Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well that just happened to you cuz ur dumb and probably accepted all your familys requets or added them yourselves. I NEVER add family or anyone related to me on facebook. Its as simple as that. Soooo many more people use facebook anyways.Wolf said:Haha seriously, DON'T do that. Facebook can put you in really awkward positions. For example, I have both family and girls I like on there, and whenever I say anything dirty to them/vice versa all my family can see it in their updates! And if you don't want them to, you have to take the time to go into your profile and click the x. Assuming everybody you know even very distantly hasn't read it already.
This is an example of what your family and everyone you know sees when they log in:
"*your name* just commented hotchicks wall -
Oooh yer? I'd lick you out any day"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Russian immigrants make the schools ghetto? :crackup:TheRealSupreme said:
Naah it was the vast invasion back in the 80's of russian and hmong immigrants into one small little community and then everyone moving out that caused it to go down.OTB said:
You know how I know you're gay?MatureDJ said:
