next shopping trip. I think the signs of interest are much more than just doing her job. She took several glances while I was there and the smile seemed to be more than just the friendly "smile at the customer." I don't know what to say to a checkout chick but maybe I can think of something.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Chickenlegs, I really wonder why you would take the time to try to give "pseudo-advice" when you admit that you aren't even in the game. Save yourself from a lifetime of carpal tunnel, keyboard jockey.
Ian: There are LOTS of girls working at that grocery store. I assume all of them are getting paid. How many of them are going out of their way to approach you and give you IOI's? Forget about chicken, his name says it all. Go game this girl!
Wolf
Ian: There are LOTS of girls working at that grocery store. I assume all of them are getting paid. How many of them are going out of their way to approach you and give you IOI's? Forget about chicken, his name says it all. Go game this girl!
Wolf
chickenlegs03 said:
Yeah just go for it, the worst that will happen is you find out she is just putting on her work act, best way to do this is to say, "hey you are supposed to be happy and friendly, you work here!" and that breaks the barrier between customer and employee. Example: if I go shopping for new clothes, I always get the girl working to help me, tell her I want a "female opinion". When I come out in the clothes I am trying on, if shes all compliments, I say, "No, honestly what do you think, don't tell me what you HAVE to say cause you work here" They always laugh, and then you can introduce yourself and it is all fun, I often leave with a number, and no new clothes 
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Thanks for all the feedback and encouragement on this. Tommorrow will be grocery shopping day so I will see what I can do provided she's working. I don't even know how to approach a chick in this kind of situation and what to say. The only place I've really approached chicks is in bars and clubs. This will be a first.
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Positive Mindset
This is a problem I deal with also. The source of the "cowardly" mindset is a fear of rejection/failure. The source of the fear of rejection is ultimately a negative mindset. Be confident and anticipate a *positive* outcome first. Use confident body language even before you approach. Everybody's rooting for you. Whatever happens, you will continue to learn and improve to the point where you will have way too many women on your hands.
Wolf
This is a problem I deal with also. The source of the "cowardly" mindset is a fear of rejection/failure. The source of the fear of rejection is ultimately a negative mindset. Be confident and anticipate a *positive* outcome first. Use confident body language even before you approach. Everybody's rooting for you. Whatever happens, you will continue to learn and improve to the point where you will have way too many women on your hands.
Wolf
Ian19 said:
It sounds to me like she's into you. Take advantage of it because it doesn't happen often to most of us, never to some of us.
It sounds like this is a gimmie:
"You again! So are you really this nice and cheerful or are you just doing your job?"
:: Yada yada, some crap she'll say ::
"So what else do you do besides work the graveyard shift here?"
"Well I normally don't hit on the checkout ladies at the supermarket because most are 50 years old and smell like lunchmeat but would you like to get together sometime?"
Sealed deal.
It sounds like this is a gimmie:
"You again! So are you really this nice and cheerful or are you just doing your job?"
:: Yada yada, some crap she'll say ::
"So what else do you do besides work the graveyard shift here?"
"Well I normally don't hit on the checkout ladies at the supermarket because most are 50 years old and smell like lunchmeat but would you like to get together sometime?"
Sealed deal.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
TxCowboy
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also check out the girls who stock the shelves ... easy targets ... I got a # from some chick stocking soup this past weekend at HEB ...Ian19 said: