"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Chatting up women

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Chatting up women you are not interested in not sure if you guys do it, I do. It puts a smile on the woman's face, I've been talking to a woman I guess she's early 30s found she's married and has kids, she's cute. She works in a department store she notices me right away when I walk in and smiles, now I notice she gives me the look when I walk by and not talk to her.

I know its not a wise idea to be chatting up a married woman, in my previous job I interacted with lots of women through out the day women like talking to me. I had women come up to me to ask questions that they already had answers too I would say if you already knew why did you ask they would giggle and say they wanted to talk to me. The BPD girl I worked with in a dysfunctional relationship with would go ape sh*t when women would talk to me her jealous streak would come out. I made friends with all the female staff at work they loved talking to me when I visited the other departments in the company the women knew me.

I have lots of female friends I know its a cardinal sin, most of them I'm not interested in sexually. What I really like is when good looking women flirt with me and I don't flirt back, I don't like to toot my own horn but I've been told by women that I'm a good looking guy. I encounter quite a few touchy feely women.

Its backfired on me a few times being friendly to women that I'm not totally interested in, one woman I was chatting up, she was doing all the signs of being interested adjusting her clothes, the hair twirling, giggling etc. She has kids and divorced I didn't want to get involved with that mess. She started getting miserable with me I guess because I wasn't reciprocating the same feelings. It took nearly 6 months before she stopped being miserable to me she still smiles and waves when she see's me but I don't see her too often anymore.

I don't mind being friends with women I know its not a wise idea hopefully this dept store girl doesn't get any ideas, no matter how attractive she is women with kids does nothing for me.

Fvcking with women's feelings has burned me big time once already the BPD said I hurt her feelings she was crushed. You guys chat up women for the hell of it ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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