Chad has cancer - becomes incel-tier

[MatureDJ]

I Was A Confident 21-Year-Old. Then I Woke Up With A Tube Of Skin Connecting My Cheek To My Chest.

"When I left the hospital after my three-week stay, I felt I looked like a monster, and it seemed others saw the same thing."

www.huffpost.com

 

[corrector]

This is what he learned in his journey:

1. My religious faith gives me strength and courage to weather every day, but most importantly it gives me hope.
2. I surround myself with positive people that I trust.
3. I focus on my most pressing challenge and set goals I know I can achieve. That helps me build confidence.
4. I focus on mindful positivity. When you start with gratitude, everything in life is better. Remember, we choose our attitude, so try to choose a positive one.
5. I looked for balance and outlets to get my mind off the day-to-day stressors of surgery, treatment, and the fear of a recurrence and continue to do the same.
6. Group therapy was instrumental in my healing. I found the courage to share my vulnerabilities, and that was freeing.
7. Practicing positive imaging every day allows me to visualize a better future and calm me and put me at ease when I’m feeling anxious.

This is the more weighter part of the article that deals with how he transformed and built his inner-game. Chads are very insecure in the end that they are emotionally tied to their looks. If they lose their looks then they are devestated but have to rebuild. The same mindset that brought him from the bottom up can be used by anyone.

The biggest game changer for him was his religious faith.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Quote the article: "With a fresh perspective, I saw that my surgeries and their outcomes weren’t something I could control. What I could control was focusing on rebuilding what was inside"

Yeah, our capacity to alter and modify our physical attributes are fairly limited... Our internal state, by contrast, is highly malleable

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Dude still managed to get a wife.

Which means he's ahead of most sosuavers.

Not exactly incel tier.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Not exactly incel tier.

Which highlights once again The Myth Of Incel-dom... Such a lifestyle isn't remotely "involuntary". The vast majority of fellas who wear that label ARE NOT men who are heavily disfigured, physically crippled, etc etc. Yeah, they've often suffered psychological trauma of some sort, nonetheless they're making a conscious choice to avoid the sometimes uncomfortable work of addressing all that sh-t

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Such a lifestyle isn't remotely "involuntary"

Celibacy isn't involuntary any more than being fat is involuntary.

 

[Dash Riprock]

A few years back I had a couple dates with a hot chick (~HB8.5), though it was more of a fling. We went paddle boarding and I remember her saying that she recently broke up with her boyfriend -- who was in the hospital with brain cancer. I remember thinking what a cold b*tch she was, but she was lean and hot so I did have s*x with her. I asked her if she was going to start swiping on Tinder now. She said she won't have to because she had another guy lined up already. So, she's screwing me while dating another guy and dumped her boyfriend with cancer days ago. The kicker was on our first "date," I asked her what her hidden talent was. Straight up without hesitation she said sucking d*ck. I about spit out my drink laughing.

She is/was one messed up chick.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

There's not much deeper meaning to this. People care about what's inside and out; some care more about one more than the other, but most of us care about both to a certain degree.

Dude still managed to get a wife.

Which means he's ahead of most sosuavers.

Not exactly incel tier.

He met her in mid 90s, just before things were about to starting to turn to shvt in the dating scene.

I am skeptical he could have married a good women if this were happening to him today. Not impossible, but unlikely.

I do agree he does not sound remotely "incel tier" though. Incels are more of a mindset, not a demographic.

 

[BaronOfHair]

He met her in mid 90s, just before things were about to starting to turn to shvt in the dating scene

In The 90s, folks were groaning over how much better dating/life more generally was in The 60s, 70s, and 80s. Now, we're nostalgic for a decade that


-Began in economic downturn

-Initially boasted crime rates that appeared destined to only skyrocket, before plummeting unexpectedly by '95

-Exploded into nationwide riots, after the Rodney King verdict

-Exposed the incompetence rampant within our judicial system on live TV, via OJ Simpson's trial

-Refused to leave renewed enthusiasm for military adventurism back in The 80s: The years between 90-98 saw The Gulf War, Black Hawk Dawn, a temporary occupation of Haiti, meddling in Yugoslavia... Blaming 9/11 almost entirely for the rise of the national security state is a gross oversimplification which rarely goes unchallened: We were already headed in this direction, long before The WTC was obliterated. The less said about the persistence of covert action all points south of the border, the better, during the reigns of both Bush I AND Clinton, the better

-Was plagued by persistent hysteria over teen pregnancy rates... Now, we're taking the piss out of the under 20 crowd for NOT having enough sex

-Saw the then First Lady and future all-around-pain-the-ass stand up on live TV, for the express purpose of "encouraging" us all to beware a tidal wave of pre-adolescent superpredators that was going to smash across our nation, in the very near future

-For a time, seemed to confirm the aforementioned hysteria, via events like Columbine

-Allowed Jerry Springer, Maury Povich, Jenny Jones, Ricki Lake, Montell Williams, etc to become household names and, in some cases(Springer, Povich)venerated institutions unto themselves. Hell, The 90s continued to supply the likes of Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael with immense audiences

I could go on for several pages, listing the many seemy aspects of The 90s that we now ignore today. There are no "good ol' days" to return to, objectionable as parts of the present day are