Check list for keeping your game tight.

[Amazing]

Lets come up with a checklist to keep in the back of your mind when you approach a girl.. so you don't feel like another chump.


Stuff like:

I've been with a few hot women before
I have been told I am great in bed by multiple girls
I have done a lot of cool things in my life
There are girls here who would screw me tonight
There are guys here who have no idea what they are doing
There is no real competition here

There is no need to put this girl on a piedistal, for all you know she could be crazy or have STDs.
She could suck as a person, so qualify the **** out of her
You are a pretty damn good catch, so play hard to get
If nothing else, this will be add to experience and make for a good story.




agree/disagree, add yours.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

Those are great, repped.

 

[BananaSmile]

There are guys here who have no idea what they are doing
There is no real competition here

were in a competition?
only a DJ could be a competition to a DJ but that doesnt happen cos a DJ can has any girl why would he compete over one?

 

[zekko]

there is no real competition here

I wasn't going to comment on this, but since BananaSmile brought it up, I really think that statement is very naive. I realize this is just the proper mindset to have going in, but if you're going to go after HB9s there WILL be competition. If you don't think so, you're just fooling yourself.

only a DJ could be a competition to a DJ but that doesnt happen cos a DJ can has any girl why would he compete over one?

So what are you saying, if another DJ walks up and wants the girl, you just walk off and give her to him?

 

[=VAGO=]

here's mine:
DONT BE A WUSSBOY/CHUMP
SPEAK MY MIND
I AM THE CATCH NOT HER
REGRET IS BETTER THAN REJECTION
SHE IS A HUMAN, LIKE ME
CALM
COOL
COLLECTED
IN CONTROL

I think it's also great to act like a natural, even when you're not. Eventually you will become what you act like.

 

[Amazing]

here's mine:
DONT BE A WUSSBOY/CHUMP
SPEAK MY MIND
I AM THE CATCH NOT HER
REGRET IS BETTER THAN REJECTION
SHE IS A HUMAN, LIKE ME
CALM
COOL
COLLECTED
IN CONTROL

I think it's also great to act like a natural, even when you're not. Eventually you will become what you act like.

waaaaay too general bud. You need to have specific things, the "i'm great" rarely translates to something solid.

zekko, you are spot on yet again, damn boy! I myself don't use it, mainlybecause yes there is competition, but I was framing it in a sense that "I have better game than them, so there is really no competition" Of course there are guys talking to the girl.. hell I had two talk to the one i picked up last friday, but can they keep their game tight? and how bad does she want to be picked up?

 

[=VAGO=]

Hey, it's working me wonderful results. Field tested. As far as your method, I would like to hear yours, Sir.

 

[yuppaz]

I have one to keep Amazings game tight.... get rid of the defensive barriers mayn! You also need to learn to be accepting and less judgmental, your jumping on a poster like that it a bit of a tell that you still have some inner game work to do. Not being critical man, just pointing it out so you have an outside perspective.

 

[Amazing]

Yeah, may be I am judgmental, but those are too generic for me and too vague. You say to yourself "I am great" what does that even mean? You walk in and she blows you off, are you going to still come back to "it's ok I'm great"?


Now what if you did this, you said "hey, that one looks like one of the chicks I had a threesome with in Cabo when they poured champagne all over each other and we had monkey sex for 6 hours"

you walk in, kinda feeling good and sexual at the same time. it might work, it might not.

may be it is better to generalize as a blanket, but what is it rooted to. WHY are you great? WHY are you cool? because you think you are, or because you've done something?

 

[falconslax89]

Lets come up with a checklist to keep in the back of your mind when you approach a girl.. so you don't feel like another chump.


Stuff like:

I've been with a few hot women before
I have been told I am great in bed by multiple girls
I have done a lot of cool things in my life
There are girls here who would screw me tonight
There are guys here who have no idea what they are doing
There is no real competition here

There is no need to put this girl on a piedistal, for all you know she could be crazy or have STDs.
She could suck as a person, so qualify the **** out of her
You are a pretty damn good catch, so play hard to get
If nothing else, this will be add to experience and make for a good story.




agree/disagree, add yours.

supaballin.

 

[zekko]

I was framing it in a sense that "I have better game than them, so there is really no competition" Of course there are guys talking to the girl.. hell I had two talk to the one i picked up last friday, but can they keep their game tight?

And therein lies the competition.
I knew what you meant though, you want to have the mindset that you're the coolest guy on the planet.

But there's always going to be competition. If there wasn't, there would be no need for "boyfriend destroyers", tactics for tooling guys out, or for dealing with AMOGs and guys trying to tool you out.

