CaptainJ's Bootcamp Journal

[CaptainJ]

This has been a long time coming and I've put it off long enough.

About me: 18 years old, was a complete and utter AFC through my teens until a year ago where i made made a 180 turn and became a damn good catch: manly, muscular, talented, handsome, funny, intelligent and driven. So why am i here you ask? There's one problem:

I can't meet women for sh1t!

That's right, oh and did i mention that I fear rejection. There I've said it, can't take it back. Enough whining. There's only one thing to do now and that's to put my nuts on the line until they toughen up into bowling balls.

My Goals:
*Be able to approach a hottie anytime, anywhere
*Get over my fear of rejection
*Become an excellent conversationalist and be able to sell myself
*Hone my skills so that I can be a pvssy magnet by the time I get to Uni
*Be an all round Ladies man

Even now I'm making excuses to myself "Just wait until University, you'll get more opportunities" "There's no hot girls near you, you're gonna fail!".

Now I've just gotta shut up those little voices in my head and man the fvck up. I have all the time in the world now that exams are finished. I'm going to go at this like someone's lit a fire up my arse. No half measures, I don't care about overstepping social boundaries anymore. It's time to play ball.

And to anyone who wants to join me in my mission, feel free, don't settle for mediocrity anymore.

Tomorrow, the hi's and eye contact begins.

 

[Rescue Mission]

Just keep this in mind:

1) PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE - say hi to EVERY chick, get used to being naturally unafraid of saying hi........it WILL eventually click in your head that there is no fear in saying hi and hitting on some chick.

2) Remember, that every single random hot chick that you see, is no more important to you than a Big Mac wrapper in a garbage can.....they are both useless to you. Say anything you want, do anything you want

 

[kingsam]

ur from london if im not mistaken?

where abouts do you go out?

you have a good opportunity over the summer to get upto speed before starting uni with a "good" level of game, and i can give a lot of ideas to help get your game up to speed!

im just comming out the university system (finishing Post grad now) so i can give you a lot of pointers (i look back at some of uni in shame! if only i had as much knowledge then! i also went to a uni which was crap for girls! )

what uni are you going to?

 

[CaptainJ]

Cheers Rescue Mission, this is going to be hell, my ego is going to get trampled, but damn it's gonna be fun.

ur from london if im not mistaken?

where abouts do you go out?

you have a good opportunity over the summer to get upto speed before starting uni with a "good" level of game, and i can give a lot of ideas to help get your game up to speed!

im just comming out the university system (finishing Post grad now) so i can give you a lot of pointers (i look back at some of uni in shame! if only i had as much knowledge then! i also went to a uni which was crap for girls! )

what uni are you going to?

Good to have another Brit's input

Yeah I'm from North London, but I rarely go into the city, sometimes leicester square or Camden, but I want to explore it more. I mainly go out in the suburban setting, so i'll go up to some high streets to practice my game, parks, supermarkets, shopping centres and clothes shops sound like good bets. Although what I really want is good local places to meet girls my age, any tips on where they could be? Bounce some ideas off me kingsam, from anything from Girls to hobbys, you say it, I'll do it.

 

[kingsam]

What I think you need to do first is to is do a honest assessment of where exactly you are, and where you want to be by the time u start uni (which will be around the end September/start october) and how you think you can get there…

A good framework to use is the GROW model
G Goal This is the end point, where the client wants to be. The goal has to be defined in such a way that it is very clear to the client when they have achieved it.
Eg for you -. Be able to naturally hook ech set I open, Make these realistic – not things as “have 2 threesomes”

R Reality This is how far the client is away from their goal. If the client were to look at all the steps they need to take in order to achieve the goal, the Reality would be the number of those steps they have completed so far.
Eg. for you -. Most sets I open I cant hook…

O Obstacles There will be Obstacles stopping the client getting from where they are now to where they want to go. If there were no Obstacles the client would already have reached their goal. Options Once Obstacles have been identified the client need to find ways of dealing with them if they are to make progress. These are the Options.
Eg your obstables could be AA, run out of things to say…

W Way Forward The Options then need to be converted into action steps which will take the client to their goal. These are the Way Forward.
make these manageable, you wont be able to do every thing by uni…

See here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/GROW_model

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This is a Really good exercise to use to help your self work out where you are and how to get there….THEN we can all them chime in to give you pointers and advice
(ill give you some Brit specific pointers to get to on the ball for uni - from my experience)
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Uni game is ridiculously easy , I banged a girl up the arse in the 2nd night wihtout knowing what game was- but it was the obvuos thing to do! (she ordered me to aswell!), so going in with even a small amount of game, AND social game will be a MASSIVE advantage

See this guys FR for an example of Uni, see http://www.rsdnation.com/node/135273
Now this is a yank, and we don’t have Frat houses here, but basically change the “frat house” location to “student union” and its essentially the same!

