I was driving out of a parking lot, and waiting for cars to pass before making a left onto a street, when i saw a cute Asian girl walking towards me on the sidewalk. She was about 20 meters away, so i waved but got no response. Not sure as to whether she didn't see me wave or ignored me, but that's irrelevant.
A spot finally opened up, and i turned into the street, driving her by. Wait a minute, i did what? FVCK! I pussied out and missed an opportunity to approach! FVCK! I REFUSE TO ACCEPT ANY CIRCUMSTANCE THAT LEADS TO FAILURE! Autopilot engaged!
BRAKES. U-TURN. GAS. BRAKES. PARK. EXIT.
"Hey! Listen, i really hate letting opportunities pass me by."
There, i fvcking did it! She was speechless. Just stood there with her mouth wide open, facial expression going from shocked to smiling and back again several times in a matter of seconds.
Approaches like this are some of the hardest i've ever done. This is only my second. The good news is that my anxiety level dropped from the first time. The bad news is that it was still too high.
What i realized is this: this is one daring way to approach. And she knows it too. She's never been approached like this in her life. She's shocked. I'm 180, she's 100. I'm over 6 feet, she's barely over 5. I look 24 (even though i'm 21), she looks 17. What state do you think that puts her in?
You must be absolutely comfortable, cool and laid-back in order for this to work. It's critical for you to bring her down from a state of anxiety into a state of relaxation and comfort. And the only way to do that is to be relaxed and comfortable yourself. Oh how i look forward to being able to do that!
I like to think that i can read body language fairly well, and hers told me that if i pulled it off correctly, i would have number closed. So when i asked her if she was single, she said "no" in a "i have no idea how to react, what to say or do, so i'm gonna say the one thing that will return things back to normal" way.
Why did i even ask if she was single? Because i was admittedly far too anxious to pull off a proper approach and develop rapport. So i just said the first thing that came to mind, just like she did, for the same reason as she did.
"Ah well, it was nice meeting you anyway," i replied and started walking back to my car. I was already near it when she finally responded with "it was nice meeting you too!" I turned around and she was still standing there. Then she turned and slowly started walking away. I got the feeling she regretted her anwer.
All i have to say is that afterwards, i felt awesome! I drove away with a HUGE grin on my face and couldn't stop smiling for 15 minutes! For a brief moment, i knew what it felt like to be God. So where does this bring me? I'm DEFINITELY doing that again! If anything, the rush alone makes it worth while! And eventually the anxiety will disappear and i'll be able to do it right. Gotta keep practicing!
A spot finally opened up, and i turned into the street, driving her by. Wait a minute, i did what? FVCK! I pussied out and missed an opportunity to approach! FVCK! I REFUSE TO ACCEPT ANY CIRCUMSTANCE THAT LEADS TO FAILURE! Autopilot engaged!
BRAKES. U-TURN. GAS. BRAKES. PARK. EXIT.
"Hey! Listen, i really hate letting opportunities pass me by."
There, i fvcking did it! She was speechless. Just stood there with her mouth wide open, facial expression going from shocked to smiling and back again several times in a matter of seconds.
Approaches like this are some of the hardest i've ever done. This is only my second. The good news is that my anxiety level dropped from the first time. The bad news is that it was still too high.
What i realized is this: this is one daring way to approach. And she knows it too. She's never been approached like this in her life. She's shocked. I'm 180, she's 100. I'm over 6 feet, she's barely over 5. I look 24 (even though i'm 21), she looks 17. What state do you think that puts her in?
You must be absolutely comfortable, cool and laid-back in order for this to work. It's critical for you to bring her down from a state of anxiety into a state of relaxation and comfort. And the only way to do that is to be relaxed and comfortable yourself. Oh how i look forward to being able to do that!
I like to think that i can read body language fairly well, and hers told me that if i pulled it off correctly, i would have number closed. So when i asked her if she was single, she said "no" in a "i have no idea how to react, what to say or do, so i'm gonna say the one thing that will return things back to normal" way.
Why did i even ask if she was single? Because i was admittedly far too anxious to pull off a proper approach and develop rapport. So i just said the first thing that came to mind, just like she did, for the same reason as she did.
"Ah well, it was nice meeting you anyway," i replied and started walking back to my car. I was already near it when she finally responded with "it was nice meeting you too!" I turned around and she was still standing there. Then she turned and slowly started walking away. I got the feeling she regretted her anwer.
All i have to say is that afterwards, i felt awesome! I drove away with a HUGE grin on my face and couldn't stop smiling for 15 minutes! For a brief moment, i knew what it felt like to be God. So where does this bring me? I'm DEFINITELY doing that again! If anything, the rush alone makes it worth while! And eventually the anxiety will disappear and i'll be able to do it right. Gotta keep practicing!
