"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cardio - 7 days from your 1st mma fight, what to do?

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So if you normally trained once a day, how would you structure the last week before your first mma cage fight? Should I do a set of sprints three times a day, spread throughout the day like high school football practice used to be? What is the schedule for cardio that you would put yourself on if you had the week free?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ya think? I certainly have noticed that it gets a lot worse after taking a week off. Normal training is a good cardio workout, but I am going to lighten up a lot so that I don't get cut or injured.

It's below freezing outside, and there is ice everywhere...running is a pain.

My girlfriend has one of these things, a "gazelle:"
http://tsa.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/p561100dt.jpg

maybe I will try it out.
 

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for being an athlete my entire life, for the last 2-3 weeks before a major competition we TAPER. meaning we gradually cut back day by day on our training to conserve energy and let our muscles rest fully. the day before the competition should be pure rest and relaxation. im surprised your coaches haven't put you through some sort of taper.
 

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The fight is late Sat night, so at least the last day will be all rest. I might still run some sprints on Friday. We do "taper" in a sense, but mostly to lighten up on contact and reduce the risks of injury and cuts. Going into a fight with a pre-existing cut is bad news.

I just dragged out the gazelle thing and tried it. It's gay as hell; the thing is made for housewives. I can't get out of breath on it.

Then I sprinted four blocks and about died. I am still coughing. I can roll (bjj submission grapple) for 30 minutes at a time, no breaks and rotating in fresh opponents, that is no big deal, but sprints just kill me.
 

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Hmmm...interesting. I'd probably work hard till a day or two before the fight. I notice when I take a certain amount of time off my body gets weaker with my lifts. May or may not be bad advice in regards of MMA
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well, its your first fight.

Make sure you note down what you did this week, and then note how you felt before the match. Then next time you'll know what to do.

Good luck!
 

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My fight is tonight. I haven't done any running since that last post, just mat work in jiu-jitsu.

I think I can stand and throw against my guy...but I'm gonna gas out if I don't knock him out right away. So my plan is to get the fight to the ground right away. I am much better on the ground anyway, but not running out of gas is my prime directive.

I will try to post a video for you guys to let you know how it went.
 

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Right on! Hope you win!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Round 3:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vK5YEYaa8LU

I left the audio. The female voice you hear saying "you got this sh!t" is an mma fighter herself.

Despite being so gassed out, I had him right where I wanted for a minute, but I knocked his mouthpiece out and across the cage. The ref stopped the fight to put my opponent's mouthpiece back in. I let him go when the ref said break because I did not know what was going on. I never got my weight back on him for the re-start, and he slipped away.
 

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Man, congrats first of all, you are a better man now.


You looked very tired, I don't know if it's your stance- so low, but it looked like you were looking at his feet and your hands were down majority of the time.

At any point I skip to it's you getting punched or kicked. I am guessing you were very tired half way into the fight, but congrats on getting it done, it will be easier from here on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have kind of a Rocky thing going on, where I feel like the other guy will get tired if I just let him wail on me a lot. It's hard to tell from the video, but he does not land any punches to my head while we are standing, all of it is blocked by my forearms and elbows. With the way he was swinging, I also thought I could get him to break his hand on my elbows or forehead. He does land some gut punches though, that was starting to hurt a little.

One minute into the fight itself, I took an inadvertent knee to the nuts:

http://i186.photobucket.com/albums/x252/dotheopposite/nutkneecrop.jpg

That is why I keep bending over after that and stop being aggressive. It took the life out of me for about a round and a half.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
I have kind of a Rocky thing going on, where I feel like the other guy will get tired if I just let him wail on me a lot. It's hard to tell from the video, but he does not land any punches to my head while we are standing, all of it is blocked by my forearms and elbows. With the way he was swinging, I also thought I could get him to break his hand on my elbows or forehead. He does land some gut punches though, that was starting to hurt a little.

One minute into the fight itself, I took an inadvertent knee to the nuts:

http://i186.photobucket.com/albums/x252/dotheopposite/nutkneecrop.jpg

That is why I keep bending over after that and stop being aggressive. It took the life out of me for about a round and a half.

Did you not take your 5 mins to walk it off?

Study the tape, practice more and you'll get him boy! You didn't get knocked out, that's a good start.
 

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Just watched all 3. Looks like you really got winded in the 2nd round, but then you said that it was the knee to the nuts. What kind of groin protection were you wearing?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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