CerwinVegaFan's Journey

[Cerwin Vega]

I'm 3 months post breakup and I still can't stop thinking about the ex. She has most likely moved on, I don't know. I should move on as well.

Enough is enough, it's time to make a change.

My goals for 7/14-1/15

Asthetics
º Cut down to 8 percent body bat - Current: 13-14%
º Gain 2kg of lean muscle mass

Social
º Meet new friends
º Go on at least 10 dates

Financial
º Study the basics of German language
º Study for the SATs

Other
º Finish at least 2 real (not electronic) books that are not related to pickup
º Sell all my old speakers and ****
º Sell the shoes I bought for my ex before she dumped me
º Learn to play my fvcking guitar already

How am I going to archive this?
- Diet plan. According to a very simple formula, I can be on a maximum deficit of around 700 calories. This means around 1350 calories without any workout. High protein diet!!!
- Workout plan. Kris Getin all the way
- Supplements. I will continue with the supplements I am taking:
Creatine, L-Carnitine, Omega 3, Schizandra, RoseGuard, Multivitamins
- Approach. 20 approaches per week will yield 400 approaches in 5 months. I'm not aiming for a high number because I want to be as honest as I can.
- Duolingo to start learning how to speak German.
- 4 hours of daily studying for the SATs
- 30 minutes of guitar per day

I will keep this thread updated with my progress.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

26/7/2014

-Low appetite ever since I talked to my ex, I've been trying to force a few meals with great success. I mostly ate cottage cheese and fish today.
-Finished a street workout for my upper body. Can't wait to join the gym and start the Kris Gethin workout plan.
-Since it's Saturday, I've been home most of the day so zero approaches.
-Tried to study, got stuck, I'll get back to it tomorrow.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

02/08/2014

Looking at the last post here, I'm million times better.

Day 6 of no-fap challenge, as opposed to fapping 2-3 times daily.

* I've hit the gym today - cardio + leg workout, attempted to open an HB9 there (WOW! What an ass!)
FAILED:
-I've shown too much interest
-Didn't demonstrate enough value (DHV)
-Uncomfortable body language
-She was in the middle of a workout so it's not 100% my fault
Conclusion: At least I finished my workout, the rejection bounced right off me

* Tried to study today, didn't go so well. I can't pull off 4 hours of studying daily as well...

* Went out to the local mall, ALONE. Cold approaches, nothing but openers:
- Dressed up super dandy
- A few warm up sets ("what's the time?" "where's x shop?")
- Attempted to open 6 sets, 3 with the classic "cheating girlfriend" opinion opener and 3 with my own "how's this shirt?" opinion opener.
- One total blow-off ("are you seriously going around asking for people's opinions?"), one bleh and the rest were really nice
- I could've approached at least 5 more sets but I was stifled. Argh!

I didn't expect anything from tonight so no disappointments.
It seems like girls in a mall are in a rush and I can't really get a normal conversation going.

THIS SH1T IS HARD!

NEW GOAL - Stop talking about the ex outside this forum. COMPLETELY

 

[Cerwin Vega]

03/08/2014

Woke up depressed and without any will to do anything.
My friend sent me this - http://www.videobash.com/video_show/bioenergetic-catharsis-398131
I tried to watch it and implement what he said seriously, I ended up cracking up. The deep breathing and yelling did help though.

Approached one girl on the bus, no result. I need to stop doing half assed approaches and do some real ones.

Been talking to this plate I met on a social network site, only seen a few pictures of her and from what I gather she's an HB8.5, intermediate interest level.
She's from another city but fits very well to my Girlfriend Wishlist; I should go and approach other girls so I won't get sucked into this virtual relationship.

20 minutes of cardio + light workout.
Huge appetite, been eating a bit of junk today but I'm still on caloric deficiency.

Studying is going too slow. Low motivation because the subject is too damn hard.

Day 7 of no-fap challenge. I am going to continue the challenge until I get laid again, it's been 3.5 months, fvcking ridiculous

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Had a good day.

The chick I met online turned out to be fat. Ouch

Went out to the mall today and approached about 7 sets, 3 as warm-ups, 3 were half assed and lasted less than a minute and the last one continued to a 3 minute conversation.

I'm really only taking baby steps here but overall I'm pleased.

System check:
NC going strong.
NOFAP going strong.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I'm really only taking baby steps here but overall I'm pleased.

That's the (only) way to do it. You can't really fake this sh!t, though some do prescribe 'fake it 'til you make it'.

