"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Chaperone sh!t test?

Smell The Glove

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I reconnected with an acquaintance thru facebook and suggested we get together, she excitedly agreed. I suggested a particular night and instead of responding within 2-3 mins that she had been previously in the interaction she lagged for like 10 minutes so I told her I had to go and to let me know when she was free, then I logged off.

When I logged back in she had responded 20 minutes later saying that she was supposed to go out with her sister that night and that I could come and meet with them.

My Initial reaction is that she's either low IL or is giving me some kind of **** test.

Would you:
A) Go along with her and her sister
B) Suggest another night for a one on one and choose the venue
C) Something else?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Purefilth

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Smell The Glove said:
I reconnected with an acquaintance thru facebook and suggested we get together, she excitedly agreed.Excitedly? and you can tell this how through facebook now? I suggested a particular night and instead of responding within 2-3 mins that she had been previously in the interaction she lagged for like 10 minutes so I told her I had to go and to let me know when she was free, then I logged off.Her low interest left you hanging. Ite bit I bolded was just weak and desperate looking

When I logged back in she had responded 20 minutes later saying that she was supposed to go out with her sister that night and that I could come and meet with them.Excuses did she offer something else?

My Initial reaction is that she's either low IL or is giving me some kind of **** test.She gives no shiits about you move on.

Would you:
A) Go along with her and her sisterNO
B) Suggest another night for a one on one and choose the venueYES
C) Something else?
Choose something else. she isnt sure about you.

Probably because you stalked her on facebook.

Hope this isnt your only option.
 

Smell The Glove

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I responded "nah, I'm good. You two have fun though."

Lol @ "Probably because you stalked her on facebook.". I just added her cuz I saw her on another friends page and had forgotten about her, and I want to be the first kid on my block with 1000 facebook friends :crackup:, but she messaged me immediately with lots of smileys and exclamation points and **** so I thought I'd give her a chance.

Only option. Yea I'm totally lovesick oneitis pedastaling this girl. :crackup:
 

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Choose something else. she isnt sure about you.

This^

"nah, I'm good. You two have fun though."

Not this^

Dude.......you sound butthurt. Shouldnt have waited a few days than said "Something came up, ill be busy "whatever day"...when are you free next week?"

She did counter offer...but its not good for you. She probably legit had plans with her sister, and shes on the fence about you...so shes not interested enough to ditch her sister. I would have said the above and seen what she had replied...would have given you a better idea where her interest level is.
 

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I didn't word it quite that way. I let her know I wasn't interested in joining her and her sister, and that they should have a nice time together.

I'm not butthurt at all I just am indifferent. If she wants to see me she'll let me know. It's just not worth it to me to try all that hard with this girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just am indifferent. If she wants to see me she'll let me know. It's just not worth it to me to try all that hard with this girl.

Yet you post on this forum asking for opinions and get defensive when filth and I point out obvious observations.
 

Smell The Glove

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You call it getting defensive, I call it clarifying myself.

Anyway thanks for the input I'll keep it in mind.
 

BigSmooth

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Bang her sister instead. That'll show her!
 

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She probably wants to feel you out first. Either that or she actually had plans with her sister (highly possible) or is trying to give you an excuse.
 

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Never accept anything but a 1on1. Anything else is NOT a date. Try again once more, if she bullshıts you again, she's not interested or wants another girlfriend with a penis.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dust 2 Dust

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Ignoring your date request and then counter offering with meeting her and her sister/friends somewhere is text book friend zone behavior. If she really liked you she wouldn't be bringing her sister along.

A. No
B. No
C. Next and NC
 

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Should had gone met with both sisters. Your charm would have kept them both glued to you... Making your social status climb to the top. This is girl who you havent spoken on years... She needs to feel u out.
 
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