"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJ_Trainee_10

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Keep your head up.

Things should come natural, don't rely solely on all these DJ tips and guides.

Be yourself.

If you have an optimal outlook on it you'll have optimal results.

Don't let yourself down.

"You'll never fail in life (dating :D), as long as you keep picking yourself up."
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Read them all. Listen to the ones that apply. heh.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Quagmire911

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It doesnt sound like you have a good state of mind. Try thinking less about your friend who you say is a "natural". What DJ_trainee said is true about things being natural. When you are natural you are authentic and girls like this. They dont like an act and many can tell pretty quickly if you are not being yourself. So just be yourself and your own person and think about your own problems and how best you can solve them. Instead of feeling annoyed and frustrated at your friend getting girls, be happy for him. The only life you have control off is your own, so quit worrying about what you cant control, and start acting on what you can.

Quagmrie
 

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If he can get girls and you cant, try modelling him. He has qualities that attract girls to him, you dont. Model certain things that he does and see how they work for you. Then tweak them a bit if you want to so you can have your own style. Try this: when you go to a party where you dont know everyone go introduce yourself and talk to them for a little bit. Try to me EVERYONE THERE! Have a small conversation then move on to the next one. Stay in a light relaxed mood so you have a good time doing this. When you get to the first girl, use it as a warm up for the other girls. Try out a line youve wanted to use or be c&f, anything you would normally hesitate about. If its not going well leave and talk to another girl. By now you should be more comfortable talking to the female species. Ask her questions about her life, it helps if you actually kinda remotely give a fvck. Thats where the charm comes in. Just because you can talk to girls doesnt make you charming. Charming them is caring about what they say(or at least making them think so), making them feel good about themselves and telling them what they want to hear(dont be a b*tch and supplicate to them, just say things that gets the panties wet).
 

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Ya as you can see in the convo he put he used a PUA element, just he doesn't know that because he is a natural and never been to any seduction sites I hope. But yes he seems to know what he is doing.

Also I'm not going to bother saying wat element he used but he sure did. From looks of it he probably does mini cold reads too.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
If he can get girls and you cant, try modelling him. He has qualities that attract girls to him, you dont. Model certain things that he does and see how they work for you. Then tweak them a bit if you want to so you can have your own style. Try this: when you go to a party where you dont know everyone go introduce yourself and talk to them for a little bit. Try to me EVERYONE THERE! Have a small conversation then move on to the next one. Stay in a light relaxed mood so you have a good time doing this. When you get to the first girl, use it as a warm up for the other girls. Try out a line youve wanted to use or be c&f, anything you would normally hesitate about. If its not going well leave and talk to another girl. By now you should be more comfortable talking to the female species. Ask her questions about her life, it helps if you actually kinda remotely give a fvck. Thats where the charm comes in. Just because you can talk to girls doesnt make you charming. Charming them is caring about what they say(or at least making them think so), making them feel good about themselves and telling them what they want to hear(dont be a b*tch and supplicate to them, just say things that gets the panties wet).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Distant Light

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all those sh!ts that the asf people do.

PUA = Pick up artist

As in elements i just mean what is the seduction behind it. For example you said "Nice nails are they real" the element would be Neg Theory. Same thing with saying a C&F remark the element would be C&F.
 
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