Chasing girl with a guy

[Lancer]

What's everyone's thoughts about chasing a girl that already has a boyfriend? I've read through some of the threads in the forums, and alot of people seem to be saying to just chase her like any other girl, but:

1) If she breaks up with her current guy to hook up with you, isn't that a sign that her loyalty isn't very strong? So what's the point of getting her in the first place?

2) Doesn't it seem morally wrong?

Just seeing what you guys think.

 

[Lancer]

You guys that are just viewing the thread - leave your opinion, eh?

Especially interested in what you more experienced DJs have to say about the first point.. trying to decide what to do in a confusing situation I'm in right now.

 

[jakethasnake]

For me, I just don't do it because the thought of another guy trying to hit on or **** my girl makes me cringe. Think about it. This is totally compromising your integrity. But admittedly, some men are animals with no scruples.

 

[sw20racer]

I try not to step into another guy's territory either... but if the girl is doing most or all of the work, I can't exactly say no. But it does make me aware of how loyal she is to her current boyfriend.

Before I pursue anything serious, I would ask her to break up with her boyfriend first.

 

[Chemistry]

Depends...

View it as either, she got with this guy cos she wanted what a relationship brings but now she's seen you, and you're THAT good, that she wants to break that previous thing off...

For the insecure types this is dangerous territory due to the whole loyalty issues... however for those of us who think we're the greatest thing since sliced bread, it's easily handled in as much as your mind runs on the "Why would she want anyone else when she's got me, and I'm on my game"

Alternatively she might be in the same determined (or shamless) frame of mind that you operate with... she goes after what she wants and holds no real prisoners, altho personally the challenge with these kinda girls is to step in there and have it so that she cannot resist you which will **** her up given her normal style...

I had a thread about a similar thing a few days earlier...

I'm too young for morals... for me, life is about obtaining what it is you want, you don't let the obstacles that appear in your path stop you from gettin it either, but always bear in mind the alternatives and other possibilities to save yourself from becoming obsessive over a goal which in turn ****s you game over...

If you're young and a DJ, have fun... the possibilities are endless, sure when you get a little older you might want to settle down but settlin down now removes a whole bunch of options that you as the ever improving DJ could have explored...

 

[Lancer]

Haha.. well, I am a bit confused in this situation.

I was going out with this girl for a bit, and she seemed totally receptive to all my moves, acting like she didn't have a boy or anything. And then after a few weeks, she just suddenly apologized to me and confessed that she actually had a boyfriend, that she didn't want to tell me in the beginning, that he knew about us, and that he was jealous.

Not sure how to take this one now, didn't notice any decrease in interest level those few weeks. As for my reaction then, I just grinned and shrugged and said "You waiting for me to say something?". She said "You don't need to say anything..." and started rambling.

Oh.. and the dialogue isn't word for word.. just idea-wise, that's what it'll translate to.

What do you guys think? Any clue?

 

[Lancer]

And Ashley, yeah, I'm young, but don't really consider myself as a DJ, just someone who is mixing some DJ elements into his game to move up a level.. personally I am looking more for another LTR than just screwing around with alot of different women.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I'll chime in here. Ok I would never actively pursue a girl with a bf unless she was doing most of th work. That tells you two things:

1- She's unhappy in her current relationship. She's so bored with her current man that she's out looking for a replacement.

2-She's attracted to you, which might make her cheat on her bf but might not lead to anything more for you.

If your game's strong and you have both those elements working for you, then the girl will definitely want you. Girls want a challenge. They want the Alpha Male. When the meet an Alpha Male it turns girls with a tight game into AFC's!! They're not use to the caliber of man that they're dealing with. Someone with such great confidence, humor and attractiveness.

If she's giving you the buying signals then go for it. And like Ashley mentioned I don't think I'd be too worried about her cheating on you as long as your game stays tight. If you get all emotional and mushy then she'll ditch you too.

With your case I'm thinking she told you about her bf because she doesn't want to lead you on. Have you guys hooked up, had sex or even kissed??? Give us more detail on the the situation.




PIMP

 

[honeyshark]

I have pursued girls with boyfriends, and it never worked for me. Here are the problems/things that I came up with.

1) if the boyfriend lives in the same area, the girl's time is usually tied up in activities involving him, which limits you.

2) on the otherhand, if she is in a long distance relationship, this helps you out. Chicks in long distance relationships (at least in college) tend to not go out as much and associate mostly with large groups of female friends, from my experience. Thus, there is less competition.

3) often, the chick feels the need to let you know that she has a boyfriend. This might be because she doesn't want you or she doesn't want to feel guilty for cheating because you knew the consequences.

4) sometimes, when a chick tells you she has a boyfriend, she will assume that your subsequent advances are friendly only, and not sexual in nature, because obviously, she has a boyfriend already. Thus, you have to be less subtle to avoid that friend zone.

5) I am theorizing that faster seductions would be better in the case of trying to cheat. This gives the girl less time to think about the moral issues and negative consequences involved with cheating. On the flip side, you need enought time to build rapport, make her feel comfortable, and isolate her.

6) I don't know anyone who has stolen a girlfriend or boyfriend from someone and has been able to make the relationship last more than one night. I am not sure it really happens.

7) you have to weight the moral issues involved. Cheating and causing others to cheat is not for everyone. I didn't have moral qualms when I was trying to get with chicks who have boyfriends in long distance relationships, but I kinda do now. If you are shakely on the issues, play it safe and don't cheat because I know people who cheated and they regret it immensely.

Peace.

 

[Reto]

Originally posted by Lancer
What's everyone's thoughts about chasing a girl that already has a boyfriend? I've read through some of the threads in the forums, and alot of people seem to be saying to just chase her like any other girl, but:

1) If she breaks up with her current guy to hook up with you, isn't that a sign that her loyalty isn't very strong? So what's the point of getting her in the first place?

2) Doesn't it seem morally wrong?

Just seeing what you guys think.

1) No. Her interest level has dropped with the old, and increased with the new.

2) No. AS long as she is not married or engaged. No ring. No problem.