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Chads are so rare they're irrelevant

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The whole chad meme is just a silly cope among incels so that they have some scapegoat to blame all of their problems on.

Go for a walk in any busy part of your city or any neighboring city: how many "chads" can you count? It will almost always be zero.

OK, maybe the gym is a better location to find chad. Yes, you will see more fit men in their 20's and 30's. How many of them are surrounded by women or having any noticeable success with multiple women? Yeah, again, it's zero or close to it.

Still not convinced? How about a major college town? Again, how many of these guys are having success with a large number of women? These guys are so paranoid about getting accused of sexual harassment they're far more likely to be wanking to porn on their phone than laying dozens much less hundreds of hotties.

The reality is, chads are so rare they are a non-factor in hindering YOUR dating success 99.99% of the time.
 

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Define Chad because I'm sure people have different opinions on what makes someone a Chad
 

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Why bother worrying about Chads at all?
 

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women dont even get pregnant by "alpha males"

they get pregnant by any old dosser so they can claim welfare, then they spend their days running babby daddy down on social media, as he doesnt pay child support.

Thats the great thing about the UK, as much as its the cuck capital of Europe, the state dont come after men for CS, and if they do, they arent very good at it, he can usually plead poverty.
 

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You're right OP, it's an Incel Fantasy they have to Cope with their own lack of success. A lot of Incels are on the spectrum and lack basic Social skills, that's the real reason they can't get laid and not because Giga Chad is taking all the wamen from them.
 

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The whole chad meme is just a silly cope among incels so that they have some scapegoat to blame all of their problems on.

Go for a walk in any busy part of your city or any neighboring city: how many "chads" can you count? It will almost always be zero.

OK, maybe the gym is a better location to find chad. Yes, you will see more fit men in their 20's and 30's. How many of them are surrounded by women or having any noticeable success with multiple women? Yeah, again, it's zero or close to it.

Still not convinced? How about a major college town? Again, how many of these guys are having success with a large number of women? These guys are so paranoid about getting accused of sexual harassment they're far more likely to be wanking to porn on their phone than laying dozens much less hundreds of hotties.

The reality is, chads are so rare they are a non-factor in hindering YOUR dating success 99.99% of the time.
You guys are so into and focused on this chad thing that it shows that you're not a chad.

Personally I don't give a single fu'ck about it. I just focus on myself and so should you...
 

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Its all perception i was in a bar Saturday i had a 20yr old hb 7.5 straddling me with her tounge so far down my throat i could hardly breathe

When i eventually managed to surface for air i could see a group of guys looking over in disbelief

They could have perceived me to be a chad , and i'm doing the same when i see other guys pulling HB's

Anyone who can captivate female attention in public could in theory be labelled a "chad"
 

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Its all perception i was in a bar Saturday i had a 20yr old hb 7.5 straddling me with her tounge so far down my throat i could hardly breathe

When i eventually managed to surface for air i could see a group of guys looking over in disbelief

They could have perceived me to be a chad, and i'm doing the same when i see other guys pulling HB's

Anyone who can captivate female attention in public could in theory be labelled a "chad"
I agree. Everything is about perception of the world and how you perceive it and how others perceive you.
 

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I get the general message that @timmyroni is sending.

I don't like the whole 'Chad' thing. It is somewhat out of touch with reality.

Reality is more like an aging, slightly pudge nurse with some beta male pudgy balding boyfriend or husband living lives of quiet disillusionment. Most people are not riding a cocck carousel or seducing multiple women simultaneously. Most people are in some sort of relationship at any given point in time.

Are there men who are successful with women? Yes. However, most of them are not in the typical man's social sphere. Most other men in the typical man's social sphere are men with girlfriends and wives.

Even some guys resembling 'Chad' can be guys not too different than the typical guy. One of my friends is a 6'4", former college athlete. He ended up putting a ring on some cute (but not hot) gal with some serious red flags and as the relationship matured, he started paying less attention to his physique. This happened around age 30 for him as he spent most of his 20s bolstering his notch count. While one anecdote is meaningless, broader statistics would reflect these sorts of anecdotes.

Self-improvement is the path. Get some exercise, eat healthy, don't watch porn, and don't mbate. Don't swipe on the apps. Go out into the real world. Approach women in the real world. Spend time with your real world friends or make some if you don't have them. You could even video call your friends if you've known them a while. Spend each day doing things that will lead you towards attracting women. No one else matters.

Yes, it is a tough mating environment out there. Yes, some men are better at seducing than others. Don't worry about that. Be so focused on yourself and what you can achieve.
 

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There is usefulness in the chad meme. If anything, it at least is a good mainstream way to wake up guys to what women like. If anything, a virgin guy becoming more fit and more independent of women, even if he follows the chad ideal, will end up better for it.

What matters is that as long as you have a drip of confidence and some kind of attraction, women will fall over you regardless. Reminder, I've run into so many insecure women that I honestly believe guys are letting fish through the net by assuming they are the masters of seduction and reading men. They aren't, a lot of them are just shy girls who know their instagram likes and photo filters are a lie. Watch a group of dolled up girls walk into the club or bar. And look closely at their exposed limbs. The moment you find a mole or some blemish, it reminds you that they are just girls playing dress up. Insecurity at its finest. Another tip: guys should look at girls hair and laugh like I do at how a lot of them have split hairs or their hair isn't perfectly straight. Some of you know what Im talking about. When their hair seems to be wild on the contour of their style. The little details reminds you that they are just human beings.
 