 

[Amazing]

And therein lies the competition.
I knew what you meant though, you want to have the mindset that you're the coolest guy on the planet.

But there's always going to be competition. If there wasn't, there would be no need for "boyfriend destroyers", tactics for tooling guys out, or for dealing with AMOGs and guys trying to tool you out.

You know, as I'm thinking about it - may be it is not the best idea to even acknowledge competition. I try to always have the two frames:

1. every stranger is a friend I haven't met yet
2. every girl will give me a chance


this took years to develop, but I like having it, it makes life a lot easier. I don't even really look at guys as competition so much - If a guy talks to a girl before I do, I am like "ok, let's see if it plays out well"

I do not come in and blow guys out, although does anyone have good experience with this? I am not talking about some dork who comes up dancing with a hottie - this is easy, I'm talking about another normal dude. Probably best to observe and wait for your chance imo.

 

[handle]

I don't do this sort of thing that often, but usually I just think 2 things:

"I'm having a great time"
and
"Looks like it'd be fun to get to know her"

All it is is genuine curiosity in other people and keeping it light. That's all it is for me.

 

[zekko]

You know, as I'm thinking about it - may be it is not the best idea to even acknowledge competition. I try to always have the two frames:

1. every stranger is a friend I haven't met yet
2. every girl will give me a chance

That's a good, healthy mindset to have.
But even the master "guru" pickup artists knew there was competition, and developed tactics to deal with it, what to do if another guy comes up and tries to pick up your target. It's one thing to think you're so great that they are no real threat to you, but with pickup becoming more and more mainstream there will be more and more guys going in with the right attitude. I just don't think the idea that competition doesn't exist is realistic, especially when going after the top girls. But then again, who said pickup is realistic?

 

[Dante420]

How about this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172039

I wanna get head from her again cause she gave me a lil sample but never finished Now I'm going to be hanging out with her and wondering if saying something like this would be positive reinforcement IF DONE RIGHT or if it'd be weak/AFC/needy

 

[Warrior74]

Check List for Keeping Your Outer Game Tight.

1. Stay well groomed, hair cut, brush teeth, nails clipped, bathed and colonge.
2. Keep your place clean, even if you live at home. A clean room affects your mindstate.
3. Always try to dress one level above everyone else where ever you are going, you don't have to over dress, just be a notch above the slobs.
4. Always have on good, clean shoes
5. Get a nice watch, it doesn't have to be expensive, just something that stands out.
6. Work daily on any other physical qualities like being over weight or skinny.
7. Keep your car clean.

 

[zekko]

Check List for Keeping Your Outer Game Tight.

1. Stay well groomed, hair cut, brush teeth, nails clipped, bathed and colonge.
2. Keep your place clean, even if you live at home. A clean room affects your mindstate.
3. Always try to dress one level above everyone else where ever you are going, you don't have to over dress, just be a notch above the slobs.
4. Always have on good, clean shoes
5. Get a nice watch, it doesn't have to be expensive, just something that stands out.
6. Work daily on any other physical qualities like being over weight or skinny.
7. Keep your car clean.

I like your list, I'll give you a rep.
And don't forget to keep those pubes trimmed.

 

[Amazing]

anyone has more?

 

[thecurtainfalls]

Regarding keeping my inner game tight, I usually have two different trains of thought going - the first one is almost identical to your OP, reminding myself of past successes and ingraining the fact that I really am capable of scoring even that super cute and popular girl.

The second has more to do with approach and/or escalation anxiety. I'm not a religious man and I personally believe that when you die, that's it. You don't go anywhere, you simply cease to exist. Although this is a morbid thing to dwell on, it helps me realize that being tied up in my mind or holding myself back from something I truly WANT is ultimately stupid. My insecurities and fears are MEANINGLESS on a cosmic scale. If you do not risk, you cannot gain.

Towards that end, two quotes:

"You miss 100% of the shots you never take" - Wayne Gretzky
Yes, you may fail, you may crash and burn hard, but are you willing to go through that 99 times if it meant the 100th time you could win the girl of your dreams? What are you willing to go through, how much are you willing to take in order to achieve for yourself what you feel you deserve?

"Every third thought shall be of my grave" - William Shakespeare
No, you don't have to obsess on death and dying all the time, but Shakespeare wrote this line for Prospero signifying that an occasional reminder of the fleeting nature of life is important not to take yourself too seriously or be caught up in worldly fears that seek to bind you down and keep you from fulfilling your ultimate potential.

Sorry if this wasn't as linear as a checklist, but it's some of the stuff I normally dwell on.

 

[REPEM]

haha All these checklists and you guys forgot one of the most important things:


SENSE OF HUMOR