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Ive been in two minds whether to post this story on here as its still raw and actually quite painful to think about

But this was certainly the last time i will ever place any amount of hope or faith in a woman (not that i had much to begin with) and hopefully this will show a few guys around here exactly how brutal women are capable of being if given an inch

So here we go

For the last month or so ive been casually dating this chick we’ll call her Natalie.....weve known each other a lot longer than that but finally things had started progressing lately ....I’ve always been crazy about her but always managed to keep myself in check around her always letting her give an equal amount of effort as me

Ive been warned about her a couple of times in the past but chose to ignore the warnings because i liked her (first critical error)

My gut always told me she was a player but i figured my game was good enough to negate it (second critical error)

So on Saturday we are meant to be having a date, but she gets called into work (genuine excuse) and we have to cancel no biggie ......i leave it at that and go chill with my boys

The next day (Sunday) and it’s a bank holiday weekend so everyone is hyped to go out and get smashed , i don’t bother texting Natalie as i know shes going out and il probably hook up with her later anyway
Sunday afternoon she texts me out of the blue telling me to ring her when i get out and meet her ......i wasn’t expecting this as its usually me arranging to meet and i felt pretty good after it

I reply and say yea sure i have vip in the club so ring me before you get here and il get you in

So the night rolls on and i get absolutely smashed on vodka probably doesn’t help i haven’t been out in a while and seem to be even more drunk than usual

I arrive at the club and after a little confusion finally get in , by which point Natalie is calling me to come get her .....Back out i go she’s with her friend Katie, who i sense takes an immediate disliking to me but whatever im too drunk to care

So i get them in and take them to VIP where i find the rest of my boys have caused too much trouble and have been asked to leave.....great
Me Natalie and Katie have a drink in vip anyway and a chat in vip and everything seems to be going great

My primary concern at this point is getting rid of Katie as i know full well she’s going to attempt to CB me so i try to split them up by attempting to take Natalie to the smoking area ,Where she bumps into a group of guys she knows, i aint really interested in them and don’t want to be hanging about she says she wants to stay to speak to them (blatant disrespect) i get annoyed and tell her i aint fighting over her and leave her there,

(i very much doubt any guy has ever spoken to her like this before as she’s so used to guys running around her and she’s p1ssed off)

As if things couldn’t get any worse at this point i then have a team of bouncers approach me about the damage caused to VIP

Im in a bad mood now and my fuse is short ....i argue with the bouncers and get escorted off the premises

As im outside dealing with the bouncers and now police who have arrived to take statements ....i catch Natalie walking out of the club with another guy on her arm She saw me and ignored me

At this point i was literally lost for words, how much bad luck can one guy take lmao

I was in two minds yesterday about whether to contact her and call her out on her absolutely disgusting heartless behaviour.....but i eventually concluded it wouldn’t actually gain me much as i would never be able to forgive her now and any attraction i had towards her has been destroyed

Decided to take the high route and Proceeded to removed the toxic biatch from my life instead as a friend said yesterday if she had an ounce of a morale compass she would contact me to at the very least apologise but i wont be holding my breath

Despite having one of the worst weekends of my life i have decided to take some positives from it

1) She is now someone else’s problem

2) Once this is forgotten about and dusted under the carpet i will be near enough emotionally indestructible

3) Everything happens for a reason and i guess i needed to see this side of her now before things started getting REALLY serious so for that i am greatfull

4) My luck has to change eventually ;)

5) After the way i have treated some women in the past i probably deserved every ounce of what i got you cannot hide from karma

6) Never underestimate anyone or anything people are not as dull at they look

I’ve been as honest as i can here and i haven’t pulled any punches i got played...... but all i can do now is take the experience and run for the hills with it

Il be back ;)
 

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Ever thought this is a much your fault as anyones?
 

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i should have heeded others advice before getting so heavily attached to this chick yeh of course

unfortunatley as so often is the case in these scenarios i didnt want to see her for what she really was

aside from that i dont really see much there i could have done differentley.....an extreme combination of women being women , bad luck and being in the wrong place at the wrong time :yes:
 

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She sensed you were drunk.

A drunk is a sign of a man who's not in control of himself...and that my friend is why you jerk3d off over the weekend. Hanging out with friends who caused havok at the club was just the icing on the cake
 

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Tiguere said:
She sensed you were drunk.

