I need some advice on how to help an AFC become a DJ. I have a few Best friends that are big AFC's and I want to help convert them into DJ's. Becoming A DJ is an internal quest though. It's hard trying to set them on the right path though. The main struggle is helping them Find confidence in themselves. Any advice?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Changing an AFC into a DJ
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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First, move them out of BAMA!!! JK
Invite them here, go over the DJ Bible, start a bootcamp, and set up approach challenges.
Go to the gym, get them to step outside of their comfort zone...
Invite them here, go over the DJ Bible, start a bootcamp, and set up approach challenges.
Go to the gym, get them to step outside of their comfort zone...
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Only thing to remember: You can't change someone if they don't want to change.
Show them the site, tell them how its working for you, blah blah etc etc. If they don't like it, or just don't seem interested, then you can't make them. Don't force them into anything. You could lose friends over this, what with all the direct talk about their personal lives (or lack thereof), so be careful.
If they like what you show them, however, rejoice! You have wingmen in the making!
Show them the site, tell them how its working for you, blah blah etc etc. If they don't like it, or just don't seem interested, then you can't make them. Don't force them into anything. You could lose friends over this, what with all the direct talk about their personal lives (or lack thereof), so be careful.
If they like what you show them, however, rejoice! You have wingmen in the making!
Yea I've been through this a few times with a friend too. I should have just saved the time it took sending the link to do something else more important, like brushing my hair.Ace of Flames said:Only thing to remember: You can't change someone if they don't want to change.
Show them the site, tell them how its working for you, blah blah etc etc. If they don't like it, or just don't seem interested, then you can't make them. Don't force them into anything. You could lose friends over this, what with all the direct talk about their personal lives (or lack thereof), so be careful.
If they like what you show them, however, rejoice! You have wingmen in the making!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.
Most AFCs have grown so accustomed to their lifestyle that they will refuse to change even if they are currently miserable. So don’t expect any miracles…
…Kind of similar to when Morpheus described people’s relationships to the matrix in the first Matrix movie.
Most AFCs have grown so accustomed to their lifestyle that they will refuse to change even if they are currently miserable. So don’t expect any miracles…
…Kind of similar to when Morpheus described people’s relationships to the matrix in the first Matrix movie.
FaithHealer
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Trying to help other guys will only get you shat on. You can show them the door, but only they can walk through. Better for them to find out on their own. Not everyone can be a dj, just like not everyone can be a CEO of a major corporation. There still has to be guys that scrub toilets.
I agree with everything except letting them find out on their own. I think it's better for them to see it working for yourself, and finally swallow their pride and ask you how you did it.FaithHealer said:Trying to help other guys will only get you shat on. You can show them the door, but only they can walk through. Better for them to find out on their own. Not everyone can be a dj, just like not everyone can be a CEO of a major corporation. There still has to be guys that scrub toilets.
Your all correct. You can't make them change. My best friend jumped on this site at first and is always asking for my advice and help. He's changing but extremely slowly. Everytime he has a little bit of success he thinks he is done and doesn't need to hear what I tell him or see this site. I am also in the process of Creating a Female DJ out of a friend who seems to already be a natural, but severely lacks being happy with herself and much confidence. I know the idea of trying to create a female DJ might seem a little crazy. It's an experiment and luckily for me she is craving every word I have to say. So far its looking good. She already can have any guy she wants it has nothing to do with getting guys for her. I'm just trying to give her that DJ sense of SELF. .... She's sorta my female Wingwoman and I need her at her best.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.