henrymiller50
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How do you feel about your wife or girlfriends cell phone behavior in general? I'm not talking about worrying about shady things, just general behavior.
For example, do you have boundaries? Are there acceptable/unacceptable behaviors for you? Things you tolerate or won't tolerate?
For example, when my GF were first dating, she would put her cell phone away when we were together. She'd either put it in another room or in a drawer in the kitchen. It was out of site and out of mind. I loved that.
She would check it a few times a night and use it if needed, but that was it. After a few months, when she got real comfortable with me she started leaving it out near her when we were sitting around. She's also have it on the table if we were playing cards or something and text friends back as they texted. It was really intrusive and I didn't like it. Her cell checking and texing and its constant visibility was too much for me.
Finally, I told her that we need boundaries and guidelines for cell etiquette. I told her I didn't want our relationship to be her, me, and her cell. I said if you are waiting for a doctor to call, you can lay it next to you. Otherwise, put it away, put in in another room and only check/use if there is an urgent situation or important message that needed to be return. I don't care where you have it when I'm not home, tape it to your cheek for all I care, but when we are spending time together and hanging out, put it away. She has followed those guidelines for the most part and it's been great.
Would love to hear your thoughts on that issue for you.
For example, do you have boundaries? Are there acceptable/unacceptable behaviors for you? Things you tolerate or won't tolerate?
For example, when my GF were first dating, she would put her cell phone away when we were together. She'd either put it in another room or in a drawer in the kitchen. It was out of site and out of mind. I loved that.
She would check it a few times a night and use it if needed, but that was it. After a few months, when she got real comfortable with me she started leaving it out near her when we were sitting around. She's also have it on the table if we were playing cards or something and text friends back as they texted. It was really intrusive and I didn't like it. Her cell checking and texing and its constant visibility was too much for me.
Finally, I told her that we need boundaries and guidelines for cell etiquette. I told her I didn't want our relationship to be her, me, and her cell. I said if you are waiting for a doctor to call, you can lay it next to you. Otherwise, put it away, put in in another room and only check/use if there is an urgent situation or important message that needed to be return. I don't care where you have it when I'm not home, tape it to your cheek for all I care, but when we are spending time together and hanging out, put it away. She has followed those guidelines for the most part and it's been great.
Would love to hear your thoughts on that issue for you.
