Chase Dat Skuht's Realization Journal: A pursuit to a girlfriend

[Chase Dat Skuht]

I'm fed up, I have the knowledge it's time to become serious and put it to work.

This journal will consist of information I learn after failing over and over again. I've noticed in the past after failing to attract a girl the areas I messed up on and it is obvious. For example I became too needy, or showed too much interest too soon, etc.

In my pursuits to getting my first girlfriend, I will record the areas that I failed in so that I may self improve and learn from mistakes.

I may post a short story about what happen, where I went wrong, and some realizations or epiphanies that I had. I have the information, its just a matter of putting it to work and making it become a natural habit.

This is not a pursuit to lose my virginity, no, it is my pursuit to get a girl friend. I'm not looking for a ONS necessarily.

Input will be greatly appreciated on my journey, this is why I'm making this public. I could just keep a personal journal but I would love peoples input along the way.

Thanks for reading this, and I will have my first post up shortly

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Feburary 13, 2007

• Showing Legitimate Interest is Death
  - A girl at work has been showing me interest in the past. I never really was interested in her. I decided that I would try to go out with her and I showed too much interest way too quick, I was available too often, and I changed when attempting to get her go out with me.
• Run Routine on all girls, interested in them or not
  - Can't have enough practice
• Bro's before hoes at all times
  - I need to be busy. If I am with my friends I need t obe with my friends and tell her I wil lcall her back later or something
• Have fun
  - I need to not be so serious. I need to have a good time and goof around
• If busy, BE BUSY
  - Dont stop what youre doing for a chick. If youre busy you need to be busy
• Hangout time/dates is her interview
  - I was looking at a date as an opportunity to get her to like me. This is backward. I need to use dates as giving them an opportunity to show themselves off to me so I can decide who I like the best and chose.
• There are so many friggin' options
  - So many options, dont obsess over one
• Of course she likes you, do NOT obsess over her
  - Again, dont obsess. No reason
• Control your Testosterone
  - Know your testosterone is there and embrace it, do not let it control you
• Be playful
  - Have fun, girls want to feel youthful, flirt, playfully hit, etc
• Self improve and run routine on everyone to filter
  - Find out who likes your self improved self
• Care free flirting
  - Have a good time, flirting is human interaction
• Be decisive
  - You have a choice, just pick one. Indecisivness is a turn off
• CONFIDANCE, not ARROGANCE
  - There is a fine line
• Show only mild interest, she's one of many choices
  - Again, too much interest too soon is never good. You want to tease her with your attention. Show a mild interest to get her attention but tease her with it. This allows her to become confused and more interested
• Picking up girls, less effort gives better results
  - The only time in life where the less you try the better your results are

The previous things are all things that I've come to realize in the passed maybe two weeks.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Off to a good start. I read your points and agree with all of them. Good luck in your quest. I think you're going to motivate me to start a journal as well.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Good journal idea. I've never had a girlfriend myself and I'm also a virgin and much older than you are.

Although I dont want to lose my virginity either, at times, I get so frustrated at my lack of success of finding a girlfriend (i.e. not having one in the past 30 years), that I decide there is no right person out there for me and I can lose my virginity with anyone because there is no 'just world'. The last time I felt like that was in November 2006 - but it expired on November 30th, 2006, so I'm ok now.

I'm looking for a girlfriend too and dont want to lose my virginity. Your journal will inspire me to do so.

I also add my own entry:

I'm seeing a girl from Nigeria last Saturday, and had my second date with her.

She suggested we meet again in Mississauga during her reading week.

I've seen her twice so far. The first date ended with a kiss. The second date was a bit choppier, but I was more of myself and portrayed myself a bit negative pertaining to relationships and people I meet from the internet in the past. Didn't get a kiss at the end of the second date as she said "Let's save it for next time." when I tried.

Why did she say that the second time I dont know, but I still got a kiss on first date so that's cool. I'm planning to set something up next week, and see where it goes.

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Thanks both of your for your support and input.

Luke, and everyone, feel free to put in some entry's here as well. I'd like to read them.

Good luck both of you guys and keep coming with the support. When I learn some more stuff I will put another entry.They probably wont be too often however, so in the mean time we could have some discussion. My entries are of what I learn after fail a whole bunch, so it takes a bit.

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Febrary 15, 2007

More in depth realization on gaming all types of girls and having a backup chick.


By running routine on all girls whether or not youre attracted to them, you get practice as well as offering youself a ton of back up chicks. What happen to me recently is I became attracted to a girl who when I first met wasnt attracted to her and treated her like a friend, at this point it was too late. I entered the friend zone and its not worth trying to get out of. It is tough to realize that I screwed my chances. It just kind of bothers me. However there are a ton more girls around who are hotter.

So practice on all girls whether or not youre attracted to them. There are numorous benefits

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Thanks Brak. All I really ask is for people to post any suggestions that they have in the future when I put in entries.

Stay tuned

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

February 16, 2007

Today I was in a very good mood for whatever reason. I was full of energy and just happy.

