"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Changing my life!!

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I’m 32. Been married and divorced. I had short and long term relationships and now I’m fed up, fed up with taking the same **** as I always take. For some reason I have not a clue when it comes to relationships, so I’ve got a plan. A plan to not only get the type of woman I want, but to also change the rest of my life. For those of you reading this, I don’t care how you judge me, because in the end I will be the only one who will judge me when I’m old and grey wondering what the hell happened to my life or enjoying the memories of the life I had.

I know it’s not all about the woman, but I’m more mature and tired of games. So here’s my plan:

1. School and keep my job. Finish my master’s even if the odds are against me. Get certified so that I can keep my job, which is actually quite good to me. I am on track, but it is always good to make sure.
2. Become financially secure. There’s bad debt and good debt. By the end of this school year I plan to have eliminated bad debt (cars, credit cards, and personal loans). Good debt can stay like: student loans, and a buying a house. Also start my small business.
3. Finish my book, the three games I started, fly remote controlled airplanes, go to Ireland, learn to swing dance, learn to improvise jazz, get my father ready for retirement, stay and become physically fit, buy the porsche I’ve always wanted, and I know there will be more.
4. Date! Date! Date! No regrets here anymore. Screw it I’ve wasted enough time with girls who just want to play the game. I want one that will live the game. I’m looking for “RED FLAGS”. I’ll next them faster than they can ask why.
5. Help at least three other people do what I’m going to do. Starting with my brother.

Well there it is. Take it as my New Year’s resolution if you want. If there’s anything that this site has taught me it’s that you have to care about yourself, because if you don’t care then who would want to care about you. Looks like I’ve got one year. Where should I start? I guess I’ll start with you… So how will you change your life this year? Start writing. :cool:

ADKdj
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So pimp its scary

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I could feel the passion in your words as you wrote that down... All others should take a look at this guy and recognize because he's going to be one of the ones to turn things around for himself.

I really like that you marked down your major goals, and although I really hate to bash ANYONEs goals and dreams... I would suggest that you relook into the fifth one. You might find that once you start trying to show someone the game that they very well might start to resent you for trying to change them.Unless of course they start asking you for help. The other reason I suggest this is just because you've got 32 years of bad habits that you're gonna have to break to get this done... that involves alot of introspection... something that's difficult to do if you're concerning yourself with the success of others.

It's good to see no worries... look at Bruce willis. The guys 50, yet he looks just as fit as when he was in his 20's.
 
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Thanks for the reply So Pimp Its Scary. I realize that I couldn't help anyone who doesn't want it. They'd have to ask or show signs of wanting to ask. Plus it didn't turn bad till I was 24 when I was finishing my bacholer's, so i say I only have 8 years of bad habits or catching up to do. I just lost my path 8 years ago and now realize it. I was married for 3, dating for 2, and in a LTR for 3 years. Anti-Dumps post's have really inspired me... It's my life and no one's going to waste my time anymore.

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SUCCESS!!!!!! Thats what on your road man. and u will find that out that THE more u PUSH ur self the HARDER u Push urself the better u will feel about urself! BE FKIN THE BEST!!! its on your road man. about targets ur post should SHOW ALL OF US(including me) TO make targets in their LIFE>

HOW THE FK U WILL become what u want withought know what u wna be. (Making targets)


I wish u good luck!
 

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Swing dancing! Yay for swing dancing. I've been swing dancing for a while now...

There's no better DHV tactic, and it's fun to boot.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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