"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chapstick alternatives?

Safari

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My last girlfriend complained about my dry lips when kissing. So I got Chapstick. Then she said that tasted bad. Yes, she was a bit picky, but we still managed to kiss a lot. Regardless, does anyone have any better alternatives for lip balm for men?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sfalexi

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Wear chapstick, and before you kiss, wipe it off. That's what I always did. Had no complaints.
 

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Burts Bees Wax:

Kinda a pepperminty, what girl doesn't like peppermint lips :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Baruch
i concurr on burts bees.
I agree too. While not a whole lot of people know about it, Burt's Bees is great. It cools your lips every time you put it on and tasted like... (ermm.. I really don't know what it tastes like... feels good though!)

Oh, another thing... I've heard from a few girls that Aveda sells their own type of chapstick... apparently it's better than anything else out there in the whole world (according to them)... only problem is that it costs ~$15 a tube. If I had money to blow, I might try it... how about you let us know how it works out for you?
 

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Thanks, I'll give these a shot.

I'll try each. I'm overseas, so I'll have to order them. For the Aveda, are we talking about the Lip Saver SPF 15? Which of the Burt's do you use, Lifeguard's Choice or regular Beeswax Lip Balm?
 

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i started using E45 lipcare because although i should have started using it ages ago, agter getting braces it got a fair bit wrose due to my lips catching on the braces!
 

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Lip-ice arent that good.
Buy a Lip Balm that you squeeze and you can smooth onto your lips, make your lips shine , NOT like a woman but like a model.
Eulactol Lip Balm - Recommended.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cuss her in new yorker italian, give her a black eye and tell her to keep her comments to herself if she knows what's good for her.
 

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Originally posted by MindOverMatter
cuss her in new yorker italian, give her a black eye and tell her to keep her comments to herself if she knows what's good for her.
werd.
now thats an offer she can't refuse.
 

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My sister just recommended Rosebud Salve, available from Sephora, which she considers the absolute best, or also a lip balm from Kiehl's.
 
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