I got divorced a couple years ago and decided it was time to buy a house as opposed to renting an apartment so i ask my sister if she would be interested in be a roommate.She was liveing in a mobile home that needed lots of work and the managment was constantly raiseing her lot rent.So i buy the house and she moves in and right away my sister and my daughter who lives with me every other week begin to fite and try to get me to take sides.What ideas do some of you more seasoned guys have for ending this B.S?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
caught in the middle??
- Thread starter catman
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Hey Catman, you got yourself a catfight. Hose 'em both down.
caught in the middle
Ya the hose has got to be better than listen to the *****en,whineing,nagging ect.. I realized years ago that women never ever like the girlfriend you had before them but damn were family and that her neice and the others aunt?What the hell am i going to go through when i find a girlfriend?I have already laid down the law with both of them by telling my sister that if she doesnt get off my ass she can get the **** out!Told my daughter that she either straights out or she not liveing with me and ill send her to a group home cause shes out of control and has no respect for anyone anyway just like my ex!Since you seem to know your **** i have a question for u johpill.I have been trying the internet dateing and while i get responses i have yet to find a women that meets any of my standards i am looking for the following she needs to have a job,have her own place to live,look after her kids if she has any,have good personal hygein You wouldnt believe the **** i have seen and the women i have meet.Are all the internet women losers looking for a place to land and someone to sponge off or is this all thats left in todays world?I dont really want to break up someone elses family by doing married women but whats my options here?Are all the good ones taken by the age 35-45?Dont tell me to find a fat one cause i have tryied but honestly my **** doesnt work on them (and thats embarrasing too)? I went to the clinic and i have no stds so im assuming cause im not physcally attracted to them is why this keeps happening?Your thoughts??
Ya the hose has got to be better than listen to the *****en,whineing,nagging ect.. I realized years ago that women never ever like the girlfriend you had before them but damn were family and that her neice and the others aunt?What the hell am i going to go through when i find a girlfriend?I have already laid down the law with both of them by telling my sister that if she doesnt get off my ass she can get the **** out!Told my daughter that she either straights out or she not liveing with me and ill send her to a group home cause shes out of control and has no respect for anyone anyway just like my ex!Since you seem to know your **** i have a question for u johpill.I have been trying the internet dateing and while i get responses i have yet to find a women that meets any of my standards i am looking for the following she needs to have a job,have her own place to live,look after her kids if she has any,have good personal hygein You wouldnt believe the **** i have seen and the women i have meet.Are all the internet women losers looking for a place to land and someone to sponge off or is this all thats left in todays world?I dont really want to break up someone elses family by doing married women but whats my options here?Are all the good ones taken by the age 35-45?Dont tell me to find a fat one cause i have tryied but honestly my **** doesnt work on them (and thats embarrasing too)? I went to the clinic and i have no stds so im assuming cause im not physcally attracted to them is why this keeps happening?Your thoughts??
catman said:Ya the hose has got to be better than listen to the *****en,whineing,nagging ect.. I realized years ago that women never ever like the girlfriend you had before them but damn were family and that her neice and the others aunt?What the hell am i going to go through when i find a girlfriend?I have already laid down the law with both of them by telling my sister that if she doesnt get off my ass she can get the **** out!Told my daughter that she either straights out or she not liveing with me and ill send her to a group home cause shes out of control and has no respect for anyone anyway just like my ex!Since you seem to know your **** i have a question for u johpill.I have been trying the internet dateing and while i get responses i have yet to find a women that meets any of my standards i am looking for the following she needs to have a job,have her own place to live,look after her kids if she has any,have good personal hygein You wouldnt believe the **** i have seen and the women i have meet.Are all the internet women losers looking for a place to land and someone to sponge off or is this all thats left in todays world?I dont really want to break up someone elses family by doing married women but whats my options here?Are all the good ones taken by the age 35-45?Dont tell me to find a fat one cause i have tryied but honestly my **** doesnt work on them (and thats embarrasing too)? I went to the clinic and i have no stds so im assuming cause im not physcally attracted to them is why this keeps happening?Your thoughts??
Could you ramble about your fears and insecurities a bit more incoherently and refrain from using paragraphs? Thanks.
As for your household, its lead, follow or get out of the way. Your gonna have to take the lead here. What is your personality like? Maybe that's a key to why you are having a hard time with them. Are you soft spoken? A people pleaser? Anti Confrontational?
caught in the middle
Sorry about the paragraphs? Im pretty laid back but have a tendancy to hold stuff in till i cant take any more then i snap be it on man or women.Im not getting the scaried part or insecurity part your saying warrior please explain?As far as my question on the internet dateing just wondering if others have had the same results i have?I have pulled several from the bars lately last one was a cute 27 yo blond that didnt offer her number in the morning cause she had a bf she didnt have one the night before?Whats your take on the little soldier not working i nerver had this problem when i was married or even a year after my divorce?That what scares me is what your saying?
Sorry about the paragraphs? Im pretty laid back but have a tendancy to hold stuff in till i cant take any more then i snap be it on man or women.Im not getting the scaried part or insecurity part your saying warrior please explain?As far as my question on the internet dateing just wondering if others have had the same results i have?I have pulled several from the bars lately last one was a cute 27 yo blond that didnt offer her number in the morning cause she had a bf she didnt have one the night before?Whats your take on the little soldier not working i nerver had this problem when i was married or even a year after my divorce?That what scares me is what your saying?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.