Charisma

[Sart]

When you read the posts in here, it isn't difficult to spot those people who have, and those people who have not, got charisma. Englishcrap is a good example of someone who lacks charisma. The problem, as I see it, is that you can't really teach charisma per se. I think people can develop it over time, due to winning and beating lifes challenges. The quiet, non charismatic blokes who are introverted need to play THEIR strengths because they would have some. Might be looks or intelligence or "whatever".

I don't think we should try to teach a greyhound to be a thoroughbred horse, we should help them by getting them to appreciate themselves. So, perhaps these blokes could list their strengths rather than their weaknesses and we could help them play their strengths? Just a thought.

 

[englishcrap]

Hey Sart,

Your correct. I need learn to be more charismatic. When I talk to women in clubs I say "Hi How u doing" "Where u from" then the conversation dries out and I dont know how to use jokes and stuff to make them laugh.

In London you cant just say "Hey how u doing" to girls in pubs and bars u gotta be funny with them or they shoot u down.

I think that I need work on this aspect of my personality. I am not fat or anything and have a reasonable build and not bad looking.

 

[diplomatic_lie]

Quite, introverted people aren't necessary uncharismatic.

Jack Welch was seen to be a quiet person. But when he talks, people listen.

 

[wildchild]

Theres this guy i know and i know he is a bit of an ******* he hardly ever talks but when he does people listen. Its because the things he say are intelligent or funny in some way even tho he is quiet people wanna be around him and have lots of respect for him. You can be quiet and confident and people will be drawn to you.

 

[Caldus]

What one person perceives as charisma others won't.

 

[Sart]

yes, but

I see what you're saying caldrus, its not necessarily empirical however some people are perceived as charismatic generally, more than others. Not every woman inds Brad Pitt absolutely georgeous, but MOST do, and not many would find him ugly.

People we al know who were "known" for their charisma are people like Bob Hawke, Bill Clinton, you get my point. Not everyone liked these guys but most people would agree they were pragmatic and charismatic.