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There are guys with high numbers, but from what I've seen they are pulling lots and lots of fat and otherwise subpar girls. In that sense, they're irrelevant also.
 
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It’s not so much about the “Chad”, it’s about the deregulated sexual market and women’s goals change as they age.

A woman’s power is her sexuality. When it’s at its most powerful, (18-27) she will generally want to top tier man, the alpha man, the strong dominant type. When she ages and starts losing her power, then she will full commitment and access to resources from the beta male.

This is why a lot of men are so angry and frustrated, they want the hot girl fresh, new, pure, a virgin, when they have NOTHING except themselves to offer. Yet these girls are usually devirginized at 14-15. By the time these men learn how to attract, they have resources and women wants nothing to do with them, they just want the resources.

I’m sure an ‘incel“ could get attention and sex from a 46 year old single mother whose face is melting by the day, but they don’t want that. They want attention from the girls when they are fresh, hot, sexy, and young.

You can’t legally deregulate the sexual marketplace and expect women to act the same as the 1950s.
 

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It’s not so much about the “Chad”, it’s about the deregulated sexual market and women’s goals change as they age.

A woman’s power is her sexuality. When it’s at its most powerful, (18-27) she will generally want to top tier man, the alpha man, the strong dominant type. When she ages and starts losing her power, then she will full commitment and access to resources from the beta male.

This is why a lot of men are so angry and frustrated, they want the hot girl fresh, new, pure, a virgin, when they have NOTHING except themselves to offer. Yet these girls are usually devirginized at 14-15. By the time these men learn how to attract, they have resources and women wants nothing to do with them, they just want the resources.

I’m sure an ‘incel“ could get attention and sex from a 46 year old single mother whose face is melting by the day, but they don’t want that. They want attention from the girls when they are fresh, hot, sexy, and young.

You can’t legally deregulate the sexual marketplace and expect women to act the same as the 1950s.
It depends on the age of "incel" in question. Even a 46 year old single mom has a tendency to be a bit of a delusional princess.

In thinking about the last 5 years (ages 33-38 for me), I've seen little difference in the way that 30-35 year olds behave towards me as compared to when I was 20-25 and dealing with 20-25 year old women.

During the last 5 years, I have realized that I have not offered enough to get women 10+ years younger than I am. Even women close to my own age exhibit really high standards. I've been dealing the similarly aged childless woman since I am a childless man.

While every guy wants an 18-25 year old, some men realize that getting one will be too tough and are willing to get someone close to their own age. But even those women have ridiculous standards, especially if those women are in their 30s/40s.
 
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It depends on the age of "incel" in question. Even a 46 year old single mom has a tendency to be a bit of a delusional princess.

In thinking about the last 5 years (ages 33-38 for me), I've seen little difference in the way that 30-35 year old behave towards me as compared to when I was 20-25 and dealing with 20-25 year old women.

During the last 5 years, I have realized that I have not offered enough to get women 10+ years younger than I am. Even women close to my own age exhibit really high standards. I've been dealing the similarly aged childless woman since I am a childless man.

While every guy wants an 18-25 year old, some men realize that getting one will be too tough and are willing to get someone close to their own age. But even those women have ridiculous standards, especially if those women are in their 30s/40s.
Yes theres definitely an air of superiority from very mediocre looking older women now. I notice it on days out at kids parks with my daughter. Maybe they're insecure as mentioned above, or they''d be different once you get to know them but I don;t like the demeanor and vibe a fair % give off., a lot of whom aren;t particularly attractive, or maybe once were but age and poor lifestyle has taken its toll. I also notice attractive, feminine, more conservative women out, but they seem a minority, compared to almost aggressive, out of shape Z list celeb wannabees.
 

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Absolutely true. Most men are not competing with guys like that.
suggestions on this site can be that your wife/g/f is only 1 encounter away from cheating with this 'Chad' type man though.
 

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The thing is, everyone's isolated right now (at least to a greater degree than before) so communicating about mutual problems is almost impossible, doubly so for a sensitive topic like this.
 

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The whole chad meme is just a silly cope among incels so that they have some scapegoat to blame all of their problems on.

Go for a walk in any busy part of your city or any neighboring city: how many "chads" can you count? It will almost always be zero.

OK, maybe the gym is a better location to find chad. Yes, you will see more fit men in their 20's and 30's. How many of them are surrounded by women or having any noticeable success with multiple women? Yeah, again, it's zero or close to it.

Still not convinced? How about a major college town? Again, how many of these guys are having success with a large number of women? These guys are so paranoid about getting accused of sexual harassment they're far more likely to be wanking to porn on their phone than laying dozens much less hundreds of hotties.

The reality is, chads are so rare they are a non-factor in hindering YOUR dating success 99.99% of the time.
"Chad" is nothing more than a figment of (mainly) men's imagination and a coping mechanism for guys who:

1) have no game
2) have no game and don't want to put in the time and effort to learn game because it's "too much work"
3) extreme blue pill guys that will never change no matter what
4) entitled little man-brats who think the world should be handed to them on a silver platter (see #2 again)
5) feel that self-improvement (mind, body, $) is worthless and people who have achieved success in any capacity are just "lucky"

Can we bury "Chad" once and for all? RIP.
 
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