career harriden laments: ‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’

[MatureDJ]

https://www.thecut.com/2018/11/im-broke-and-friendless-and-ive-wasted-my-whole-life.html

I feel like a ghost. I’m a 35-year-old woman, and I have nothing to show for it. My 20s and early 30s have been a twisting crisscross of moves all over the West Coast, a couple of brief stints abroad, multiple jobs in a mediocre role with no real upward track. I was also the poster child for serial monogamy.

I have no wealth, and I’m now saddled with enough debt from all of my moves, poor decisions, and lack of career drive that I may never be able to retire. I have no career milestones and don’t care for my line of work all that much anyway, but now it’s my lifeline, as I only have enough savings to buy a hotel room for two nights.

Most of my nights are spent alone with my cat (cue the cliché).

I’m 35 and every gyno and women’s-health website this side of the Mississippi is telling me my fertility is dropping faster than a piano falling out of the sky. Now I’m looking into freezing my eggs, adding to my never-ending financial burden, in hopes of possibly making something of this haunted house and having a family someday with a no-named man.

What’s the point? I don’t care for my job. I’m not building toward anything, and I don’t have the time or money to really invest in what I care about anyway at this point. On top of that, society is telling me my value as a woman is fading fast, my wrinkles require Botox (reference said poor finances), all the while my manager is asking for me to finish “that report by Monday.” Why bother?

And with men I date, I feel pressure to make something of the relationship too soon (move in, get married, “I have to have kids in a couple of years”; fun times!). All the while still trying to be the sexpot 25-year-old I thought I was until what seemed like a moment ago.

my opinion:

 

[Who Dares Win]

Thats basically the life of many men in their 20s yet I dont see any of them being mad at the world.

No job satisfaction, invisible to the opposite sex, chances of getting fresh girls dropping by the minute, no cash for that car or house.

This woman had least had 20 years of fun and bad decisions getting free drinks and riding the carousel, what is she complaining for?

 

[BeExcellent]

At the end of the day in life the most important thing we have are our relationships with people we care about and who care about us. That and experiences. Who are your loyal friends and what have you experienced. If you are rich in those ways then you have had a good life. There are those among us who accomplish great things but all of us can be a great friend, a great lover, a great family member, a great person. All of us can choose to experience life and enjoy the moments along the way.

When people lose sight of the above they become empty. Empty people have nothing to offer others and thus become bitter and lonely and disenchanted. Be the best you can be and give of yourself to others. Life will reward you in big and small ways.

 

[Serenity]

Thats basically the life of many men in their 20s yet I dont see any of them being mad at the world.

Really? You clearly haven't paid attention then. Countless men are mad at the world, some of which have been seen right here on this forum.