***Character Development***

[killingangel]

Hey guys, I know all of you like to try out new techniques and the latest tactics on women, but eventually she WILL sniff you out if you don't have a strong INNER GAME. I know, I know, you guys probably read inner game posts like a million times, but what they don't tell you is that no matter how many times you try to change state, reframe, or tell yourself that all women want to have sex with you, your ACTIONS will always tell your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND the TRUE STORY on whether you are truly the prize or not.

Well, last night I was out with a couple of new friends of mine and they were working their game at the bar, and I couldn't help but notice that something was missing in their game. There they were, two above-average looking guys speaking in a strong, confident voice, smiling, and doing all the right things, yet there was still something missing about them...

Intially, the girls gave them good reactions and loved what they saw, but I soon realized that these guys were giving off EXTREMELY SUBTLE desperation signals. You see, these guys had the ****y & funny going on but girls could sense that they were not WELL-ROUNDED. THey could SENSE that picking up girls was one of their CENTRAL GOALS instead of being a SIDE HObby. By well-rounded I mean having family, friends, *CAREER*, and hobbies that are more of a PRIORITY than picking up women. Indeed, these buddies of mine are good guys, but they hold down crappy jobs and try to sarge every night. I say crappy jobs because CAREER is VERY, VERY IMPORTANT for picking up women. WHY DO THE RICH GUYS ALWAYS GET THE WOMEN? Well, yes, it is because money, but underneath they KNOW that they have developed the inner character traits for wealth, and KNOW that they truly DO NOT NEED WOMEN. They have so much going for them in terms of the advancing of their goals, career, business deals, etc.. WOMEN CAN SENSE THIS CONFIDENCE, and this type of confidence EMITS A MUCH DIFFERENT AURA than even the MOST SKILLED PUA's. Even if you disagree with the previous statement, when a PUA and a Man with strong character are both 80 yrs old, one will have wasted all his years picking up and sexing women while the other will have attracted quality women and will have the ability to support his grandkids college, retire happily with a nest egg (savings), etc... Not to mention that the PUA who has neglected his career and his character for women, will probably be living in a crappy retirement home (if THAT!) or be working again to support himself.

This is why developing a STRONG CHARACTER is absolutely essential to you seeing YOUR OWN SELF as the PRIZE. Everytime you do something shady or dishonest, or even something small like coming into work late, a grain of sand is dropped onto the LOSER side. No amount of affirmations, positive visualization, law of attraction, or any of those gimmicks will dispel your cloud of gloom if there is no character to back it up. You see, self-help tells you all this b.s. about the past not mattering, that actions are wrong and not the person, but the ONLY REASON why you don't see yourself as the PRIZe is because you have not ACTED correctly in the past and therefore your DEEPEST RECESSES OF YOUR SOUL are telling you that YOU ARE NOT THE PRIZE! I guarantee that if the don juans here start working on their character traits such as self-control, working on goals, golden rule, doing what they say they will, their game will INCREASE TREMENDOUSLY.


TO end, I will ask you Mr. Don Juan, DO YOU WANT TRUE CONFIDENCE? I mean the confidence where you NEVER, EVER, EVER have to remind yourself that you are the prize because you KNOW like you KNOW that you are the prize. ***AND even IF you compared yourself to other men, you will still be SECURE enough to know that you are the PRIZE among them?

Then work on your CHARACTER traits and GOALS and when you MIX this STRONG CHARACTER and STRONG INTENT with C&F, Story-telling, and all these SECONDARY PUA SKILLS then your game with women will be ABSOLUTE.

 

[Snow Plowman]

This is a great post

You must have that core confidence or else you will eventually end up losing the girl before you even get her. For the past 3 months I've been working on Core confidence and have seen tremendous results.

It gets to the point where just by your presence you get attraction.

 

[Jay Jay]

I agree completely but want to clarify one minor thing.

On career, its about more than money or wealth.

Being obsessed with making dosh is as hollow as trying to **** as many chicks as possible.

For example, my neighbour has a crap "job." But he's a brilliant guitarist. He loves metal. He's been in a few bands well known in the Aussie metal scene but I've never heard of any of them til I met him. He's recorded albums, toured the world, jammed with some pretty famous dudes, but he's never made a cent.

But thats not what he is about. He loves the music. He is doing what HE wants to do. By HIS standards he has reached the pinnacle of success.

But other than that clarification, spot on.

JJ

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

How do you know that your two freinds are good looking, is it something they told you, a hot babe said, or what you have seen through your own eyes.
To me all dudes look very much the same, a bit like, cows, horses, cats, and, sheep, I can't tell much by looking at them regarding their looks or lack of them.
Alot of other dudes that I have met over the years who don't come accross as being either gay or bi seem to know what dudes are hunks and which ones are not, should a dude be able to tell this.
I have met many dudes probably about half of them who are like me in that they have no idea at all in regard to another dude being a hunk average or ugly.
I don't even know if I am a hunk or average or ugly, where as many other dudes seem to be able to know if they are.
I have never really been bothered about my physical appearance unless I put on weight then I do get worried about it and get rid of it as quickly as I can.
I always thought that only babes worried about if they were attractive or not though when I read these threads it seems obvious to me that some dudes are worried about it as well, I just thought that they didn't care.
I agree with you that success and wealth breeds confidence, though I do think that the past can be changed in the future.
What has gone by can't be changed, you will always have to pay for your past failures in your future to some degree, though I think that a dude can change from be a loser at 30 into a successful AlphaMale when he is 40.
Affirmations do work, though they only work if you put in the action to become what you affirm of yourself to be.
Being the Prize is based on many things, how other people veiw you, how you veiw yourself and the successes that you have enjoyed throughout your life.
If a dude is 15 and desired by the majority of the hottest babes at his school he will begin to see himself as being the Prize, if the hot babes reject him he will become an AFC, this is the natural trend I beleive.
This is a great post though, you have made some very good points here.

 

[BluEyes]

Good thread, there aren't enough of these.

I've spent the past year working on myself, not really learning much game, but my success has increased 10fold simply because of the self-confidence i was getting.

That being said, it's a slow process...time is the price you have to pay for taking the high road.

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I also am one of the people who has no idea whether I'm goodlooking or not. It doesn't matter, I'm changing what i can, thats all I can do. Lookswise, this year I'm making genetics the only thing that holds me back. In other words, do the best you can, and move on.