There's a HB w/ a bf who I stuck up for one time when she was getting verbally punished by some dudes in my class. She's likeed me (friend wise) ever since. She was bragging to her current bf before going out how I did that for her. I'm assuming she was showing him social proof or something.

Keep in mind that her bf is my friend, Im no t trying to break them up. I'm trying to get a backup chick slash become the backup guy for when they do breakup. No hurry.

Today I nudged her (playfully) with my arm/shoulder and kind of knocked her off balance when walking by. I had a big smile on so she would know I was just playin.

I'm going to talk to her more, start to hang out with her, kino more often and see what happens

We sit next to eachother in one of our classes

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

February 19, 2007


Last night I was bored, called up a friend who was with a chick he's been fooling around with, a foreign girl, a girl from a different school I havent seen for a while, and his girls cousin.

So I see he's with his chick and some other chicks too, I ask if he wants to chill. I meet him downtown. He was with his HB and that was it. I kind of felt bad, I didnt want to be the third wheel. I ask where the chicks are that I dont know, and he said they went to a restaurant. We go and meet them and pick up one girl. Now I've known her in the passed. Never really found her attractive.

I reminded my self to flirt with everyone. I flirted very mildly with my friends HB, I'm not trying to get in his way... and I teased the crap out of this other girl and flirted a bit. We were laughing a lot, having a good time smoking and stuff.

Now I wasnt trying to hook up with this chick, I was practicing more. So anyway, the point of this post is to show that I was putting my realizations to the test and it's been working out better

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

February 20, 2007




Last night I left a myspace message with a HB asking if we're going to smoke in the near future and telling her I was off untill wednesday. She replied saying she had a lot to do tuesday but she was totally down.

Around 5:00 today she called me saying she had untill 6:30, I went ahead and shut her down tellign her I'd chill with her next time I dont have work. I needed to cash my check in order to buy what we needed and the bank was closed anyway. She kind of was persistant saying that she had money but we just didnt have the stuff, I told her that I'm thinkin we'll chill when I dont work and that I didnt mind paying for it.

(I invited her to smoke, I ought to pay)

She sounded kind of bummed. Welp, she'll be ready tro hang out asap then


Edit: Btw, she's got a bf who she seems like she really likes. has tons of pictures of them together, kissing, etc. But for some reason she is very flirty with other guys as well, and I think she's cheated on him. He's kind of a buddy of mine so I'm not trying to get her to cheat. I plan to just plant my seed and not make a move untill she's single.. as I would with any girl with a boyfriend. Casual flirting, sexual tension, just a good time.

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

February 20, 2007

A quick realization I had today:

• Girls are pumbled with AFC's

- I know so much more than a majority of the dudes at school. I saw some guy apologizing to a HB for not being talkative saying he gets really shy sometimes.

Dudes just become llittle p*ssies around attractive girls. Knowing that I am comfortable and that I am different then those losers gives me confidence that it is only a matter of time untill I succeed :rock:

 

[AbsolutBeirut]

Just curious, what is the routine you are using on all these girls? how effective has it been? Hopefully, you can get feedback here on directions you go with it.

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Just curious, what is the routine you are using on all these girls? how effective has it been? Hopefully, you can get feedback here on directions you go with it.

My whole routine is all due to self improvement. Everything that I dotowards girls is all natural. Some of it successful, some of it not. This is how I learn.

I dont live by formula's, I'm more interested in becoming natural and making success a habit. C&F, sure a nice little thing to sprinkle in, neg hits, sure, whatever. I dont really use them. I dont think it's necessary in high school... or even at all. I am still learning though.


There is no planned out routine I use on girls when I'm hanging out with them at all. It is all played on my feet. I really just tease, flirt, and try to have a good time. I've realized how stupid girls conversations are. I've realized how girls talk to eachother. They really understand eachother, they know how the other girl is feeling.

For example, HB1 and HB2 were having a conversation and I was listening. HB1 is going on about how her ex bought her all this stuff such as a lift ticket, a huge lunch, flowers, etc to try to get her back. I laughed with them. asked HB1 questions to verify that I was hearing this story correctly because I "was so interested" and I really "understood how she felt".

I did not offer any help on how to get the guy to leave her alone, I understood why she was creeped out by him, I laughed at him with her.

So I've sort of been rambling on, maybe a little off subject. But really, please for the love of God if yo uwant to be successful with women go the self improvement route instead of the trying to seduce route. The speed seduction formulas are good little tips for newbs to understand sort of how girls work, but really the focus needs to be on oneself eventually.

Read some of Pooks stuff. Infact, get the Book of Pook compiled by Gubby. You'll find it on the DJ Bible site.

Pook really focuses on the big picture, and for me personally and I would hope for others, is what really matters.

