Check This Situation, (One in A Million)

[bfl]

Alright this situation i dont think that happens often but for some reason is happening to me now, now i normally dont ask for advice cause ive mastered this dj thing and i always give advice but now i find my self having to get some advice so please help me here.

Now this chick is into me right, thats already clear, i see her body language and most of all i always catch her looking at me when she thinks i aint looking, and her look is a " i really like you look".

So ok this past weekend i finally aproached her in like a month cause i had put her on punishment for trynna play games with a DJ like me wich is a deadly mistake.
So when im talking to her she was acting a lil shy and all but still her signs were like she wasnt interested at all. Later on my cousin (female cousin) came out and we had like a good 30 min convo among us.
It was a lil bit of everything, ****y, funny, neg hits lol neg hits was the most part of it lol. But all in a friendly way.
During that time when i was talking she really acted like she was interested , she paid attention to everything i was saying, made eye contact and whenever i neg hitted her ( wich was very often) she laughed and hit me on the chest once in the face etc...
She was making fun neg hitting me about my id pictures, abd all type of questions went on, like do you beat your meat, do u eat pu$$y, etc...yall can imagine the rest.

Now when i asked her if she had a bf , she said "no, why u wanna be my bf?" and i said " oh i didnt say all that now" in a funny way. I dont know if it was the right move but we went on smoothly.

The Bottom line is that im having a lil bit of trouble reading her signs , one time they show that shes really interested and another time they show that shes interested bit not that much.

What move should i do now, to try to get to that kissing and all that.

During the combo mu cousin told her that i had a tattoo and she was like "oh really" and i said "yeh whenever we go to bed you'll see it" and she start laughing, but yet didnt show that she didnt wanna do it.

I Made her laugh like crazy was direct showed her that i was interested but yet a challnenge and the thing is that she didn the samething , shes like a female dj.

Im not sure about what i should do now cause if i keep like this its gonna end up going nowhere, I'd like to hear yall opinions.

 

[Skel]

I thought you said you had all this DJ shiat mastered?
Next move is to get her alone, your house, out somewhere anywhere? Maybe ask her out

 

[HuuBinh]

good situation, since ya'll had a great time together & you made her laugh a lot. i would advise you to pull all of your attention away from her for a period of time. i think you already know the effect of that. good luck

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Dude, are you trying to hit on your cousin??? Clarify your thread.

I will not advise you on this lowbrow attempt

 

[bfl]

lol!! naw man im not trynna hit on my cousin, its her friend the one im trynna get, my cousin just came and joined, lol.

And i dont know if i should pull my attention away from her again i just finished doing that, i did it for like a month.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

OK, now that you clarified the situation I'll add my .03 cents. Isolate her - there should be no one else involved in this setting.
Talk to her and see what her intentions are...only talk to her to pursue her romantically and not to play or joke around and let her know that you only want her company as a woman - don't directly say this just imply it. After your first date if you don't feel she wants anything romantic with you then drop her. You made your intentions known as a man - you did your job!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She's got the power right now because you asked her if she had a bf!!! You don't have all the techniques mastered otherwise you would've known not to ask about that. If your trying to lay her, just focus on attracted her to you. Don't worry about other guys or a possible bf!!! Play games with her if she's playing with you. Be unpredictable and you'll get what you want.



PIMP

 

[bfl]

^^^Trust me that question about the bf wasnt a problem.
So what if i asked her if she had a bf she already knows that im attracted to her, and i know that she is attracted to me also.
Like i said i was being funny all night and i really got a good response of that.
When i asked her that she went on to say if i wanted to be her bf, i could had easily say yes, but i like the challenge.

 

[ScrewIt]

attracted for how long?? a person's IL can drop or raise depending on what you do...i know ive made dumb mistakes in the past, but i correct them and know it's beneficial towards the results.

ya it allways happens, one min u think they're interested, the next they' lesser interested...eh girls always play mind games, u just gotta watch out what they throw at you, it always happens to guys

 

[bfl]

yeh i know, but trust me since i started to learn about the game not a lotta girls have dropped their IL completely, i know what im doing with this chick. You gotta find ways to keep them attracted to you.

