CaptainJ's Bootcamp Journal

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 7

Done and dusted. 50 hellos sorted.

Nice surprise when I walked out the house, a guy on the road said good morning to me first :crazy:. I said hello to a cute policewoman, who smiled and asked me how I was. Got 5 hellos on the way up to my tennis lesson, then 3 more on the way to the pub to watch the game.

What a frustrating match, first with the 2 early goals, and then with that retarded linesman who should be hanged, we could have been equal early on, which may have changed the outcome. Sadly no one sung 'there were 10 german bombers in the air'. After we went to the park and played some little kids at football, now I'm not proud of it, but we whooped them hard. Got 2 more hellos on the way home to round it up.

I've noticed that saying hello has just become natural to me when I walk around, at first it was very artificial and people could sense that, which is why I got initially mixed responses. But after you say hello in a genuine way, people respond well. Overall it was a good exercise as it certainly made me more comfortable with strangers.

Bring on week 2, but for now, time for some well earned kip.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 Day 1

Exercise: Have a 2-10 minute conversation with 10 strangers

Damn I really bombed on this today, i went to play tennis with some friends at the park and I couldn't find good opportunities to have conversations with people there. I was then too knackered after tennis to go out seeking conversations (yeah I know, excuses).

Went to another park with friends in the evening just to hang out. Got some compliments from chick friends I hadn't seen in a while who said I looked really big and muscular, always good to boost the ego. There were ****loads of kids from a local school there, and they were all just doing the usual biz (drinking, chirpsing etc), and someone had called the police so they were running around like crazy (reminds me of the good ol days when I would be the one running away from the police in the park). A brave hot girl walked up to talk to us and we had a hilarious conversation. Pretty funny as all the guys were trying to chirpse her and ****block each other at the same time, whilst the girls were just ****blocking, trying to get us to leave.

So 0 conversations, I've got my work cut out for me. It's a pretty big step and I think I need to warm up by going for an easy target. Stay tuned.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 Day 2

Damn this is really pissing me off now, I just couldn't will myself today to find conversations. I would like to blame it on my crappy nights sleep, or my grazed knees causing me agony, or my aching legs, but I know that secretly i just lacked motivation + balls. I went to the library today and read some books about real estate investment, but I felt too tired to do anything else, so went home. Then went to the pub in the evening but didn't really feel very sociable. I think it was just one of those days where I feel depressed for no reason (goddamn teen hormones).

However, chatting with my good friend who is a pretty natural player, who has quite a lot of plates and left that night to go fvck his fvckbuddy, it got me realising that I need to work harder. He's a ladies man, so what's holding me back? Girls usually are more attracted to me than him when we go out, but he is more forward and ballsy than me and furiously exploits any attraction, so it is simply a matter of attitude. I'm learning a lot from him, particularily to be more unashamedly sexual and to be the alpha of the group.

Tomorrow I'm going to force myself to converse with people. The show must go on.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 Day 3

Probably the worst day I had in a while. Went up to school for choir rehearsals, got a 2 minute conversation with a middle aged woman at a bus stop. Opened with "have you been waiting long for the bus" and asked her about holidays and walked about the weather, she then asked me about school but the convo got cut short by the arrival of my bus.

Then everything went to sh1t

On the way back home, I suddenly got really depressed for no reason, and it was a very crippling bout sucking all motivation out of me. Then I discovered I had lost my wallet containing my debit card, driving licence, bus card and some money. Really annoying, the icing on the cake for a sh1t day. I've cancelled and re-ordered everything, and the whole ordeal has cost me about 50 quid.

I meant to go out and get more conversations done, but I had no motivation to do it.

I then had a pretty dull leavers ball (prom) that evening, where I didn't feel very social. Pretty much a day to leave behind.

So 1 conversation done, 9 to do in 4 days. I will beat this task.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

It happens. But Good job on keep you're preservance when sh1t like that happens. I hate losing stuff, and the crazy thing about it. Nobody will actually tell you if you've dropped it or report it to London Bus Transport (Arriva are Tywats!)

