Changed mindset, how do I make it last?

[DoItAgain]

I never want to get married or have kids, so I realized there's no point in a long term relationship.

However, it's only natural when you spend time with an attractive woman whose personality is nice or seems nice, that you develop some feelings.

I'm trying to figure out how to make the interaction sexual right from the outset...so if the woman isn't that kind of woman, she has an exit, and if she is, then things get sexual right off the bat and there's no time to build her up in your mind as some "special" girl.

I guess I'm trying to turn into a guy that women can just tell I'm looking for sex, but in the good way, not the Bud Bundy way.

 

[The Piano Master]

Well the Bud Bundy way proved itself to be a failure. haha. Anyway, just keep EVERYTHING casual when with this girl. Your attitude must be casual, your interactions must be casual, and your date settings must be casual. Don't act serious with her, don't talk about anything serious, and don't take her to any fancy places. Keep the dates short, too. That way it will leave out chances where you could develop feelings for her. Good luck bro!

 

[DoItAgain]

LOL, the one thing you can take from Bud Bundy however is that he just moves onto the next girl and places no special emphasis on one woman.

But yeah, I see what you're saying. If you're taking her out for coffee/drinks, not talking about deep things, and not spending a lot of time with her, she has no reason to think you're anything serious, and more importantly, neither of you are likely to develop feelings.

 

[boomerick]

Actually it sounds like you want prostitution......

Only sex and no relationship.....

Or......

Why not just let things happen and when the "relationship' questions come up THEN state exactly honestly how you feel and what you want......

No doubt you will loose some chicks this way......BUT....

The ones that stay will choose to stay on your terms....

Or....

Maybe it's not so much having no feelings so you don't become involved....

Perhaps it's learning to control those feelings so that you don't end up in a relationship you don't want....

Still....there is always prostitution.....

Over and Out.

 

[DoItAgain]

What I want is a stable of f*** buddies, and I'm trying to learn how to accomplish that.

 

[Army Strong]

Do anything you want with her then when you want to end it, start acting like a total chump.

You'll be just friends in no time.

 

[boomerick]

OP---

Then I think this is the best way......(from my previous)

"Why not just let things happen and when the "relationship' questions come up THEN state exactly honestly how you feel and what you want......

No doubt you will loose some chicks this way......BUT....

The ones that stay will choose to stay on your terms...."

It will take some time to develop your "stable" though (interesting word choice)....

Good luck with your equestrian pursuits....