Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mod's ...Allen...anyone!!!

You need to change the ratings that appear up under the guys screen names.

If you have a program that they can check everytime they make a field report that will eliminate posts such as the one that I just read by a senior don juan who has no idea who initiates sex.

When you base it on the guys experience that he has logged at least trying in the game you can get a better view of whom to listen to for advice vs whom not too.

I realize everyone has a opinion just like everyone has a "arsehole" (old joke) but when guys who really need someone who has been on the ground in the trenches, learning and growing in the games advice it gets lost because everyone is wearing the same crown of Senior Don Juan or higher if there is a such animal.

The truth of the game gets lost because a bunch of KJ's start piping and dialing in their 2 cents worth which is about what it's worth in relation to someones advice who has actually gotten off the internet and been out there.

So far as I can see on this site you only have a few guys who advice (I know I will get flamed for this) that is actually worth a dammmm.

Beginners need a clearer picture of whom to listen to is my point. Threads say who is the best are ineffective also because a person with no experience can masquerade and pretend way too much.

I caught quite a few doing this back in the old days.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is because the ratings are based on the number of posts, and not on experience.

That's what the little green rating squares are for. They should go hand-in-hand but they don't.
 

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The funny one to me was the guy that didn't know how to talk to the girls at the gym and he has about 900 something posts. It was funny because he tried to say he was just playing after lol. I can careless about the rating system because you already know who gives useful information and who doesn't reguardless of the green lights.
 

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SuavePlaya said:
I can careless about the rating system because you already know who gives useful information and who doesn't reguardless of the green lights.
This is about the community as a whole.

The newbies here don't have the same judgment you do, and can be led the wrong way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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True, I wasn't looking at it from that point of view. Some people just have to learn by trial and error that's what I did.
 

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In my limited experience of this forum, i've found that most people when seeking/giving advice want advice/advise they "pm" the people they feel they need to talk to. Although one can understand "TheRealSupreme"'s displeasure at the amount of advice from "uncomfirmed" sources, they do sometimes supply light entertainment and also clarify what other people think.
On another note, i believe this forum was designed with the aim of improving one's social skills. Therefore debate is necessary, from people giving good advice or be it people giving uninformed or inaccurate advice, who are corrected later.
The rating system, does anyone really care about it?, i don't understand it.
I know i have ten reputation points, is that good/bad?
Just my 2cents:wave: ,

Regards,

Adrian. esq
 

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That's what the rep ratings are supposed to be for bro, even if they aren't always consistent half the time.

I do agree, there's a big problem with bad advice on these forums. Thankfully, there are some more than decent posters who correct the bad advice as soon as it's seen.
 
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I still like my method better. Those ratings are never around when I look on here.

By doing it this way the poster can look at who is rated well and consider it and then get the entertainment from the lower level cats.

I personally see nothing entertaining about needing help with women problems but to each his own.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheRealSupreme said:
I still like my method better. Those ratings are never around when I look on here.

By doing it this way the poster can look at who is rated well and consider it and then get the entertainment from the lower level cats.

I personally see nothing entertaining about needing help with women problems but to each his own.
  • Who would decide the ratings?
  • Can the forum software do this or would it need a complete, expensive rewrite and redeployment?
  • How would you determine the cutoff point in between the different ratings?
  • This forum is not focused on women, but on changing your life not just with women. So what happens when someone is very knowledgeable in health or business or dealing with people... etc. do they still get a 'rating' or not.


This is a very complicated solution for something that barely matters. We have the little squares under everyone's name. That's close enough.
 

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SuavePlaya said:
The funny one to me was the guy that didn't know how to talk to the girls at the gym and he has about 900 something posts. It was funny because he tried to say he was just playing after lol. I can careless about the rating system because you already know who gives useful information and who doesn't reguardless of the green lights.
God forbid someone should not know everything!

Every time I ask for advice on something someone always seems to ask how I could not know that with so many posts. For God's sake. No one knows everything and unlike others on here I'm not going to pretend that I do.
 

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Or maybe people could read the advice and decide for themselves?

Ok ok, if we have complete lost cause (i.e. robot) why couldn't there be a vote for a top five posters from a pool of members that put their name in? Considering most people here tend to stay awhile and knows where much of the good advice comes from it would be a simple matter really.

Anyone?
 

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It takes you 900 posts to realize you don't know how to talk to a girl at the gym cmon you can't tell me you couldn't ask that earlier if you didn't know. I'am not saying I know everything but if you don't find that funny you probably have the same problem as him. Yeah it is oh my god because you guys been here for so damn long read the bible read field reports and still ask stupid questions like oh my god she stared at me so fvcking what she stared at you did you do something about it?
 
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