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 1

Woo day one, got 10 hellos done, and did some eye contact. People really are determined not to look you in the eye or even smile! They charge around all day with their heads down towards the floor, still though responses were mainly good, only 2 people didn't respond but i think that was out of surprise. I literally said good afternoon to this guy, without giving him eye contact and he leapt up thinking "wtf is going on!".

It felt strange but it wasn't hard, the only problem was saying hello to girls (even ugs), where i just kept quiet. Also noticed 0 hotties, or even girls my age, everyone must be at school. Although I didn't really stray to far away from my local supermarket, so I gotta go up to the highstreet.

Starting Krav Maga tomorrow, so going into London, will be sure to practice like a maniac then.

 

[CaptainJ]

Ok I'll use that framwork kingsam

Goal:
Be able to approach any girl, anytime, anywhere and be able to close
Get more friends (this has always been unstable for me, as I live so far away from my schoolmates, and I've only recently been socialising more with local friends)
Also I want to make good use of the huge amount of free time I have

Reality:
I haven't approached girls in ages (mainly due to exams, i know lousy excuse), and I've become a bit out of tune with seduction (It's pretty natural to me now, I just need to balls to make more moves).

Obstacles: I guess I have AA as the only approaches i've done have been when tipsy or drunk
Fear of rejection, don't really like the idea of my romantic endeavours being spread around publicly

Way Forward:
Bite the bullet and approach. Find the hotspots for young hot girls. Also i need to become more stable friends with my local mates, as my childhood buddy knows ****loads of social groups and girls and this has really expanded my horizons recently.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 2

oh man can't believe it's day 2, time seems to be going really slowly now I'm filling my life with some purpose.

Today was rather lackluster in terms of hellos, did one good morning to and elderly gent on the way to make a haircut appointment. Then me and my old man went for a game of golf. I acted friendly and swapped a few comments with the people before and after us, got really stoked where i did a really long and dogbend hole in 4 shots, and this old lady complimented my technique saying i should play at one of the real big proper courses. I know i know, i should have negged her and gone for the number close, but I totally choked on that one xD.

Went for a haircut and had a good chat with the barber about the world cup, he wouldn't let me get a bloody word in hedgeways he was on a roll!

In the evening I went to my first Krav Maga class, which is where things got hectic. I was running late for the class when i got to leicester square so I rushed around in what I thought was the right direction. Started asking people for directions when I realised i was lost, one guy was so socially retarded that he didn't even acknowledge me when i asked him and just shook his head walking off LOL. He must get all the poon. So after wondering why there are a helluva lot of chinese people in covent garden, I realise I was in chinatown. The opposite direction from where i was supposed to go. I had to leg it back to the station and retrace my steps. This time in the right direction, I overshot it and ended up running in circles around the street the gym was on, and finally made it 20 minutes late. The old afc part of me was screaming at me to give up and go home, I was already too late, but i just ignored it and confidently rolled into the class like nothing was different. Was meant to get lots of hellos on the way there but couldn't due to my mad rush.

Krav maga was pretty damn fun, and I picked it up quickly. It certainly helped being strong and i got to learn Bas Rutten's signature guillotine choke :box:. Chatted with some of the guys there, and worked up a big ass sweat. On my way home I only got out 1 "evening gents" to two guys as i was jogging past to catch a bus.

Damn, all that just to say I got 2 hi's, I need to condense.