A drunk is a sign of a man who's not in control of himself...and that my friend is why you jerk3d off over the weekend. Hanging out with friends who caused havok at the club was just the icing on the cake
So wise my friend, control. Never loose it
 

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I have to agree. You were drunk...maybe not so pleasant to be around when you are drunk. Your friends got ejected from the place for a**hole behavior I assume. Plus, maybe she thinks your were rude to her friend. So she left the place with someone else, who swooped in and capitalized on your behavior.
 

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sup guys?... even though this dude was drunk I think he handled the situation like a true DJ by leaving that chiq, rather than getting aggressive and physical like any average drunk dude would've done
 

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I would just say that not much damage is done. She is going with another guy but she hates it. Try to see the truth of the situation.

You can get her back easily but just make sure you get it right with the bouncers again. Seriously, just do that.

Your goal is not to get the girl. Your goal is to make sure the girl gets you. You don't know how hard they have it getting the guy they like. That's a different perspective I guess.
 

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absolutely disgusting heartless behaviour.

Dude, she wh0res around clubs. Why would you expect a wh0re to have a heart? That mistake is the source of your problem.
 

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Thank the guy who got rid of the trash for you.

(i very much doubt any guy has ever spoken to her like this before as she’s so used to guys running around her and she’s p1ssed off)
And apparently she is used to replacing her guy in the blink of an eye, just like a true DJ.
 

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Drunk, been there done that (Last Wednesday) it sucks. Learn from it. Self control, friends being kicked out of a club? I've came to the conclusion that if I ever have important stuff or decisions to make throughout the night I WILL NOT get wasted again in my life. Hopefully you've learned this, but the girl didn't seem like a huge loss anyways.
 

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been in this spot. it's a lose lose for you. if you don't contact her, she is going to text you. this girl needs the attention. and it sounds like she's hot so despite your instincts your gonna take her back. This can be good or bad. If you do what I did youll forgive her "kinda" and take her back. never trusting her and hating her, and what happened i guarantee you will happen again. Or you could **** her a handful more times, be distant. Get the power. and cut her loose.

But I know the feeling. It sucks.
 

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i appreciate everyones input , not actually feeling so crap now i had my whiny little b1tch day yesterday time to man the fvck up .......a dj doesnt concern himself over hoe's its not good for his phsyce

anyway looking forward to taking a few weeks out of the game now time to seriously hit the gym get some new tattoos/clothes and book a holiday ........

mjh1589 said:
been in this spot. it's a lose lose for you. if you don't contact her, she is going to text you. this girl needs the attention. and it sounds like she's hot so despite your instincts your gonna take her back. This can be good or bad. If you do what I did youll forgive her "kinda" and take her back. never trusting her and hating her, and what happened i guarantee you will happen again. Or you could **** her a handful more times, be distant. Get the power. and cut her loose.

But I know the feeling. It sucks.

this is really interesting ,and yea i got feeling she may attempt to make some sort of contact with me within the next week or so even if its just to check the lay of the land...... women fvcking hate the thought of losing a guy (even more so when they feel he didn't really care)

if she does this will temporarily give me an advantage , it won't be much use as I've already detached from her and the thought of her being pounded by the guy i saw her leave with is enough to make me feel sick........ none the less old bingo has a sting in his tail and is more than happy to give her a dose of her own medicine :trouble:

if she don't then as my friend said , she really couldn't have given 2 fvcks about me which in the long run will have done me a big favour :rolleyes:

yea she is hot with a killer body i can't take that away from her and i doubt many guys would say no , but at the same time there's an eery emptiness to her personality something which i suspect she may trip over as she gets older

all in all yea it is a sh1t lesson to learn but one i think most guys need to go through in order to grow :rockon:
 

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As Tony Montana said, you f*cked up :)
 

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Bingo-Player said:
she bumps into a group of guys she knows, i aint really interested in them and don’t want to be hanging about she says she wants to stay to speak to them (blatant disrespect) i get annoyed and tell her i aint fighting over her and leave her there
You obviously made many mistakes, the biggest of which was getting drunk. But you made a big mistep here. When she said she wanted to stay and speak with them, you should have been completely unphased and done your own thing.
 
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