"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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casting a wide net on facebook

powpow

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I may regret posting this because I just tanked a fvckton of caffeine and I always have ****ing awesome ideas on caffeine. but this **** is genius and although I want to keep it to myself, you guys are my brothers and I will share it.

you know how facebook has that feature like "maybe you know this person"

well ****, whether you know them or not, I think you can spam a message like "you showed up on my maybe you know this person" on the side, and I don't think I know you but you looked interesting so I figured I would say hi"

you can do this with all the hotties ever.

but I wanted to run it past you guys does that seem creepy? I'm freaking major bipolar and sometimes I forget social norms.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt

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I think facebook makes those suggestions by showing you friends of your friends. Your line would make the most sense if you have at least the 'friend of a friend' connection. If you don't have that, you could "like" one of the same things she has, and maybe that is enough to explain the fb suggestion.
 

muscleman

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You can slowly build your network of hot girl 'friends' on FB, sure (through friends of friends, especially if you're good looking), but careful with spamming or doing too much. If you do it too much and people start reporting you, FB will automatically take progressively more drastic measures against your account for a certain period of time, and if you do it continuously anyway, you can get banned - blocking friend requests, blocking messages, etc.
 

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Yeah I did that for a few days, I was very careful to make sure they were girls with whom I had zero mutual friends, but I was still worried about them reporting me to Facebook. I stopped.

Also, nowadays on Facebook, if someone you're not friends with sends you a message, it doesn't even show up in your inbox. It shows up in 'other messages' and you don't get a notification that it's even there :down:
 

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ARrocket said:
Yeah I did that for a few days, I was very careful to make sure they were girls with whom I had zero mutual friends, but I was still worried about them reporting me to Facebook. I stopped.

Also, nowadays on Facebook, if someone you're not friends with sends you a message, it doesn't even show up in your inbox. It shows up in 'other messages' and you don't get a notification that it's even there :down:
Friend request first, if they accept send a message. Don't do message before FR. There are plenty of cute girls who will friend you but won't respond to your messages because they don't know you, but at least now they're in your network and you can use that to further branch out, and SOMETIMES they decide to message you when you post some status or the stars align or whatever. It's a shotgun approach but it works.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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