You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think you're going to the extreme here. While calibration is a must (i.e., only carrying girls who are showing interest), it is very successful when done correctly. Yes, it takes massive courage to do it and most men do not. Personally, I do it all the time. This is actually how I got an HB8.5 home one time. I threw her over my shoulder and started walking away from her friends. When she asked where we were going, I said "I'm taking you home with me." She burst into laughter. I set her down and began making out with her. We then got inside my car and the rest is, well, historyVladPatton said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
One day you won't think it's so fun after some chick freaks out over your antics and you have to explain yourself sitting inside a police station.Robyn923b said:
Robyn923b said:
You are entitled to your opinion. I don't live to please others at the expense of my own happiness, which is essentially the foundation of AFChood if you think about it.Valentino14 said:
That's what I was really asking about Robyn, you said it displays strength and confidence which is what I think I need to improve upon. You also aluded to the fact that you know the girls a little such as the example you gave of tossing the girl over your shoulder. How does this translate when you are in a club? How much of a rapport do you have before doing the over the shoulder thing? I certainly didn't mean to say that people should go doing this to random strangers as the police would quickly get involved but I suppose I wasn't clear on that in the OP. :woo:Robyn923b said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You would walk up to a girl you just met and carry her off down the street?n00bPimp said:
No I doubt anyone would but if it's a girl you have established a rapport with it's possible and if it's a house party you could be a little more daring.goldengoose said:
RedemptionJ said:
Yeah, if it's a girl you actually know that's fine. But not girls you only knew for a few minutes in public settings like Robyn is trying to say. Who the hell would do that?Robyn923b said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most of those PUA videos are fake. They pay random chicks do the stuff on the videos. I was at a club once and they were paying chicks to be in the videos and made it look real. What do you think some chick would do if you picked her up like a sack of potatoes after you spoke to her for only five minutes at night?zekko said:
I wouldn't doubt that at all. But the video looked so strange because these guys were just carrying these girls around like they were floor lamps or something. It seemed like the girls were just tolerating it, there didn't appear to be any conversation going on or anything. Very weird.goldengoose said:
I had no idea that I was one of very few guys who do thisgoldengoose said:
Agreed.Lotus Effect said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
