Situation: Been seeing a girl exclusively for 3 months (I brought up exclusivity), I've met her parents. The other day we were booking a holiday and she refused to call me her boyfriend in the message we sent to one of the hosts. This instilled serious doubt into me.
I was at a friend's the other day and alcohol was involved. I've stayed at hers before but just slept in her guest room, I thought it was platonic.
This time we ended up having sex because she really wanted me. I drank too much and just went in the moment. I didn't enjoy myself because whenever I opened my eyes the girl I wanted to see wasn't there, and it wasn't satisfying at all. After sex I told her what happened and what the situation was. She didn't care because she liked the sex and was very clear that she wants it to happen again. She asked me questions about the other girl and concluded that it was a "situationship" and not serious.
I, on the other hand, realised how much I am actually into the girl I've been seeing, regretted the extracurricular sex with the other one, and will never put myself in a situation where it could happen again. It honestly made me realize I'm in love for the first time in years. (ngl: I'm a little afraid of being in love)
In the meantime, the other girl actually called me her boyfriend and said she hasn't felt this way about anyone ever, including how comfortable she is with me, etc. She does have commitment issues and is still getting used to the fact that people are slowly starting to see us as a couple.
Initially she was super against public displays of affection, but these days we hold hands and even kiss in public, which is not her usual thing.
Now, my now girlfriend is leaving to another country in September and will return in January 2023. I'm not sure what will happen here or if the relationship will survive past this.
She's very young and might want to explore some more guys. Should I keep this indiscretion to myself and simply let her explore a little when/if she brings it up eventually? I'm guessing being away for 4 months will lead to this, I don't know how we will handle it, it's close enough for me to visit a few times, but still will be apart for 1 month + at a time.
What do boys?
I was at a friend's the other day and alcohol was involved. I've stayed at hers before but just slept in her guest room, I thought it was platonic.
This time we ended up having sex because she really wanted me. I drank too much and just went in the moment. I didn't enjoy myself because whenever I opened my eyes the girl I wanted to see wasn't there, and it wasn't satisfying at all. After sex I told her what happened and what the situation was. She didn't care because she liked the sex and was very clear that she wants it to happen again. She asked me questions about the other girl and concluded that it was a "situationship" and not serious.
I, on the other hand, realised how much I am actually into the girl I've been seeing, regretted the extracurricular sex with the other one, and will never put myself in a situation where it could happen again. It honestly made me realize I'm in love for the first time in years. (ngl: I'm a little afraid of being in love)
In the meantime, the other girl actually called me her boyfriend and said she hasn't felt this way about anyone ever, including how comfortable she is with me, etc. She does have commitment issues and is still getting used to the fact that people are slowly starting to see us as a couple.
Initially she was super against public displays of affection, but these days we hold hands and even kiss in public, which is not her usual thing.
Now, my now girlfriend is leaving to another country in September and will return in January 2023. I'm not sure what will happen here or if the relationship will survive past this.
She's very young and might want to explore some more guys. Should I keep this indiscretion to myself and simply let her explore a little when/if she brings it up eventually? I'm guessing being away for 4 months will lead to this, I don't know how we will handle it, it's close enough for me to visit a few times, but still will be apart for 1 month + at a time.
What do boys?
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