"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Changing my stance on women at work.

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So you guys who have seen my post know how I feel about women at work. I went through a false sexual harrasment charge that nearly cost me my job and put a stain on my professional reputation. I was cleared (hell I didn't even work the same shift and the bytch wanted my job), but still I had people looking at me sideways which I did not like. That being said, I usually pick up an extra job around the holidays for presents and extra money ( I don't believe in putting christmas on credit cards).

My current part time is full women. And the company policy states that they do not mind co workers dating, they only ask that you don't harrass someone, that no means no, and that the person being harrassed needs to ask the harrassee to stop and give them a verbal warning before bringing it to management. Basically they don't care.

So my coworker who I knew from working with the TV station she used to work at, asked me to ask her out sometime last night. Looks like I'm going to start dating a coworker. :p

If this was my full time job, directly related to my career. I'd pass on it. I cannot loose my job over some poontang. But since its my part time which I will only keep for a few more months, I'll risk it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Same here, I work part time at a movie theatre with 17-18 year old girls (I'm 19) and it's some good fun for me.
 
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NO.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER date women you work with. I don't care if she is hot. I dont' care if it's convenient. no.
 
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backbreaker said:
NO.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER date women you work with. I don't care if she is hot. I dont' care if it's convenient. no.
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Yah. I used to be you after I was burned. Check my post history. The thing is...I'm a grown man. We are in an environment where it's allowed as long as it doesn't spill over into our work. I know I have no problems controlling myself, and she's a decent enough girl. And the kicker...this job is just for extra money for christmas and I got christmas in the bag. Now I'm just hanging on to it to buy me a few extra things I want.

I say if you care about your job and your career follow your advice to the letter. But for a side job or a high school type job...the rules can be relaxed, if you have enough game to handle yourself.
 
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backbreaker said:
NO.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER date women you work with. I don't care if she is hot. I dont' care if it's convenient. no.
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I totally agree with backbreaker on this one, especially when you went thru that hell with the harrassment from that other chick (personally I'd stay away from dating in general for a while if you'd ask me)

HOWEVER, IF YOU MUST... since this is only a part-time temp job that you're gonna keep for not too long, this would be the only exception i'd give you....

PLEASE, BE CAREFUL MAN....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Eh, if it's a temp job in a field not related to your main career then who cares? I just worry about poisoning my professional network but if that's not possible then screw it.
 
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backbreaker said:
NO.

NEVER, NEVER, NEVER date women you work with. I don't care if she is hot. I dont' care if it's convenient. no.
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If it's with a quality woman then I don't see a problem. Quality women won't react badly if everything doesn't work it. It's best to take your time and see what sort of personality the woman has.
 
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If it's with a quality woman then I don't see a problem. Quality women won't react badly if everything doesn't work it. It's best to take your time and see what sort of personality the woman has.
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I'm taking my time with this one. Gonna spin some plates on the side while I see how this develops.
 
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I think women that make false accusations about sexual harrasment or sexual assult should be up for the sentance otherwise perpetrated
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've dated two girls who worked at the same place as me, I haven't got a problem with it. I am after a third. :up:
 
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