Oh and by the way..............there is not such word as "lesser"

 

[Krassus]

'You know what you're doing,' with this chick and yet you resort to asking for advice on how to proceed in an online forum? I think the first thing you need to do is admit that you haven't mastered 'this dj thing.' Your situation seems pretty basic to me, and i don't claim to be even near to being a master seductionist.

 

[bfl]

^^lol

98% of the questions in this site are "pretty basic" but yet they come here and try to get some advice from some other dj's.
For you it might be basic but for others it might not be.
Now i know that is basic and at first i wasnt even gonna post this thread but then i just decided that i was gonna see what other dj's had to say about this, wich has been basicly what i expected and what i had planned to do, i just wanted to see other people's view's on this.

When i say that i got most of the skills mastered , i mean it, but just cause of that im not gonna stop posting here.

 

[DJnomore]

Nice job...

But next time a girl you like says do you want to be my boyfriend don't turn down the heat. Turn it up by saying "Well that all depends on how wild you are in bed now doesn't it?"

Or something that still preserves your freedom but moves the conversation where you want to go. Assuming that is what you wanted to talk about.

Good luck

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

With the possible exeption of PRL, this has to be the worst thread of advice ever!

I mean seriously, WTF?

You're hot. You're cold. You're hot. You're cold. You engage. You disengage. You engage. You disengage.

WTF is up with all this maneuvering? Quit lying to yourself that you're a playa and go for it already. All this 'punishing her' crap and 'withdrawing' is just another form of mental masturbation.

You see what you want, now cut the sh1t and take it already!

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by bfl
Oh and by the way..............there is not such word as "lesser"

As long as we're being sticklers... yeah there is...

ie: "Children of a lesser god."

You're right about his misuse though... the word he was looking for was lessen.

Which brings me back to my original point of you engaging in mental masturbation instead of engaging your paramour like you should be doing and handling your business like a man.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[bfl]

^^im not gonna start arguing with you over something like this.
i mean now u saying that im not a player, i never said that i was in the first place and second, mental masturbation has to be one of the most important things in djing so i dont know what was all that about.

But then ofcourse that a person like u would get any girl right away you wouldnt need to talk to her make her feel good around you confortable, you would just "cut the shi1t and get it"

lol u got some problems man.

At least this is my way of doing it and it worked wonders with this girl as i already stated in the thread and it has worked wonders with every female i've wanted.

Its amazing the way you talking seems like u are an AFC.
word up.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

1) For someone who claims not to be a playa, you certainly do divest yourself in playing games.

2) Mental masturbation is one of the most important things in DJing? Forgive me if I'm off base here, but I think you're confusing positive visualization with mental masturbation. Here you are literally thrilled to death with yourself playing all these cat and mouse games and marvelling at your own status for pulling it off. All the while, you're not achieving any objective save that ego boost from supposedly having the power to control her interest level. An ego Boost which would only pale in comparison with the power you weild when you actually fvck her and have her coming back for more. Note: when women play games to keep guys interested without fvcking them, we call them attention wh0res...

3) Yes, you do have to talk to a girl, but ferrchrissake you've been going at this for months now, when were you planning on closing in? Have you ever heard of cold-approaches and closing the deal in one day? You said so yourself that she's digging all on you, and you're digging on her, so wtf is the problem? You seem to be more interested in keeping her hooked than reeling her in. Let's not put the cart in front of the horse here. Can you actually tell me you get more jollies 'playing with her mind' than by actually nailing her so hard and well that it literally erases the memory of all other men?

Which one is it? Are you just having your giggles or do you actually think you want to do something? Either way, you're telling me I'm the one with problems? Whatever happened to being a man and handling your business? Women play silly games, not men.

4) Btw, punishment only works when the person you are punishing a) knows you're doing it, b) knows why you're doing it, and c) has something personally invested enough to lose by you withdrawing it. How many of these can you honestly say apply?

5) I sound like an AFC, so you assume I am one? Oh that's rich. Just because I can correct you on your grammar means I can't get laid? B1tch! You're asking advice on how to get a girl to kiss you! You dare to question me? Look, I know I'm being a hard-@$$, but I'm not going to congratulate you because some bimbo likes you and you don't have the man jewels to take it any further.

