Challenge : how to overcome this attraction-killer?

[Ronnie Poleman]

This one frustrates the hell out of me everytime it happens!

I'm talking about when you are with a girl, things are going well, and then a well-meaning friend, some chump, a jealous c0ckblock, or a protective b!tch shield friend of hers comes up and says...

"So, do you like her?" "Wow, you and her seem to have something going" or any other line that exposes your attraction and intention.

The worst part it when the lines are said in front of the girl you are trying to fvck! A c0ckblock did this to me last week, and it completely killed the vibe. I ended up saying no to avoid looking AFC, she said no so she didn't look desperate.

I find this a catch-22 that ALWAYS kills the good vibe between me and a girl. If I say yes, I become an AFC basically saying "I think you're hot and I'm in love with you, please may I kiss you now?".

If I say no to avoid being AFC, that implies that I don't think of the girl sexually and I'm not attracted to her, again, killing any attraction that was built up.

How would you respond to such a situation, especially if someone says such lines infront of the girl?

 

[kingsam]

This one frustrates the hell out of me everytime it happens!

I'm talking about when you are with a girl, things are going well, and then a well-meaning friend, some chump, a jealous c0ckblock, or a protective b!tch shield friend of hers comes up and says...

"So, do you like her?" "Wow, you and her seem to have something going" or any other line that exposes your attraction and intention.

hmmm...id have to say that the way you ar, , what you say, your 9body lanuguae should already be implying you are attracted to her, (in a non-desperate way! coz your are not trying to "sneak" her into a pick-up you want her as a willing participant) ...if she gets sacared off when some one says those things, then you are possibly doing it wrongly...

she should think/or even say in reply...along the lines of..."yeh this guy is hot/cool isnt he"!

The worst part it when the lines are said in front of the girl you are trying to fvck! A c0ckblock did this to me last week, and it completely killed the vibe. I ended up saying no to avoid looking AFC, she said no so she didn't look desperate.

I find this a catch-22 that ALWAYS kills the good vibe between me and a girl. If I say yes, I become an AFC basically saying "I think you're hot and I'm in love with you, please may I kiss you now?".

If I say no to avoid being AFC, that implies that I don't think of the girl sexually and I'm not attracted to her, again, killing any attraction that was built up.

How would you respond to such a situation, especially if someone says such lines infront of the girl?

Perfect opportunity for a ****y + funny comeback, if this is happening to you, then think up some "pre scripted" ****y + funny combacks for the various situations you could be in and things could be said.
this is a sink-or -swim moment if you play it well you will end up in a stronger position! but of you play it wrongly (like you said you did)you Fail big time!

it may take a little experimentation/trying out your C+F lines to find the perfect ones

 

[Ease]

Theres many ways to not answering a question. Its a skill thats important for so many situations in life.

Think about it for a while and watch other people to learn.

The trick isnt finding a perfect answer, its remaning cool under pressure. If your rock hard inside your head then a jealous ****block cant phase you. The only way you can fail is if you try to answer the question seriously, or if you panic and show insecurity.

Eg. Laugh and say nothing, say 'haha, yea were getting married hopefully', etc.

 

[stayfly]

isolate her better if possible

and like has been said already, come up with an awesome response you can use everytime it happens

 

[Voice]

"ah, she's ok, still has some work to do"
"I don't know I'm really not that easy"
"I'm not too sure about this one actually, she could be trouble"

The list can go on and on. Always have the idea that she has to impress you and this type of C&F will come out.

 

[Diaforetikos]

"ah, she's ok, still has some work to do"
"I don't know I'm really not that easy"
"I'm not too sure about this one actually, she could be trouble"

The list can go on and on. Always have the idea that she has to impress you and this type of C&F will come out.

I love those lines Voice.


I would just agree. But in a very confident way. If you get busted out on it, oh well. If you say anything else, then you'll look like your hiding your true intentions. Confident guys don't hide their truth. They reveal it. They show they're true selves.

So if her friend was like, "Do you like her or something?" just say:
"Yeah, shes growing on me, but its still hard to tell."

You like girls because your a guy, and lucky for her, you picked her. It's not your problem if her friend doesn't like that. You decided to express your intentions and desires to her. Don't beat around the bush if you get busted out on it. Just be confident and state your intentions.

Also maybe warm her friend up into liking you. Have fun with her friend. She's upset because she isn't getting attention or she is just trying to protect her friend. Lighten her/him up. Joke around and have fun. That will neutralize the cvckblock.

Just be confident.

 

[Ronnie Poleman]

I have thought about being ambiguous and responding by saying that I'm not too sure, and that it's too early to say whether I like her or not, that implies I'm not desperate and hints at the fact that I want to get to know her a bit more in a non AFC way.

I do rather like the ****y+funny suggestions though as they suit my personality. Next time something like this happens, I'm going to say "Yeah, totally, we're going out now, actually, after only an hour of talking with each other we're already engaged LOL", when I say this I'll put my arm around her briefly but look at her and laugh so it's obvious I'm joking. Kino + humour + unexpected response = all good in the hood! On top of that, deal with ****blocks in my usual way which is be friendly initially to disarm them, then dominate the conversation so much so that it's only between me and the girl, cutting them out subtly so they get bored and go away.

Thanks guys!

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Just joke your way through it. This is only a problem if you get into your head about it and start doubting yourself and worrying about losing her, like everything else in this "game."

 

[DangNammit]

I had something very simiar happen this past weekend when out with a gal I been dating... we were at a club for one of her friend's bdays... A male aquaintance of hers walks up and says to me (in front of her) - "how long have u been dating? How's it going?"

I put on a shocked face and said, "Dude! She's my sister!"

He made a quick exit and the gal and I had a good laugh...

 

[DanelMadr]

"So, do you like her?" "Wow, you and her seem to have something going" or any other line that exposes your attraction and intention.

Answer to the c0ckblock/envious friend of hers:

Put your arm around your girl and say:"Well, I'm going to marry her." And when the c0ckblock leaves , his brain screwed, let go off your girl, wink at her and resume the previous conversation.

Another method to disarm meaner c0ckblocks:

1. Tell him so nobody can hear hit "Look, you are drunk and honestly, you are spoilling our evening" Pat him on his back and let him leave with dignity.

2. If it does not help...tell him to "Get the f@ck out a here" and mean it like you are gonna to make him suffer.

3. Make him suffer. Wait till he says something mean or disrespecting and then use the famous Czech Slap (invented in Czech republic) aka ***** Slap. No permanent damage but he will be stunned at least. If he has the guts or beer balls to get a revenge, proceed with Old Shatterhand move - knock him out.

 

[Captain]

I have thought about being ambiguous and responding by saying that I'm not too sure, and that it's too early to say whether I like her or not, that implies I'm not desperate and hints at the fact that I want to get to know her a bit more in a non AFC way.

No, don't be so serious, have some fun with it like Voice said.

 

[Tazman]

My immediate response would've been that it's none of his business. You don't have to "entertain" his questioning, it's a personal matter. I don't care who's friend he is.

Way back when, I had a jealous guy interogate me about a girl I just started seeing to try and embarrass me. I was much younger and didn't handle it well, but now let some dude come up and ask me some sh-t about my personal matters........it's a whole different ball game.

 

[2crudedudes]

You should be giving her enough hints that you're into her for her to know the truth. Especially considering that you wouldn't be talking to her if you didn't like her.

What the c*ckblocker says shouldn't make a difference, even if their point is to put you on the spot. Its a test of confidence. Can you handle it? Whatever your answer, just keep your cool, and keep your game going without skipping a beat.