"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Chasing a girl Vs Persistence

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DEEZEDBRAH

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Personally and philosophically I don't think persistence works in the modern age as it once did.
Persistence and assertiveness was once seen as attractive by women pre 90's, but these days, can often be misconstrued or thought differently in the age of feminism and societal programming in todays world that is different than what once was.

Being persistent back then meant you had drive, balls, guts, commitment, assertiveness, ambition when it came to girls and they were turned on by those traits because it signaled to them that they knew what you wanted and were willing to pursue it like a man, which they knew also crossed over into various things in life. But in today's society, those same things can often be mistaken or understood as being creepy, stalking, thirsty, desperate, aggressive, too direct, etc.

These days, a man has to be sensitive and notice the IOI's and as others said, determine if there is high interest from the girls to proceed.
As many have said above, it boils down to awareness of your situation/dynamics/calibration. It's just more of an art form to dance around to gauge and get what you're seeking more so than before.

It used to be back in the day, that women purposely played hard to get but that didn't mean she didn't like you where as now, any form of low interest should pretty much mean moving on if you don't want to chase as there isn't really anything you can do by being persistent if the other person isn't willing to meet you halfway on things. As it's no longer the man choosing the women in today's society. My $.02
Its ****ed. My grandfather pursued my grandmother incessantly before winning her over. She is shy. Never had a bf. My grandfather was a gunslinger. Fought in the war. He killed a man. A real bad ass. It was a different time. He is a relic of once upon a time. The greatest generation is fire.
 

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This is spot on
Jordan Peterson used the ying yang symbol for an analogy. He talked about the snake line between the two as being what separates chaos from order. Life and death. There's no better example to portray that FINE LINE OF pursuing and simping. Approaching vs chasing. Mystery methods very dated in 2020 but the sure fire metrics by which to evaluate interest level is compliance. There's no alternative than setting pace. Dropping breadcrumbs and leading her back to your gingerbread house or #next
 

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Persistence/chasing CAN work but who but a thirsty dog would actually employ it? I wouldn't. My ego is too big
 
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