So-called day game is not really something I've ever engaged with, but may be to my own detriment. If it happens naturally, like chatting to a shop girl or hair-dresser (sh!t man, I once got the number of a steamy hairdresser!) I'll take a number, but all this approaching all seems, and probably comes across, a bit try-hard. I've noticed a couple of guys recently blatantly coming onto chicks in the street and as an onlooker, it seems a bit weird.

Approaching chicks while on a night out is completely different to randomly walking up to a stranger while she's going about her daily business.

-When she's out socialising, she's there to be social and part of that is to be picked up, therefore a close of any kind is much more likely.

-When she's going about her daily business during the day, she's not really there to be picked up; she's there to go about her business, therefore a close of any kind is much more unlikely.


All the same, you seem to be doing a bit better than a few weeks back CVF.

Keep it up.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

DISCLAIMER: I go to the BARBERSHOP these days! Those hairdressing visits were during intervening formative beta years!

 

[MattTheW]

I don't cold approach, one thing I do is:

Me and some of the guys from work always go to the same sandwich shop in town, so we've built up quite a good rapport with the staff (all of them are 40-50 easily).....

What I do is I actually chat to them everytime I go in, but when there's a nice woman there as well i'll bring them into the conversation if possible, the staff are usually quite busy, so they'll drop out of the conversation, or come back in sporadically.....but usually the "nice woman" will chat a little due to the "familiarity" of the staff being "involved" in the conversation as well.....

I've never used it to get a number or anything, I just use it as practice as I feel I really need it lol

 

[Cerwin Vega]

I didn't expect to see any replies here so I'm kind of surprised, thank you brothers!

@TheMonkeyKing

Approaching chicks while on a night out is completely different to randomly walking up to a stranger while she's going about her daily business.

-When she's out socialising, she's there to be social and part of that is to be picked up, therefore a close of any kind is much more likely.

-When she's going about her daily business during the day, she's not really there to be picked up; she's there to go about her business, therefore a close of any kind is much more unlikely.

I totally get what you're saying. I'm doing things a bit differently at the moment - I'm not out after numbers or dates but rather just overcoming my social phobias and opening myself up to be able to talk to complete strangers with ease.
It's a long process, especially for a closed person who takes himself way too seriously like me.
About the hair styling - I use a hair trimmer with the guard off. Military you know...

@MattTheW
That's awesome man, I can't really afford going out much so I do what I can (going to the mall, it's free and not so far away from where I live).

@PairPlusRoyalFlush
I appreciate it!

You guys just gave me a kick of motivation to go out and work on my skills tonight as well!

If anyone is interested, here's my schedule:
- 1-2 "warm up" approaches to old men/women/shop sellers:
me: excuse me, what's the time?
- 2-3 "warmer" approaches:
me: hi, how do I get to x store?
girl: here
me: thanks *excuse myself*
- normal approaches:
me: hi, I need a quick opinion *my opener*
girl: blablabla
me: 2nd part of opener
girl: blablabla
me: really? that's cool. thanks. *excuse myself*

Tonight I'm going to throw another opener (who lies more, men or women) right after part two of my opener and see how it goes.

I know...relying on a system is bad, indirect openers are outdated etc. If anyone has something to offer - I'm more than willing to go for it.

 

[MattTheW]

@MattTheW
That's awesome man, I can't really afford going out much so I do what I can (going to the mall, it's free and not so far away from where I live).

The joke of it is that I rarely spend money there, I make my own food cos I'm trying to cut my BF.

I stroll in and chat to the staff whilst the other guys order their food to take away and wait for it to be made

But I get what you mean

I started this for pretty much the same reason as you, I came out of a long relationship and found that I'd lost the knack of the cold approach, almost to the social introvert degree......

Stick with this log fella, you'll have your ups and downs (we all do) but it gets a lot easier.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Thanks man, it's very encouraging to see others who started from where I am today.

As promised, I went to the mall.
I felt I needed less warmup approaches, 3-4
The following approaches were pretty smooth, although I startled a bit at the beginning of each approach, I quickly got my sh!t together and talked confidently and calmly.

The best part was when I opened up two young girls and had almost a whole 5 minute conversation with them, they seemed a bit bored/annoyed but it was a hell of an improvement for me!
I even threw a neg (your nose moves when you laugh) at one of the girls for telling me "why are you asking all these questions?", she almost got insulted, LOL!

Overall I'm happy, still not ready to do the full routines but hey, I would've never pulled this off a year ago.

I'm having a few difficulties:
My hands are getting frozen when I get into the mall. It's a combination of the air conditioner and the excitement. When I say frozen, I mean it - icy cold!
I don't know how to transition from one opener to another. On my longest routine today it seemed like I'm just buying time with a bunch of questions...like I'm interviewing them.