charisma

[check_mate_kid_uk]

one of the important parts of charisma is making other people feel good aobut themselves in your presencse. This is done in a few easy steps.

always be positive and smile, but do not over do being positive, do not make somthing bad seem good, just only talk aobut the positive things, if you feel like crap today you do not need to tell everyone.

the second part is (with out sucking up to them) compliment peoples achivments sincerly.

i was playing on the computer with a freind, yes fifa 2004 again and he was not very good but every time he did somthing good i pointed it out said thats good or nice shot etc.. or if he played badly just said like "nice try" or "almost" and i have had people do this to me before, it makes you feel good about yourself.

So anytime people need reasuarnce or actully did somthing that deserves a "well done" dont be afraid to say it.

 

[dearsappho]

I find that throwing some sarcastic lines in between the "nice trys" works wonders for ones image. Stops you from being looked upon as the nice guy faggot all the time...

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

well you cant seem to much of a nice guy, i meant to mention but forgot to, that you should also tease them on it a little bit, say your playing football down the park with your mates and he misses a shot 1 on 1 with the keeper you can just thrown in a sarcastic comment, tease him a little on it.

but the first post i made, was not so much about teasing them, i was talking about making them feel good aobut themselves in your presence.

and you can complent a lot of people a lot and unless those comments are comming out of your a$$ left right and center, they will still have a good affect.

incase you think i mean complementing say, what they are wearing, i do not mean this, i only mean saying things such as "well done" or "nice try, almost did it"

 

[jonny football hero]

I know what you're saying. However, i find it quite patronising when people say "nice try", "nearly". It's much better if you say : "i sucked at this game when i started, you get better at it".

Nice try.

 

[jgoodz]

basically... give appraise when appraisal is due.