"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Career Dilemma...Do or Die!

Mazeman11

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I have been down in the dirt for way too long.

I graduated with a BSc in Electrical Engineering last summer and I still haven't been able to land a job.

I've tried everything. Recruiters, Newspapers, job sites, networking, friends, family, references, Job fairs (More like a promotional tool for the company to advetise) small companies, large companies, you name it. I gave it a shot!

I even applied at Guitar ****in' Center and they didn't hire me (I think the fact I have a brain intimidated the middle-aged manager).

So here I am...I spent 5 years of my life in misery trying to get that degree which I thought was my ticket to better life. I was wrong!

While in college I barely had time to play guitar and pursue my true passion. I kept pushing things off and making plans rather than taking action. I've been through many changes since graduation and as soon as I see a glimmer of hope, everything comes crashing down.

I've been through many different interviews but in the end the only thing I get is the rejection email. The bastards don't even bother to do it over the phone.

The depression has sunk so deep that I don't even notice it anymore. The thing that gets me most is realizing how much potential I have yet no one seems to be willing to give me a chance.

Through the interviews and talking to many company managers, I have witnessed utmost incompetence and unprofessional behaviour from high ranking employees. Still, such imbecles are making TONS of money while I sit on my broke ass and bust my balls trying to sell myself to them with a big retarded grin my face.

There's a good metal band in New York that is looking for a guitarist and they might be interested in me and they are getting ready to go on tour.

At 25. I am very tempted to throw my engineering degree in the garbage or use it as rough toilet tissue and hit the road like there's no tomorrow.

I personally would prefer the stability of having a good job and making good money. But being unemployed for a year is just too much to take
and the who job hunt charade has taken it's toll on me psychologically.

So now I stand at an imaginary crossroad that bears neither signs nor gives me a sense of direction!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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So what's your question?
 

BingoBango

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How about working for free (engineering or whatever).

You're unemployed and earning no money anyway, so what difference would it make.
 

Mazeman11

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BingoBango said:
How about working for free (engineering or whatever).

You're unemployed and earning no money anyway, so what difference would it make.
It's not that easy. You can't just walk over and say you're willing to work for free. Companies don't work that way.

Otherwise there would be no such thing as unemployment!
 

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There's a good metal band in New York that is looking for a guitarist and they might be interested in me and they are getting ready to go on tour.

How many times in your life are you going to have an opportunity like this? Engineering is not going anywhere. Even several years down the road if you need a real-world job, you could go to grad school or get a certification in something. That path will always be there. Degrees don't expire, but when you are 40 and 50 you are not going to be getting invitations to tour with metal bands.

Plus, your struggles with adversity will have made you a better artist than someone who has never failed at anything. Think about how many songs you could write with just the material in your original post:

I have witnessed utmost incompetence and unprofessional behaviour from high ranking employees. Still, such imbecles are making TONS of money while I sit on my broke ass and bust my balls trying to sell myself to them with a big retarded grin my face.

So make music about the incompetence of corporate America.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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