You got a lot of growing up to do.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[bfl]

Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
1) For someone who claims not to be a playa, you certainly do divest yourself in playing games. [b/]
so what if its working for me thats all i care about

2) Mental masturbation is one of the most important things in DJing? Forgive me if I'm off base here, but I think you're confusing positive visualization with mental masturbation. Here you are literally thrilled to death with yourself playing all these cat and mouse games and marvelling at your own status for pulling it off.
im not litrally thrilled in anyway nelieve me on that playboy, i dont like playing all them games and i havent play any games , just cause i was joking and having a good time with her dont mean that i like playing games

3) Yes, you do have to talk to a girl, but ferrchrissake you've been going at this for months now, when were you planning on closing in? Have you ever heard of cold-approaches and closing the deal in one day? You said so yourself that she's digging all on you, and you're digging on her, so wtf is the problem? You seem to be more interested in keeping her hooked than reeling her in. Let's not put the cart in front of the horse here. Can you actually tell me you get more jollies 'playing with her mind' than by actually nailing her so hard and well that it literally erases the memory of all other men?
i havent being going at this for months this was only the second time i seen her since i found out that she was into me.
and i do plan to close the deal when i see her next time.

Which one is it? Are you just having your giggles or do you actually think you want to do something? Either way, you're telling me I'm the one with problems? Whatever happened to being a man and handling your business? Women play silly games, not men.
who said that im not handling my business, i am, im just not gonna blow it by going too fast, women play silly games not men? i know that so whats your point im not playing no games thats why i nexted her for that period of time and she kept thinking why i didnt call.

4) Btw, punishment only works when the person you are punishing a) knows you're doing it, b) knows why you're doing it, and c) has something personally invested enough to lose by you withdrawing it.
a) she didnt know i was doing it but then she kept wondering why i wasnt calling her
b) i totally disagree when u punish a female in this situation she is not gonna know why u are doing it, shes gonna be brainstorming herself trynna figure out why!
c) she has something, Thats me DUH...

5) I sound like an AFC, so you assume I am one? Oh that's rich. Just because I can correct you on your grammar means I'm not getting laid?

You got a lot of growing up to do.

-CyranoDeBergerac
Some of the things u say are thngs i said when i first came to this site so yes it sounds AFCish, and what the fuk does grammar have to to do with u gettin laid, LMFAO!!!
i know that i got a lotta growing up to do by fact but it seems that regardless ur age u gotta a lot of growing up to do in this "player" game.

Have a nice Day and god bless u!

 

[bfl]

5) I sound like an AFC, so you assume I am one? Oh that's rich. Just because I can correct you on your grammar means I can't get laid? B1tch! You're asking advice on how to get a girl to kiss you! You dare to question me? Look, I know I'm being a hard-@$$, but I'm not going to congratulate you because some bimbo likes you and you don't have the man jewels to take it any further.

You got a lot of growing up to do.

-CyranoDeBergerac [/QUOTE]

LOL!!! he edited number 5

first of all i never fuking disrispected your ugly a$$ so dont call me no B1tch just cause your fuking nasty mother is one so FUK U!!
and im not asking no fukin advice in how to get a girl to kiss me u dumbsh!t!!
question u?? i definetly think that u are a fukin AFC now, and i never fukin asked for you dumb advice.
i dont need for u to congratulate me at all fuk you!!
and u think that i dont wanna take it anu further u got to be one of the most retarded man in this world, i wanna take it where i take your fukin' mother everyday!! to my **** in her fukin' throat u *****!!! something that u have never experienced

Get the fuk outta here

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

You should've seen it before I re-editted it.

Look man, let's calm down and cut through the crap here. (for my part alot of my hostility comes from something else entirely, so I'll apologize for the tone, if not the content of my posts.)

You said its obvious that she likes you because all of her signals point that way. Fair enough. Then you say you're having trouble reading her signals. ?

You also have withdrawal, or tactical retreat whatever, confused as some kind of punishment not some kind of challenge. You're not putting the screws to her because she dissed you, you're retreating so she'll pursue.

Here's my point. You seem to have that whole, getting her comfortable thing down. Great. All lights are green all signs are go. So why are you hesitating to take that last step? What do you have to gain by delaying? Hesitation is death man.

The object of the game is not to get and keep her interested. Its to get laid. You can do this just by getting her alone and putting the moves on her.

Problem solved.

-Cyrano