"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LivA

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Okay, guys, here I am again, asking non Don Juan questions, but I tried the automotive board, but I guess it's because I'm a girl. Anyway, here is the questions I posted:

Make/Model: 2003 Grand Prix GTP

My problem started intermittently, but now it is constant, unless I start the car with the AC/heater off. Symptoms:

1. AC/heater does not work.
2. Rear defogger not working.
3. Driver information not working.
4. Heated seat not working.
5. DRL not working.

What I have tried:
1. Checked the fuse box in the glove box. Checked the fuse labeled DIC/HVAC, which controls the above-listed components. The fuse was fine. The prongs were a little brown. So, I replaced it with a spare fuse inside the fuse box under the hood. It was a 15 amp fuse.
2. Looked at each of the fuses in the glove box, all were fine.
3. Looked at the fuses under the hood, all were fine.

I called Pontiac, and was told there were reported problems, not my car model specifically, of the instrument panel cluster. However, my speedometer, etc. works, just the above-listed components.

I called a dealership and was told that it could be a shortage, something loose, etc., and told to bring it in for diagnostic. I thought maybe something might be corroded or something.

Any suggestions?


Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Suggested so far:

Ignition switch/harness assembly.
 

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The biggest problem is that you drive a Pontiac. Aging GM cars have all kinds of problems.

now it is constant, unless I start the car with the AC/heater off.

All you have to do to not have problems is have the heat off when you start the car? That's pretty easy. Heat and AC should be off when starting the engine anyway.

You likely have a short or bad wiring or a bad relay somewhere. It's probably a $5 part that might cost you $500 in labor to have a mechanic spend the time required to track down the problem. I had an electrical problem and went to a dealership five times; they said it was fixed each time, but it never was. Eventually they just gave up. I got a shade tree mechanic to creatively engineer around the problem. Yours seems easy to fix in that sense - just don't have the heat on when you start the car.
 

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Well, even if I don't have those when I start it, it does it sometimes.

If at all possible, I do not want to go to any dealerships or mechanics. I'm a girl, and well, you know.
 

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As if being a guy is some sort of a guarantee against getting ripped off? Mention in passing that your husband is an attorney :)

I have a great mechanic, whom I trust very much. I told him I trusted him because I saw the big Jesus tattoos up and down his arms. Maybe that's naive, but so far so good; the guy has a conscience, which is just as important in not getting ripped off as your own astuteness. That, and he knows I'd sue him if he pissed me off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Look on craigslist.org in the services area for a mechanic, they tend to be honest"er" and won't charge you $80 an hour for labor. I got some great deals and service by going through there. I love craigslist.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
As if being a guy is some sort of a guarantee against getting ripped off? Mention in passing that your husband is an attorney :)

I have a great mechanic, whom I trust very much. I told him I trusted him because I saw the big Jesus tattoos up and down his arms. Maybe that's naive, but so far so good; the guy has a conscience, which is just as important in not getting ripped off as your own astuteness. That, and he knows I'd sue him if he pissed me off.
What has worked for me so far is just getting information about the problem that I am having, with possible resolutions to present to the mechanic or whomever.

Anyway, thanks for the info.
 
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