Albatross953
Master Don Juan
How exactly do you tell a buddy that his wife of nine years is doing other guys?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
5string
Master Don Juan
When I was in college I was engaged to a gal. Bigtime oneitis. We lived together and we both worked at different bars at a large Big 10 school. One day, a guy I knew came up to me and said "5string, got something to tell you."
Me....what?
Him....I have been fvcking your girl. Thing is, even though I'm into her, she's been fvcking a couple other guys. I just found out and thought you should know because it's the right thing to do. She's trading her pvssy for cocaine.
I was stunned, hurt and confused. I actually thanked him for telling me as I considered how hard that must have been for him to be honest with me. He was hurt as well.
I kicked that slvt to the fvckin curb bigtime. Funny thing is, she denied everything.
Can't make up sh!t like this.
Hard to trust anyone after something like that.
Me....what?
Him....I have been fvcking your girl. Thing is, even though I'm into her, she's been fvcking a couple other guys. I just found out and thought you should know because it's the right thing to do. She's trading her pvssy for cocaine.
I was stunned, hurt and confused. I actually thanked him for telling me as I considered how hard that must have been for him to be honest with me. He was hurt as well.
I kicked that slvt to the fvckin curb bigtime. Funny thing is, she denied everything.
Can't make up sh!t like this.
Hard to trust anyone after something like that.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear Albatross,
If you take the word of advice from a fool,do nothing...On two occasions in the past I have given friends life shattering information.....It backfired on me,and my friendships in both cases were shattered....In a metaphorical way,the recipient of the bad news,kills the messenger who brings the bad news!
If you take the word of advice from a fool,do nothing...On two occasions in the past I have given friends life shattering information.....It backfired on me,and my friendships in both cases were shattered....In a metaphorical way,the recipient of the bad news,kills the messenger who brings the bad news!
it is true that the messenger often takes the beating for the sin, that said, If I were being cheated on and found out a good friend knew and did nothing...Id be p1ssed off with him.
if you are going to do it, gather hard evidence, photos, times dates, names. put it in a big envelope and leave it for him to find annonymously. that is one way.
personally Id front him up, tell him what you think of him as a friend but you cant just let this go unsaid. the thing to beware of is some guy actually have an idea she is cheating but dont want to confront the actual fact, as mad as that sounds, ignorance is bliss and they like to live in denial, not wishing their world to be shattered.
a lot depends on how well you know your friend, how he responds to crisis etc, past relationships.
its a damned if you do, damned if you dont scenario, good luck with whatever you do or dont.
if you are going to do it, gather hard evidence, photos, times dates, names. put it in a big envelope and leave it for him to find annonymously. that is one way.
personally Id front him up, tell him what you think of him as a friend but you cant just let this go unsaid. the thing to beware of is some guy actually have an idea she is cheating but dont want to confront the actual fact, as mad as that sounds, ignorance is bliss and they like to live in denial, not wishing their world to be shattered.
a lot depends on how well you know your friend, how he responds to crisis etc, past relationships.
its a damned if you do, damned if you dont scenario, good luck with whatever you do or dont.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear BTM,
"ignorance is bliss and they like to live in denial, not wishing their world to be shattered. ".....Really well put and I agree....The scenario where you give the anonymous tip off has its points,But,"What if",you did this and he murders her,or suppose there is serious "Bother"and your mate gets beaten up...how do you feel?....No,let the Man in the sky determine the outcome...surprising how often,if things take their natural course they resolve themselves...Inshallah!
"ignorance is bliss and they like to live in denial, not wishing their world to be shattered. ".....Really well put and I agree....The scenario where you give the anonymous tip off has its points,But,"What if",you did this and he murders her,or suppose there is serious "Bother"and your mate gets beaten up...how do you feel?....No,let the Man in the sky determine the outcome...surprising how often,if things take their natural course they resolve themselves...Inshallah!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Thanks guys, some great advice. I think I've got something that will work. I am going to tell the wife of the guy she's currently doing. That should work, he'll likely find out as the two couples are very close. It's just sick all around.
there is a chance he may still not find out though! his partenr scream, has a fit, but think damn that b!tch she isnt getting my man, forgives him, affair ends, long cold distance betwen the couples only your mate hasnt a clue whats really happened...its a possibility, the guy who gets cheated on is oftne the last to find out and sometimes the only one who never finds out!Albatross953 said:
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
I think he will, just based on the situation. And knowing the person I'm telling, it won't be a forgive scenario.
As for casting stones, well if it was me, I'd want to know and he's a good friend.
As for casting stones, well if it was me, I'd want to know and he's a good friend.