I'm trying to find out if there is any way to keep my bedridden mom's debt collectors at bay. I lost my job around xmas, pretty sh*tty that I got laid off for taking care of my dying mother. Anyhow, I would rather work when I can than collect UI. I'm just wondering if anyone has ever been in a situation where they had to spend all their time caring for a sick parent, and pay their bills as well as their own. Is their any temporary relief I'm unaware of?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Caring for a terminal parent, overwhelmed
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
That's rough, man.
Bankruptcy is about the only thing that will stop debt collectors, but if her health is that bad, it may not be worth the effort.
Good luck, regardless.
Bankruptcy is about the only thing that will stop debt collectors, but if her health is that bad, it may not be worth the effort.
Good luck, regardless.
Heart Break Kid
Master Don Juan
My best friend's mom was terminally ill due to cancer last year. He got a bursary from his house at the university for about 2000$. If you're a student, it's probably the best thing to do.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I feel you brother. I've been dealing with my father's Alzheimers and dementia for almost 5 years now.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Inside Man
Master Don Juan
Blessings and prayers to you, man. What you are doing is the right thing, and you know that. **** everything else.
yungahdubz
Senior Don Juan
If it's any consolation, i'm going through something similar. My mom has a condition of the nerves where her muscles basically give her pain all the time.
She can't work because of this and I've been looking for a job for 6 months but no one wants to recruit a 16 year old with no experience, especially with the way the economy is.
Banks ring us up everyday...
She can't work because of this and I've been looking for a job for 6 months but no one wants to recruit a 16 year old with no experience, especially with the way the economy is.
Banks ring us up everyday...
countermart
Don Juan
Check with your Government to see if they have a care payemnt
Mate in Australian we have a regular payment for people that have sole or part care of a person in medical care need...like your situation. Check out the situation with your government and get some support. Call the Cancer or what ever the problem is Authority in your city.
Hang in there and take one day at a time. I've been there and although you will not believe it now you are stronger than you imagine.
Countermart
Mate in Australian we have a regular payment for people that have sole or part care of a person in medical care need...like your situation. Check out the situation with your government and get some support. Call the Cancer or what ever the problem is Authority in your city.
Hang in there and take one day at a time. I've been there and although you will not believe it now you are stronger than you imagine.
Countermart