Changing your social life is tough when people have a specific mindset about you

[Brighty]

See, for me, its not really myself thats holding me back from becoming a DJ, its my rep. To save everyone a long boring story I'll sum it up quickly. Last year (Freshman year) I was a total AFC, never got any hot girls, and didn't have a ton of friends. This dramatically changed this year (soph. year) and my social life is doing great (owe a lot to this site). However, when I try to hook up with girls at parties hosted by people from my school, the "popular" kids are like "you're hooking up with him?",etc, to the girl that I'm trying to game.

Two questions:

1. If girls hear this, will they be immediately turned off to me and refuse to to consider a relationship with me if another guy acts like that ?

2. How the hell can I overcome this? I mean, how can I change my rep? One of the solutions I have to remedy this is that I'll be getting my braces off this Spring Break and I'm going to cut my hair shorter (because I need a haircut; mines long) and come back to school looking better, hopefully "starting over" so to speak or allowing people to see me in a different light and know that I'm not the same person as I was last year. Is this a reasonable solution or will I just have to tough it out until my peers realize that I'm different from last year?


This seems to be a real hard issue to work out.

 

[epitome]

2. How the hell can I overcome this?

Do something bold to create a new image for yourself if you feel it's bringing you down so much. When I was an AFC, some of my friends got me into skateboarding which inherently increased my confidence, got me into shape, and made me a lot more social.

What did you do after the kid said that, and what gives him merit over your social standing? He obviously did something to establish himself, albeit join a sport or happened to be a natural socialite. Perhaps the reason you have the rep you do now is that you don't stand up for yourself? Did you get up and ask him why he said that to his face or did you just sit and watch your grave be dug like an AFC? A real DJ is always confident and is never underneath his contemporary.

Think about it, if Prince Charming walked in and got dissed by some random "popular" kid, what would he do?

 

[Kev07]

yeah freshmans and sophomores are idiots, wait til you're a junior or senior and people start caring less about stuff like that.

but also heed the words of epitome, it seems like you just sat there and watched some prick pull your girl away, very AFC

 

[i am me]

/\tru man, i noticed people got a lot more chill when we were finally seniors

 

[Doe Boii]

1. If girls hear this, will they be immediately turned off to me and refuse to to consider a relationship with me if another guy acts like that ?

2. How the hell can I overcome this? I mean, how can I change my rep? One of the solutions I have to remedy this is that I'll be getting my braces off this Spring Break and I'm going to cut my hair shorter (because I need a haircut; mines long) and come back to school looking better, hopefully "starting over" so to speak or allowing people to see me in a different light and know that I'm not the same person as I was last year. Is this a reasonable solution or will I just have to tough it out until my peers realize that I'm different from last year?

1. Yea that will probably turn them off especially if you dont react to what that person said. Saying something challenging to the person like (in case if it was a guy) "Who else should she hook up with, a guy like you?" or in case of a girl "hey back off lesbian i'm trying to get with this fine girl here" or something that shows you have confidence in yourself and your abilities and you dont crack because someone is messing w/ you.

2. Yea get the haircut and braces off and come back but they'll still think of you the same. just improve on your CONFIDENCE and PERSONALITY because people see a change in maturity and not just looks as something girls would want.

 

[Infraction]

Look, those people are afraid from you. After they make there comment challange them and stand up for yourself. After a couple of times no one will laugh at you.

 

[Brighty]

alright, im trying to call out people more when they disrespect me, but whats going too far? I mean, I was thinking of pushing back my friend who pushed me (kinda jokingly) just to show him that I'm not a little *****, but i decided that i shouldnt come off as angry and explosive all of the time

 

[Someone Much cooler]

I would have got in his face an showed that I was more man than him (insert chest beating) I would have definatly asked him "what he gon do". Its imperative you spit when you shout at him. when you go to a party then bring an old school pencil sharpen, you know the kind with the two razors on the top, take it apart and now you protected. But don't take my word for it I'm typing you from the Newark Correctional Facility.