Oh, and to answer how effective my routines have been, I have yet to get a girlfriend. That is what this journal is working towards. I have yet to been laid as well. I believe that I have thw knowledge and this journal will hopefulyl allow me to put it to work by getting peoples motivation and support on this forum

I have succeded in the sense that I am able to be comfortable and have fun around any girls of any shapes, sizes, looks, and all that. This is a stepping stone I suppose

being as I am focusing on the big picture rather then a quick lay, I can expect it to take a bit to succeed. I'm on a quest for a girlfriend, not a lay

Have a good night!

-CDS

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

Examples of creepy:

Strangers touching me.

Following me around/keep talking to me even though I'm clearly not interested.

Suggestive conversation from someone I don't know.

Blatantly staring at various parts of my body.

Standing too close/breaching the personal bubble.

Obsessive tendencies.

I wanted to take this in to consideration from a girl on this forum and decipher the fine line between creepiness and success. The thread this was in was closed.

"Strangers touching me"

There's a fine line between casual touching, and working up to more touching. If you apply too much kino it WILL come off creepy.

"Following me around/keep talking to me even though I'm clearly not interested."

If you messed up to start with and you keep at it, it could look desperate. A fine line betweet desperation and persistance.

"Suggestive conversation from someone I don't know."

Needs to be eased into, this actually goes along with something that happen to me today. I was at school a while back and a couple girls walked by me in my locker, I was finishign up some work in a lawn chair that I had unfolded out of my locker. They comminted on it, and I said that they could sit on my lap if they wanted. I was totally joking, they wern't attractive, I was just messin around. I could see how this could be creepy though.

"Blatantly staring at various parts of my body."

This needs to be done when they wont catch you.

"Standing too close/breaching the personal bubble."

Ease into it again, you dont want a stranger up in your grill you arent attracted to.

"Obsessive tendencies."

Creepy.


A lot of this information goes along with a theory I came up with.

"CDS's Global Warming Theory"


I will elaborate more later on this

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Let me contribute a few entries of my own:

Wed, February 21, at 12:00 pm, went out with an office collegue to lunch at an Indian buffet and she paid for it (although I'll have to pay for it next time).
Just asked her out on Monday and followed it through for Wednesday.

Thurs, Feb 22 - was supposed to go mini-golfing with the Nigerian girl I meet from the net but had to cancel as I had to show some clients a couple of homes and that really threw me off balance. I would have to travel a good 30 min on the highway and would be too tight for time to carry through to have a comfortable date.

Friday, Feb 23, plan to take a female friend out later on tonight.

No plans on the weekend so far.

Last Sunday - number closed a girl at church, but haven't followed up on it.

Another prospect on my list want to ask out for Chinese Buffet (the other gal I took out to buffet doesn't like Chinese buffet so I'm going to ask another girl - I made it a policy that I'm not going to a buffet without a girl so I'm really motivated to ask out women on these dates).

Well, will update on how this all goes. I'm going to see where the Nigarian girl goes.

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

March 1, 2007

My realization for today is simple. Everyone has insecurities. Some mask there insecurities by being *******s (playfully/seriously) towards others.

Their insequrites usually come out to me when I'm with them and theyre on some type of drug, whether ot be smoking or drinking.

I need to make sure to not be an ******* because to mature girls it will look like I'm insecure. I'm not sure with the immature highschool girls because these guys seem to have girlfreinds. I know my mother who's almost 40 is always commenting on how insecure the dudes are who make fun of guys. I dont know if high school girls realize this yet or not. She calls me out on it when I make fun of someone on tv.

Anyway, we'll see.

g'day

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

March 15, 2007


There is a german foreign exchanged student in my drama class who's pretty cute. I wrote a short story which envolved a lot of innocent kino, a lot of touching as a couple of close people would do. I chose the cute one out of the group to be the "girlfriend" in the scene. Me being the boyfriend.


We were able to gain a lot of rapport this way so we were forced to become comfortable with eachother touching wise.

The other day I saw her looking at me once in a while, i just sort of smiled at her.

I decided that I'd try to hook up with her. So today, I got her attention, I asked her outloud "Do you smoke..." then I whispered weed being as its illegal and we're in high school with the teacher sitting there next to us. This caused her to come closer to see what I said.

She said no, I asked her if she never has at all because i didnt believe her. She said she hadnt in america. I asked why, and she said because no one has gave it to her. Then I told her that I was off today, and I would smoke her out. I asked her she wanted to, this whole time with a smile on, and she gave me a "sure" gesture and a nod then the class started.

After class I sort of stalled outside pretending to text or play with my phone, I looked up and she was waiting for me to mention it again. I smiled at her, and asked her if she wanted to smoke. She took my phone out of my hand and didnt answer me when I asked when she was doing. I noticed she was putting her number in so I just waited.

She then handed me my phone back, told me she had golf and that she should be done by 5:00. I told her I would call her another day.

Tommorow I work, so chillin after school wont work but im thinkin this weekend.

Anyway, first time I got a number from a girl who I believe might be interested. We'll see what happens

 

[MrS]

what the **** is Skuht?

 

[Chase Dat Skuht]

what the **** is Skuht?

I appreciate all your pointless posts, big guy