"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cheating ass b*tch?

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Went over to my girl house today, we had some fun. I ate ***** for the first time (for like 10 seconds), but damn I had to stop. I looked around on her inside thigh and I saw the occasional red bump. WTF? Not only that, it didn't smell good nor taste good. I was like "**** that".

Anyway f*ck all that, after that she gave me like 15 second dome but she stopped sayin that I didn't do her long at all either. Eventually I just left the room and sat on the couch. She was tired for camp so she fell a sleep. And that's when....


I looked through her messages. There's this one f*cker that was out of town for the moment and they were talking to each other. My girl said "I just want u to know that I love you and I miss you and see u when you get back". IS THAT NORMAL FOR A GIRL TO SAY TO A GUY FRIEND?

On to the next message, she's tellin this friend to come see her (her mom is not home during the day). Uhmmm.... Now that I think about it, I'm not completely sure if it was a dude, but I'm pretty sure it was.

Next set of messages, she's talking to another male friend (she has female msgs in here also but who cares). She tells him (noted the time that I get there) "I gotta go my friend just came over". OK... I thought I was her BOYFRIEND. Maybe she doesn't want people to know she's giving up goodies? (naw f*ck that I'm making excuses for her)

**** after that I just grabbed my stuff and walked out. She tried to tap on the window as I went to my car but I ignored that ****.

This ***** loves me to death, after we broke up, she even crawled back. F*ckin... I saw her yesterday and 2 days before that and she wanted to see me again TODAY. But does this b*tch have a cheating problem? Is she cheating? What the f*ck is this?

HOW SHOULD I TREAT THIS SITUATION? Comfront her about it? Or just assume she's cheating and just ignore her? We've been goin out 7 months.

EDIT: Oh and I'm at the top of her top 16 friends on myspace, and also on facebook it says she's in a relationship with me. But maybe these faggots don't have computers so she ain't worried
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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comfront it

then leave her ass

ORRRR

tell her u want to be friends with benifits and pretend u didnt know she cheated..

that way u **** her good without any feelings and walk out

obviously shes a slut and she can be a good **** buddy
 

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How old is she??
 

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The red bumps could just be razor burn and not every girl smells like roses, down there.... especially if it's a hot sticky day, and she hasn't showered in a while so there can be some added funk haha.

And that love you , miss you message is just downright scary. A Gril wouldn't say that to a guy friend. Maybe a close GF or her brother but not some random dude.

If the alarms are going off, I'd say you'd better investigate.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I looked around on her inside thigh and I saw the occasional red bump.
Might be just a rash.

There's this one f*cker that was out of town for the moment and they were talking to each other. My girl said "I just want u to know that I love you and I miss you and see u when you get back". IS THAT NORMAL FOR A GIRL TO SAY TO A GUY FRIEND?
I've had this happen to me (where I was the guy out, and I can say that 90% of the time, she has feelings for the guy. In my case, I didn't have any for her, but aside from that, she probably hasnt' done anything with him, unless it's a old ex...

Next set of messages, she's talking to another male friend (she has female msgs in here also but who cares). She tells him (noted the time that I get there) "I gotta go my friend just came over". OK... I thought I was her BOYFRIEND.
She's just not letting the word out yet.

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But does this b*tch have a cheating problem? Is she cheating?
You have to validate this...
On to the next message, she's tellin this friend to come see her (her mom is not home during the day). Uhmmm.... Now that I think about it, I'm not completely sure if it was a dude, but I'm pretty sure it was.
..but if not, I don't think she's cheating..

Caution is your friend though.
 

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Thanks for the help guys :) Highly appreciated, more welcome

She hasn't let word out yet? It's been 7 months?!?

Hmmm...
 

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She called me twice since I left (left an hour ago). I ignored both calls, still lookin to see what would be best for me to do
 

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I'd def be suspicious too bro- but whatever happens just remember theres plenty of other girls to replace her with if things go bad.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It sounds bad. I would confront her about it but in order to do that you must confess to reading her messages.

