"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Challenging the 3 Day Period

Fly By Night

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So I watched some SimplePickup and in one of their videos, they claimed that it's better to text a woman sooner than later. They urged that you should even text/call her later that very same night;the reasoning behind this is that the girl might be too drunk and not even remember you. (assuming night game)

I kind of understand this more than having to obey this 3-day law. In my small experience, I tried different strategies: I texted a girl the very next day and got rejected, but I tried it on another girl and she agreed to go out on a date in the next 2 days. I also tried waiting 4 days before texting a girl and she agreed to go out. I know I have hardly tested this enough to be able to give enough proof for this, but maybe to some girls it just doesn't matter.

At the same time, in three days, she could easily be approached by another guy if she is attractive enough to get approached often. She could easily forget about you (night or day game) and see you as some random guy who is trying to pick up chicks - especially if you didn't get her interest high enough.

What do you guys think? Do you remind yourself to wait 3 days before initiating the text game? Or do you just go with what feels right according to how the approach went?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LuisGarcia10

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Depends doesn't it.
I had a date with a girl on Wednesday, set up a second date with her last night which is for next week.
But I work a lot and when I'm working I'm not around, I can only see her on my days off and she knows this, therefore it stands to reason that I'll make plans for my days off in advance, so as not to waste them. If I'd waited 3 days with her it would have only been a day or two before my days off and she may have made plans by then.
The bottom line is if the girl Is attracted and you aren't coming off as desperate or needy then it won't matter whether you wait one day or three, just be natural and itll be fine.
 

bigneil

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Usually when you get their number you text them a "hello" right then. One of you normally texts the other to make the connection to begin with. It's also a good way to confirm it was a legitimate number. Ask her to text you.

If she writes her number down then text the next day a simple "It was nice to meet you."
 

DonJuanabe

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If she has high interest waiting three days will not negatively affect you at all. Would probably raise her interest even more due to anticipation and wondering about you.

If she has moderate or low interest then contacting her the next day will likely push her away since she will assume you are needy or have nothing else going on. By waiting you might raise her interest which is what you're going to need to do anyway.
 

SgtSplacker

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I have noticed girls have very specific time frames for when they want things to happen.

Got number.
Wait a day, setup date.
Wait a date, heavy petting.
Wait a petting session, have sex.
Wait a couple sex sessions, tell her she's the only one.
So on and so fourth.

If you break too far from what she expects she will assume low IL and next you. Treat it like a TV show you wanna watch every couple days. You don't want so much time to pass between episodes that you forget whats going on. But you don't want to have a marathon either until you're sure your viewers love the show and don't mind 12 straight hours of Haunted Collector for example. There is a balance that must exist and must be ramped up with IL.

Mind you there's alot of guys here that will see a girl every couple weeks, crush it and everyone will be fine with that. Personally I prefer a more frequent, familiar relationship with women. The above mentioned suggestion works for girls that want a boyfriend. Not a vet that just wants someone to bang on weekends...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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