Chased

[wifehunter]

A little history...

A lady at a store I frequent... Six months ago, came off needy at first, because my life situation left me with low confidence. Months in, got my DJ bearings back. Asked her out, got the "I'm busy" line (because of my previous pathetic neediness). Decided to keep talking to her anyway (see her once a week).

Thing go well ,she is very positive and encouraging, then find out she has a boyfriend. To be expected. Decided to go "No Contact" to see her agenda... six weeks later she's chasing (trying to get my attention in the store, then bolting) Not sure, how long to let this go on until I ask her for a chat (my own version of an uncompicated date)
Thinking of holding her at peak interest level for awhile to make sure this isn't some kind of ego validation. Not sure how long, or if I should just feel it out?
Opinions?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Your name is wifehunter so i feel like you shouldn't care as to whether or not she has a boyfriend lol.
As to advice, i dont think that anything can really come of this. Dont fret though, that means you can feel free to experiment with anything even remotely close to a DJ skillset or social skills in general. Shoot, maybe things will even go south in her current relationship and go north with you. Don't overthink things man, she's just a woman at a store you frequent. Have fun, and just do you.

 

[Reykhel]

A little history...

A lady at a store I frequent... Six months ago, came off needy at first, because my life situation left me with low confidence. Months in, got my DJ bearings back. Asked her out, got the "I'm busy" line (because of my previous pathetic neediness). Decided to keep talking to her anyway (see her once a week).

Thing go well ,she is very positive and encouraging, then find out she has a boyfriend. To be expected. Decided to go "No Contact" to see her agenda... six weeks later she's chasing (trying to get my attention in the store, then bolting) Not sure, how long to let this go on until I ask her for a chat (my own version of an uncompicated date)
Thinking of holding her at peak interest level for awhile to make sure this isn't some kind of ego validation. Not sure how long, or if I should just feel it out?
Opinions?

Personal pronouns man.....I thought in the first sentence you were saying she came off needy.......

Now, this is a nothing incident that you shouldn't be given a second thought to...

I thought you just finished reading Corey Wayne's book? Well let's see.....Corey Wayne is a a rip off of Doc Love's the System, so let's look at this through the eyes of the System...

To proceed with a woman (this is assuming you are on Relationship strategy)
1. She and you must pass the physical attraction test
2. She must have at least 51% interest level in you..
3. She must be available....

how many of the above three apply to your above scenario??

You say you asked her out........and her response was "I'm busy"......do you need a translation for that.........a clue......doesn't sound like interest level.......(I would be interested to know
what you said to her when you asked her out???)

She's very positive and encouraging?? what the hell does that mean? She works in a store....she's supposed to be polite to customers...

She has a boyfriend and she said she was busy when you asked her out......in other words....
no counter offer....To quote the good old Doc (the original motherfvcking red piller I might add)....Doesn't this turkey get the drift?

 

[wifehunter]

Personal pronouns man.....I thought in the first sentence you were saying she came off needy.......

Now, this is a nothing incident that you shouldn't be given a second thought to...

I thought you just finished reading Corey Wayne's book? Well let's see.....Corey Wayne is a a rip off of Doc Love's the System, so let's look at this through the eyes of the System...

To proceed with a woman (this is assuming you are on Relationship strategy)
1. She and you must pass the physical attraction test
2. She must have at least 51% interest level in you..
3. She must be available....

how many of the above three apply to your above scenario??

You say you asked her out........and her response was "I'm busy"......do you need a translation for that.........a clue......doesn't sound like interest level.......(I would be interested to know
what you said to her when you asked her out???)

She's very positive and encouraging?? what the hell does that mean? She works in a store....she's supposed to be polite to customers...

She has a boyfriend and she said she was busy when you asked her out......in other words....
no counter offer....To quote the good old Doc (the original motherfvcking red piller I might add)....Doesn't this turkey get the drift?

I've been at this red pill stuff, since 1997. Drift taken, and I'm not surprised. So, I walked away... Apparently she's not going to let me walk away that easily. I'm sure time will tell, and will spin other plates for now. Just wanted to see different perspectives, for entertainment and reinforcement purposes. Thanks!!!

 

[wifehunter]

Your name is wifehunter so i feel like you shouldn't care as to whether or not she has a boyfriend

The fvck that I give, is nonexistent. I just needed an excuse to walk away to see if she is, just being polite.

 

[wifehunter]

Update, after going ghost for 3 months, she's put herself in my path 5 times now. But, not saying a word. I'm thinking about saying "hi"... LOL!!! Women are so silly!

 

[wifehunter]

Continuing to think and wonder if there is an opportunity with her, becomes old to me. Quit wondering already and just ask her out or "to chat," as you do. End the thinking and wondering already. Find out and move on. If there is mutual attraction and interest it will be clear. If there isn't, you have lost zero, zilch, nada. She's out of your head and your on with your life. Don't let women like this perpetually occupy space in your head. If it works out, great. If not, great, as you went for found out and are moving on. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. My perception is you are indifferent enough to ask her out and not care is she goes or doesn't and if something comes or doesn't. If you are not indifferent, get busy and address that too.

You nailed it!!! Thanks!