A lot of the things you said could have good reason but I would be highly suspicious at her referring to you as a friend. I've known girls who pretend they are single around guys they're interested in and want to keep their options open.

Sorry dude but it does not look good.
 

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I've said it before, this girl is a DJ 4 real (in all areas, which is y I love her). She got all yall saying yall would be "suspicious". But usually when people post about a girl seeming kinda sneaky, everyone would see right thru it and say NEXT

I gotta really start talking to some of her female friends to get them familiar with me. I met her best friend like 5 months ago but never spoke to her again. I'll have to befriend her, along with some others.

I'mma call up this hoe right now, I have a good idea on how I'm going to get the truth (whether good or bad) w/o going to extreme measures (admitting that i looked at her msgs or just getting straight mad)
 

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what i learned from the past that if a girl makes u think twice about her and leaves u with that nasty feeling in ur gut

then shes probably aint worth it.. keeping her longer is killing you slowly..

fuk relationships at a young age..
 

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Well I asked her if she claimed me around everybody, she was like "Duh!" and was getting somewhat defensive and was saying "you ARE my boyfriend".

Damn, iono what to do. It would've been better if I was with her in person to ask so I can look into her eyes and watched her reactions.

Man this is wack. Next call I'mma bring up the subject about guys visiting other guy's GFs and tell her how I ain't feelin that.

Oh and somethin else, I don't think I like eatin p***y. I didn't really like the taste. Maybe it was the stench. YUCK. I don't know if I want to try it again.

I know you'd like to thank your **** don't stank
But lean a little bit closer
See that roses really smell like boo-boo
Yeah, roses really smell like boo-boo
 

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Can you control ya ho?

-Snoop Dogg
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bigg Boss said:
She got all yall saying yall would be "suspicious". But usually when people post about a girl seeming kinda sneaky, everyone would see right thru it and say NEXT
That's because you've been with the girl for 7 months. And in any case nobody on here usually jumps to conclusions that quickly. But from the information you've given us, she hasn't acted sneaky. In fact if you think about it, you wouldn't have known any different if you hadn't eavesdropped on her messages, and you would not be asking any questions right now. My guess is she's just looking for a backup in the event you were to fail, which a lot of girls will do anyway. It's no coincidence that guys always see their ex with another guy like a week later.
 

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I think the bigger question you haven't answered for us is why did you guys break-up the first time around? Secondly, your both 16!!! Relationships at that age are all about gaining experience and having a bf/gf because its the "cool thing to do." You should be out hooking up with tons of girls and hanging out with your good buddies. Save all this relationship drama for later in your life, MUCH LATER!

Lastly, that was really stupid of you to indirectly confront her about everything. If you don't trust her, then you DON'T TRUST HER! You don't need to have proof, be a @sshole to her or snoop through her messages. Just drop her and find a better girl.



PIMP
 

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am I the only one who thinks you shouldn't go reading her messages. I would be really pissed if a girl started reading mine. As others said, you're only 16, don't get too worried. If you have this little trust, you're probably better breaking up and finding someone else.
 
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wtf???

Docs said:
You have to validate this.....but if not, I don't think she's cheating..
lol... you sound like a chump.... if she walks like a duck and talks like a duck its a fcking duck man..


LISTEN MAN... assume the girl is cheating (cause even if shes not the fact that she made you feel the way she did, is already a sign she is not a girl for you, cause you should never feel that way in a "normal" relationship)...

So.. here is what to do... Break up and walk away (confronting doesnt do antying except waste more nerves, i.e. like I said if she made you feel the way you did, its already a relationship that is not for you)... OR, you can do the playa thing, which is, u already know she not for you, so keep hitting it (always knowing this b.tch is not for you) and keep your options open and start collecting new ho's...

yo..listen.. our gut "feeling" is given to us for a reason man, its what kept us alive in the woods (back in the day)...
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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