Charm and Charisma

[check_mate_kid_uk]

good posdt but i have 1 point to make, and geo i invite you to answer this, or any 1 who thinks they can.

this seems like a good dicpription of charisma, but how would you be able to teaste a girl and be charimatic at the same time. These to things do not go together yet are both vital, how can you do both, it doesnt seem like you can do both at the same time.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

I do not at all think that teasing and charisma don't go together. Not sure where you'd get that impression.

You can tease someone and still be fun, confident, accepting and positive, especially if you're also known for aiming your wit at yourself from time to time as well.

In what ways do you believe that charisma and teasing don't work together?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

WHO THE HELL IS POOK, I SEE HIM MENTIONED IN NEARLY EVERY THREAD IN WICH HE HASNT POSTED !

 

[AFK Protector]

1) Pook is the guy who's written a lot of great articles. Use the search button to find some and if you've readthe DJBible, you'd know about him. AND LAY OFF THE CAPS

2) Gio, I thought you were just a mean, cynical bastard, but I now you're an insightful, mean, cynical bastard.

3) CHRISTMAS!! WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I do not at all think that teasing and charisma don't go together. Not sure where you'd get that impression.

You can tease someone and still be fun, confident, accepting and positive, especially if you're also known for aiming your wit at yourself from time to time as well.

In what ways do you believe that charisma and teasing don't work together?

it depnds what kind of teasing, if its not giving her what she wants then that probably goes well with the charisma, but when you tease by saying somthing simular to a neg hit, this is not charismatic.

P.S on the other hand im starting to think that neg-hits or any teasing that if you did to much you would be thought of as a jerk, is actuly not good except for emergencys or come backs.

Im re-evaluating them, possibly thinking that although C&F still has a major place in my game, i may some what kick out teasing that is simular to neg hitting. (im not confusing teasing and neg hitting, i just can not think of an example of they type of neg-hitting im talking about, its the kind where she may say "your mean" you do nto want to do that too much because i have seen that girls go crazy for you at first and very quickly start to dislike you.)

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
it depnds what kind of teasing, if its not giving her what she wants then that probably goes well with the charisma, but when you tease by saying somthing simular to a neg hit, this is not charismatic.

P.S on the other hand im starting to think that neg-hits or any teasing that if you did to much you would be thought of as a jerk, is actuly not good except for emergencys or come backs.

Im re-evaluating them, possibly thinking that although C&F still has a major place in my game, i may some what kick out teasing that is simular to neg hitting. (im not confusing teasing and neg hitting, i just can not think of an example of they type of neg-hitting im talking about, its the kind where she may say "your mean" you do nto want to do that too much because i have seen that girls go crazy for you at first and very quickly start to dislike you.)

The other day my office had an after-hours Christmas party which I decided not to go to for various reasons (busy with other stuff, mostly). All day long people were asking me if I was going to this Christmas party. When one girl asked me that, this is how the conversation went.

GIRL1: Are you going to the Christmas party today, Gio?
GIO: *grinning* Nope.
GIRL1: Aww... why not?
GIO: *still smiling, joking* I don't like any of you people.
GIRL1: (teasing) You're an assh*le.
GIO: Don't you think I see you people enough as it is?

GIRL2 overheard convo....

GIRL2: (teasing) Oh, you just wander into the office whenever you feel like it... Mister get here at noon.
GIO: I see you guys more than enough.
GIRL2: You only see us for like half a day most of the time.
GIO: *still joking* And that's more than enough.

That whole conversation, I was saying things that could have been considered mean, but I did it in a way that was fun and charismatic. I teased them, I told them that I don't like them and I see them more than enough, but they walked away just thinking I was funny... and with Girl2, wanting to be part of a conversation she wasn't initially involved in.

This is the sort of way you can tease and still be charismatic.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
The other day my office had an after-hours Christmas party which I decided not to go to for various reasons (busy with other stuff, mostly). All day long people were asking me if I was going to this Christmas party. When one girl asked me that, this is how the conversation went.

GIRL1: Are you going to the Christmas party today, Gio?
GIO: *grinning* Nope.
GIRL1: Aww... why not?
GIO: *still smiling, playful* I don't like any of you people.
GIRL1: (teasing) You're an assh*le.
GIO: Don't you think I see you people enough as it is?

GIRL2 overheard convo....

GIRL2: (teasing) Oh, you just wander into the office whenever you feel like it... Mister get here at noon.
GIO: I see you guys more than enough.
GIRL2: You only see us for like half a day most of the time.
GIO: *still playful* And that's more than enough.

That whole conversation, I was saying things that could have been considered mean, but I did it in a way that was fun and charismatic. I teased them, I told them that I don't like them and I see them more than enough, but they walked away just thinking I was funny... and with Girl2, wanting to be part of a conversation she wasn't initially involved in.

