Changing for the worse...

[TheManMasenko]

I just watched this YT video, it was a comedy scene about a young adult couple being in love while the female slowly loses interest, eventually leaving the guy.

It seems while the pair was in a relationship, the man did not change and became stagnant while consistently reminiscing on the past.

This begs me to ask: Do you guys have any advice on prolonging or stabilizing relationships for extended periods of time?

 

[Stanley]

Stay on your purpose
-do not stagnate,
-do not lose sight of your goals,dreams and amibitions
-do not diminish yourself
-always keep improving,
-keep a positive, confident and strong masculine energy
-stay fit, keep hitting the gym
-do not get absorbed in the other person
-maintain your frame
-understand your worth
-Strive for more
-choose wisely when to allow your deeper vulnerable emotions surface
-remain calm and collected as often as possible
-know when you are at fault and know when they are at fault
-do not tolerate disrespect and do not be disrespectful
-know you have options and are willing to walk

 

[MtmVaott]

Be yourself and be true to yourself.
Change your life to fit you rather than trying to meet external or internalized expectations.

If you do this consequently, everything Stanley pointed out comes as a natural result.

 

[SW15]

I just watched this YT video, it was a comedy scene about a young adult couple being in love while the female slowly loses interest, eventually leaving the guy.

It seems while the pair was in a relationship, the man did not change and became stagnant while consistently reminiscing on the past.

This begs me to ask: Do you guys have any advice on prolonging or stabilizing relationships for extended periods of time?

You're interpreting things incorrectly. In longer term relationships, many men lose the initial frame that initially attracted the woman. There is a concept of beta-ization that occurs in longer term relationships. There are alpha/sigma males who backslide into a more beta frame as time goes on and guys who are beta initially who became more extreme betas as time goes on.

I have seen this happen with one of my friends. Before this friend got into an LTR and later married, he was having multiple one night stands and short term casual sex arrangements. He lived this lifestyle for 5+ years and put up 100+ notches doing things this way. There have been a couple of times in the last 2-3 years where I've asked to get together with him and he's told me that he's had to "check with the wife" if he can do it. That's a classic beta male saying.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 is the best advice for longer term relationships.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #1

Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.