Challange and pride, 2 things that can be detrimental.

[RIchardo]

Now we have all heard doc love and such rambling, challange this and challange that. Challange CAN be a good thing, but i think many of us tend to take it over board (especially in relationships).

Many of us purposely ignore girls at times because we think it will amplify attraction. Or many of us will not give a girl attention unless she gives it first...... or in a relationship if we sense somthing is wrong with the girl we detach and let them come back to us.

Ah, but this is a mistake, do not worry whether you are being a challange or not, as long as you do not call the girl every day, express your undying love and act like you depend on her to live you are doing just fine.

Ive learned the hard way trying to make your girlfriend come around to you with this whole "pride" deal can lead you to the dumps....

So my advice is , dont worry about how they are acting, if you want to talk to them , talk to them, if you want to show them attention, then do so without worrying whether you are presenting a challange or not....... chances are if a girl likes you (or if she is your girlfriend) talking to her when you get the chance isnt going to do anything wrong...

I know this may sound like common sense, but i thought i was a damn good dj and i screwed this concept up, and i see alot of people on this board who have questions regarding things of this nature.

REmember, jsut have faith in yourself and thats alll you will ever need, these rules are a guidline to change you into something different, a crash course if you may, but realize once you attain confidence and have a rough idea how to nab women, you dont need to be a "rules dude"

 

[donutclub]

I totally agree. Once you got the girl don't act allof and distant. Show her you want her!!!! if you indeed do. Otherwise she'll find another interesting person who she wants to spend time with and a person that give her the emotions and attention she needs.

 

[RIchardo]

unfortunatley i learned this the hard way :/ i went from afc to jerk and hopefully now a dj.

 

[DJjazzyJeff]

too much of a challenge

I learned the hard way about being too much of a challenge as well. She ended up thinking I wasn't interested and started dating other people. Said I made her do all the giving....oh well....I'm thankful for that or I wouldn't have found this site.

 

[BobbDobbs]

It is kinda like the art of movie acting ... good acting is so subtle the people seem real. Bad acting is shouting your lines, and playing emotions to absurd extremes.

Good actors get awards. Good DJ's get girls. Practice your craft.

 

[Kodiac]

Yeah, just don't over do it!

If your always calling her, always on the phone etc etc.. it isn't a good look, makes you look desperate and too eager, like you have nothing better to do.

I screwed this up as well. I went over the top on being a challenge and she brought it up, saying how distant i was and not paying her enough attention...etc etc.. It ended messy.

I LEARNT from my mistakes.

I am still a busy man, but that doesn't mean i am mean to her. It just means im not ALWAYS available. I have a life, she is just 'another' part of it but by NO means the CENTRE of it.