This is the sort of way you can tease and still be charismatic.

you no what, this seemed good at first, when yuo said i dont like you people. BUt when you keep saying i see you enough anyway, i think thats genrally not a good thing to say, because when you say i dont like you its obvious its a joke, when you keep saying i see you to much, that seems more negative then joking!

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
you no what, this seemed good at first, when yuo said i dont like you people. BUt when you keep saying i see you enough anyway, i think thats genrally not a good thing to say, because when you say i dont like you its obvious its a joke, when you keep saying i see you to much, that seems more negative then joking!

Trust me, it was fine.

 

[hacx]

AWESOME!!!!!!!

 

[DJKLWannaB]

Good mind stimulator Gio...Congrats. I'm a new kid-DJ wanna b on the block...

Last night I was in a party with full of airlines chics..all the stewardesses. At one time before the start of party where I see so many pretty chics, sitting alone at a table of 10, I actually felt low. Then, I told myself, I gotto smile so I just practised smiling. After nearly an hour there were 7 solid chics came sat on the same table. My eyes were rolling faster than my heart beat. Throughout the party I had so much fun dancing and talking and being so witty and teasing...ya I waz teasing the least good looking girl in the group to make her feel happy and wanting that all her other friends join in and had fun. I got the least good looking girl's number and I gave my number right infront of the rest and guess what....the best looking girl sent me an sms saying I was so sweet and TaDaaaaa, I have her number too now.

I concur with some of you especially Gio on teasing and being positive and doin what ever you feel like, dancing to beats however you like is so much easy and yet transmits your core fun self. Being charismatic, I don't know how and I personally think it should be simple and one should not work hard at it. Just be simple, ooze who u r inside and I think you can be a magnet. I am still learning and would like to thank all of you DJs and So Suave for you guys make others' life richer.
May I contribute Always............and d DJ force b with me.....

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
The other day my office had an after-hours Christmas party which I decided not to go to for various reasons (busy with other stuff, mostly). All day long people were asking me if I was going to this Christmas party. When one girl asked me that, this is how the conversation went.

GIRL1: Are you going to the Christmas party today, Gio?
GIO: *grinning* Nope.
GIRL1: Aww... why not?
GIO: *still smiling, playful* I don't like any of you people.
GIRL1: (teasing) You're an assh*le.
GIO: Don't you think I see you people enough as it is?

GIRL2 overheard convo....

GIRL2: (teasing) Oh, you just wander into the office whenever you feel like it... Mister get here at noon.
GIO: I see you guys more than enough.
GIRL2: You only see us for like half a day most of the time.
GIO: *still playful* And that's more than enough.

That whole conversation, I was saying things that could have been considered mean, but I did it in a way that was fun and charismatic. I teased them, I told them that I don't like them and I see them more than enough, but they walked away just thinking I was funny... and with Girl2, wanting to be part of a conversation she wasn't initially involved in.

This is the sort of way you can tease and still be charismatic.

grrr

 

[Jariel]

Excellent summary!!

 

[AFK Protector]

5 stars wewt

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

i dunno gio, if you were a true dj you woulda had them both right there on your desk, and then said you prob wont be going to the christmas party.

 

[AFK Protector]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
i dunno gio, if you were a true dj you woulda had them both right there on your desk, and then said you prob wont be going to the christmas party.

He probably did have them like that. But penkitten is here so he kinda went from X rated to PG. Sneaky bastard

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by AFK Protector
He probably did have them like that. But penkitten is here so he kinda went from X rated to PG. Sneaky bastard

thats a shame.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

The example above, I don't think that was really charisma, that was more basic ****y and funny mixed in with some confidence. Charisma is the power to move a person, the power to relay a message so clear that the one listening will see and believe it as the one speaking.

I've realized that this is something that one can't just learn overnight. It takes more than just practice too. It takes wits and brains for charisma to truly flourish in a person.

Yes, the things said in the original post do pertain to charisma and will help out, but even with those things you might not come off charismatic. You truly have to believe in what you say and feel, else it'll come off weak.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
The example above, I don't think that was really charisma

The example above wasn't supposed to be "charisma" (charisma cannot be demonstrated in a written conversation). However, it was done while maintaining the aspects of charisma in the original post. Just because you're teasing or being sarcastic or whatever doesn't mean you cannot be charismatic as well, as long as you are not actually being mean, negative, etc.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

thats weird i always feel charisma on the forums !

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
i dunno gio, if you were a true dj you woulda had them both right there on your desk, and then said you prob wont be going to the christmas party.

if he had them both on his desk, then i he would be an azzhole.