"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chaos Theory - a reminder

DanelMadr

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Every now and then you can read here on SS some theory on getting any girl you want.

Let put aside scripted conversations within right frame which performed correctly should get you laid. That is highly questionable.
However even the more general advices like eluding sexual power and dominance and...yes... maintaining the right frame, are a little bit off.

First, seduction shouldn't be about how good of an actor you are. Because the truth will come around eventually and bite you in the azz.

and second, put it geeky way....

Social dynamics is a "system" with feedback...output goes into input. Therefore Chaos theory implies here. Which means the outcome is unpredictable and everything is therefore chaotic. But at the same time patterns emerge as product of system's self-regulation. Don't be mislead by these patterns into thinking that there are rules here, you just can't predict and control the system.

To some extent, yes you can predict it as you can predict weather, but it is more efficient to control the only thing you can....your mind.

I don't like Frames as they imply, it is something temporary. Wouldn't it be nice if we could be in the right state of mind all day? It wouldn't be so powerful as the Frame of the Alphamale but it would be continuous at least....and a bit safer in case our abilities don't contain 'beating everyone in the room'.

What is the right state of mind? I believe it is the state when your mind cease to exist. No thinking, analysing, no worrying about future, no inferiority feelings b/c of our past, no fear of not being liked, no fear of rejection, injury or even death. Just enjoying the moment, being honest to yourself and to others without the need for labeling them. Acting in accord with your heart. However corny that sounds, I believe it can be done. Probably it won't produce any ONS with suicidal emo party girl but it should produce a better you. The true you.

Call it Zen or way of the samurai or whatever but remember when you start to thinking about yourself as Samurai, keeping the samurai frame and looking at others as inferior, you got it all wrong.

And another thing....if you, after really getting rid of all complexes and lies about yourself (that you invented to protect your fragile boy ego) still feel in your heart you need to take a shotgun and go on a killing spree, well, you won't get any good points. You are a serious sample of an azzhole in core aka psychopath/sociaopath and you should be locked up.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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