"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Charisma and conversation

Magnatolia

Don Juan
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Hi All,

I want to improve my conversation skills. I'm not interested in techniques and scripts. That's not my goal. My goal is to improve my natural confidence, charisma and ability to hold a conversation that peaks a woman's interest.

I've read articles on here where someone said charisma, confidence and conversation skills cannot be learned but I think that's bullsh*t. When I first started work I was really shy and only spoke when I needed to. Fast forward a couple of years and I can have a conversation with any workmate. Outside of work, such as in the street or a shop is a different story.

I've also made some friends with women I used to work with.

I know there are a lot of people on here who have been down this exact path. What did you learn that helped you become more confident and charismatic?

And to the guys who have natural confidence and excellent communication skills, please pull your confidence apart and provide some tips on how to be more confident.

I'm definitely pleased with the progress I've made but now want to bring my conversation abilities and confidence to the next level. When I start a conversation with a work colleague things are okay, nothing spectacular. Sometimes they agree to lunch but not much else.

Because I don't have the mindset that enables me to be totally confident I have trouble moving the interaction forward.

And and all advice would be hugely appreciated.

Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dark Chivalry

Don Juan
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Read "How to win friends and influence people" for charisma and conversation skills. Also read the biographies of men who were charismatic. Also read some books on bodylanguage.

For confidence, do things you are proud of.
 
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