You'll do it. .

 

[Desdinova]

Week 1 was probably the most difficult for me to start, but you're right about the hellos coming naturally after a while.

I've got 8 more to do, but I took today off as I packed in about 20 last night. Initiating convos should be fairly easy for me since it's pretty much part of my day job to interact with strangers. I just need the practice of approaching women and number closing, but the underlying skills need a good spit polish in order to reach that level.

 

[CaptainJ]

Alright it's been a pretty sh1tty week for me, and I basically bombed on week 2, I swear i must be bipolar lol as i can suddenly just slump into extreme depression. Well fvck it, i'm feeling better now, and I'm going to jump back on the boat and ride the high before i get another down.

I lost my stride, so tomorrow I'm going to go out and get 50 hellos, and then I'll restart week 2 on Monday. I'll make sure I properly launch myself into week 2 though and take the initiative. That was my mistake, I let myself slide back into my old comfort zone.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 prep

Ok, went out and maybe 50 hellos was a little ambitious, but I got 30 done today. First session in the morning on my bike. Second session in the afternoon at the park. Said hello to an old dude and then had a 5 minute conversation with him about all types of shizz. Funnily he used the "don't i know you from somewhere?" line on me. He probably checks out these forums for pick up advice xD. That convo left me feeling pumped, and I busted out lots of good afternoons. Sometimes it was just passing comments like "that's a lot of beers" to a guy throwing away lots of beers (duh captain obvious), "nice wheelie" to a guy doing a wheeeelie and "nice dog" to a guy walking his dog (original I know), which all got positive responses.

So I'm nice and warmed up for week 2 again and 9 conversations left to do, bring her on.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 Day 1

Had a little 2 minute conversation with an old guy who was doing some gardening with a hose who asked me if I wanted a shower lol. Talked about gardening, weather and all that mundane sh1t.

Then went to the library to read up on some real estate books, had a tiny chat with one of the women who works there, nothing fancy.

8 More to go

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 2 Day 3

Spent the last couple of days at an international choir competition. Was amazing, we came 4th, but we were definitely the best choir there, but our choice of songs let us down. Ah well, we all thought we'd have trouble getting into the top 10, so it's amazing we got 4th place. It's exciting performing for 4000 people and being televised.

Anyway, back to bootcamp from that little holiday. Got 2 conversations this day, one was with a guy my age: I just said "Alright mate how's it going", whilst walking past and he turned around with a look of "wha, do i know you?" so I just said " hey i know you from somewhere, dont i? You go to *school* don't you" he said yeah and we just talked about school sh1t and other crap for 5 minutes then went. Next conversation was in a park where I said "nice dog" to a guy with this big ass dribbling dog. He smiled and said " yeah he's a big lump isn't he?" we then talked about the dog and he said about how it goes nuts when it gets excited and throws dribble everywhere. THen a young couple with their dog came and we started talking to them too. Convo lasted about 6 minutes. I then did my tour of the park, and tried to start and conversation with a guy on the bike on the bench. COuldn't get past initial fluff talk about the weather because he was being a defensive little b1tch, so i bailed like christian.

In the evening I went to my mate's house and just spent the night drinking with him, another friend and 2 girls. I was majorly flirting and kinoing one of the girls, who my friend told me fancied me about a month ago, but i hadnt seen her since that night so nothing came of it. I was just doing outlandish sh1t like playing find the nipple haha. we were playfighting and i would spank her really hard when she tried to untie my laces, which she really liked haha. SO lots of sexual tension when she left. Her friend then started talking about how she is going out with this average looking boy, who is apparently a complete afc, and she's playing him around. But i can tell that they want to hook me up with her. It's quite funny because most of her friends fancy me and i've got a reputation as a player with them, even though i have no idea how that came about lol, yeah i know, stroke my ego please

Watched superbad, fvcking hilarious film. Mclovin = gangster.

So 6 more conversations left, going pretty well, feeling pretty damn confident.