Re: Intimate hinting
Originally posted by Dutch Woods
I guess my mistake in the past often was not being able to hint in an intimate as opposed to a friendly way (was I an AFC? Well... maybe AFCish). Any good suggestions for this intimate hinting?
What has worked for me is that I make women feel very comfortable with me by being mildly intimate with them in areas where they feel comfortable. Public places like coffee shops, shopping malls, museums and the like are perfect places to do this. You can easily be funny and confident with them and when you subtly include something intimate, she will notice it and feel special about it. This works extremely well if you play it cool and not engage her whenever you have a free moment.
For example let's take your idea of meeting at a museum. Consider this, go to the museum by yourself first. Enjoy it on your own without the unnecessary pressure of having another person along with you. In essence, do things that you would normally do as if you didn't know that she existed, that you still have your own personal life. Doing this will make you less dependent on her presence for entertainment.
A couple of days later or so contact her for an impromptu meeting after work or for lunch for a quick get together for coffee, something light and carefree. Talk to her about what she has been up to remembering to use kino in a non sexual way. For example, when she tells you something exciting, touch or squeeze her hand lightly while sharing her excitement. IMPORTANT: DO NOT LOOK AT YOUR HANDS WHILE DOING THIS, KEEP EYE CONTACT! This will keep the focus on your mutual excitement and not sexual contact. What a concept, a guy that isn't forcing himself on her and has control of himself, add a couple of interest level points.
Eventually, you share some of your weeks events with her. A little about work and the latest reality television show or Will and Grace episode you've watched. Then mention the museum exhibit that you visited. Tell her about how interesting you found it to be. Be specific about a couple of exhibits you particularly liked while using the hand squeezing kino, she should not only be receptive to the kino now but also return the kino. Add even more interest level points.
To top it off, you tell her "You know, I think you should treat yourself and visit the exhibit sometime." Yeah, make it sound like she should go BY HERSELF and see it sometime. "Wow, I wish he would have asked me to go with him when he went, it would have been a great time
," should be going through here mind. Watch her facial expression, it will show if only for a brief moment. Talk about a guy being a challenge.
Here's the key intimate point, she will either be beside herself and tell you outright that she wish she would have gone with you or she will still be pouting about it to herself. So now you will do HER a favor. Tell her something like "You know what, for a nice dinner and little conversation, I am willing to find some free time and show you the exhibit."
What makes this work on an intimate level is that you are giving her the chance to share in something that you were excited about. Subconsciously, she should be thinking that you
may be interested in her since you are willing to take her to see the exhibit, or maybe you just want to see the exhibit again, hmmmmm.....
Add a few more interest level points.
Finally, do not pick her up, agree to meet in front of the museum. You are a busy guy and you can only allot her so much time
. When you first see her there, walk toward her when you greet her smiling from ear to ear. Show your enthusiasm while still keep your cool by saying something like "Hey cutie, lets go have some fun!" Give her a wink and grab her hand and quickly lead her up the stairs to enter the museum.
She should be enjoying your little complement and your confidence by taking her hand and leading her up the stairs. The key to this is that she should be a little confused in that you showed that you were happy to see her but yet you seem more excited about seeing the exhibits since you are practically running into the museum while pulling her along. Even more interest level points.
You'll be successful by using a a lot of kino but in small spurts at first. Hold her hand only until you get inside the museum. Walk a little and then guide her by the arm or shoulder to see a particular exhibit you like. Again, remember not to focus your eyesight on the kino. Think about fishing and landing one but not reeling it in completely, give her a little play in the line after pulling her in close. Do this repeatedly and her interest level will consistently increase.
After a couple of outing like this (just two or three max) you should increase the length of each kino you enact with her. Hold her hand a little longer for example. Now, when you feel that she is initiating enough kino herself, make notice of the extended kino by NOW looking at the hand holding for a second or two and then into her eyes, then her lips and then back into her eyes. She should now be completely receptive to some more intense kino.
The rest is up to you, I've typed more than I had expected to and I need to grab some lunch and flirt with the new cashier....
Sarge on!!!!
