"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cyledehysp

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After recently reading a thread here from a guy who checked hot asian girl out (looked from top to feet and back up) and he got positive results, I decided to EC and check some girls out, and shortly I realised that I was allmost never checking girls out!!! I was aspecially atracted to their faces and that was a beauty for me, bodies were of course importent but perheps not as much as for avarage guy.

So I began to check em out and I like it, but I have questions too. If girls are at some distance (ie not in front of us chatting with us) is it allways good to check em out and they like it? If so, is it best to, after looking in the eyes, wait for them to notice my looking and then quite fast but not too fast, look her up from eyes to feet to eyes again?

When done with a smile (maybe small one) it should comunicate that I`m interested if shes cool/hot ect and I`m not affraid to show it, right? Any other advices on how/when to do it, and how about conversations when we are close to each other, I suppose doing it to obvious may be too much (unless situation is hot already and its close to a kiss) am I getting that?

thx for repls.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Before checking her out, you should first wait for some visual confirmation from her. If you do it first, and she is not attracted to you, you will come across as 'creepy'.
 

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So you say if I EC with her, and she wont smile, and I`ll check her out, I`ll be creepy?

Isn`t it ok for me just to check her out if I want because I`m a man and I just want to do it?
 

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Hey Cyl, it will turn on that nocturnal red light in their head that says 'stay away'.

Have you ever seen older men look at teenage girls, say at a mall? These guys look pathetic and like child porn types.

You're not going to get into her pants this way anyway, and if she has friends, and is not attracted to you, then you're pegged as 'creepy' for this reason.

On the other hand, if she does something first in a come hither, flirtatious manner, then it makes all the difference.

Remember, it is the woman who chooses the mate, not the man. She has control early on, and he has control later after sex (or should), but this is a whole other venture.
 

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Hmm... thats interesting, its definitelly not the answer I expected :) but something I will consider for sure. I guess I wanted to make up for all that years of not doing that, but being percived as creepy is not quite the effect I`m looking for. thx.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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