 

[kingsam]

i was hoping you'd put more detail into you "way forward" - think of EVERY possibility you could do that may provide an opp to interact and talk with people, to get out, have fun, to meet girls, opps to do stuff wiht your freinds... its worth it

golf can be a really good guy activity (i dont understand the appeal but lots of people enjoy it) there must be guys you know who play, so arrange some golf days

you need to socally "ping" which is keeping in contect wiht people, keep you on their radar, facebook and texting is awsone and easy for this type of thing... calling if theres some stuff to talk about after!

can you arrange trips, such as to night culbs ? get a group to go to thorpe park, london, golf etc...
try and become a social organiser to bring people from seperate groups together in these activities

are there any clubs that have student nights (eg oceana near me has student nights on monday and wednesday) it really cheap so you wont have to spend much on booze, and you can get some serious practice in for night game - which wil the the vast majority of UNI experience...
most of the PUA stuff tells you you need serious practice (eg out for times a week for a year) to get sharp, doing this will get you much more confident and conforatble (spills ouve into genreal character and day game)

learn to socailly vibe ...
http://www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=Social_Vibing
http://www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=How_to_Ride_the_Vibe_to_the_****
what is your tonality like? lots of stuff about this on the net

lots of pua stuff is outcome dependant, dont be
http://www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=Outcome_Dependency

i will add more stuff later!

 

[kingsam]

oh yeh are you going on holiday?

i SERIOUSLY SUGGEST A LADS HOLIDAY?

i can give you the best places for you at this stage (aiya napa) and WHY you need to go !
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do you have a job?

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 3

Went for a bike ride this morning, got some hellos whilst on the move. Had a chat with someone I recognised from a club, who was walking his dog. Said "morning Gents" to these two black guys, who called out my brother's name, mistaking me for my brother. Had a chat with them for a minute. Quite a sociable morning. Only 5 Hi's done that morning though.

Organised people to come watch the England football match at the pub (bloody hell people make it hard for you, sitting on the fence and always offering other pubs to go to). Was good atmosphere and a pretty good match overall, good that we got through to the knockout stages. Then went home to watch that epic Wimbledon match: Isner versus Mahut. Damn that's intense, Isner looked ready to collapse, I hope he wins tomorrow.

So the count as of now brings it up to 17 hellos to strangers. 33 to go, although they really are not very difficult to do. I think I'll do some pure sessions of just going out and getting hellos and eye contact.

 

[CaptainJ]

Good advice on the social pinging Kingsam, that's something I really don't bother to do. I rarely text people or use facebook to chat, so I will definitely start making use of them more to stay on the social radar.

Yeah I've realised how important it is to actually organise outings, as you become a rallying point of the group and the authoritative goto guy, which ios why I organised the pub outing, tried to organise a tennis outing (failed cos people still have exams) and I am gonna have a poker night on friday. Will definitely organise some clubbing nights, and I was thinking the exact same thing about trying to find the student nights.

Sadly not going on a lads holiday though, I regret not getting in on it when people were organising them. I'll make up for it in Uni though.

I don't have a job, I'm thinking of just trolling around shops and places, trying to find some summer work, or maybe even just working in a charity shop if there are no jobs available.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 4

Just as i was writing this up, about 5 foxes just had a fvcking free for all in my garden, was some funny sh1t as they scream like trapped birds. Seriously there's suddenly ****loads of foxes everywhere this year.

Went into school today for choir rehearsals, said hello to 2 lil old ladies on the way in, and then had a chat with a middle aged woman at a bus stop. lol something is wrong with me I keep chirpsing grannies.

On my way to Krav Maga training, I did another hello, which was an epic fail, as the guy just looked at me strangely and carried on. I just laughed and walked on. Had a 10 minute convo with this middle aged guy on the tube, it's pretty easy to open people up when you do something situational, like i commented how he just got on the train before the door closed and then directed conversation like an interviewer through a whole range of subjects, from holidays, to work, to the sport (Isner won woo) and simply asking what they are up to can open up a whole branch of topics. Chatted with several people at Krav Maga, and on the way back I had a long convo with one of the Krav Maga guys who turned out to be a police officer. He told me about the great opportunities to pull at Uni, and how they are the best years of your life (I must have been talking to kingsam xD). Met some girls I know from school, when they asked where I had been I said Krav Maga and their expression was like wtf lol.

So only 2 hellos done today, but several conversations with strangers, so i'm getting more comfortable with strangers. I'll just have to shove in a ****load of hellos in one session on the weekend to get it done, but they are pretty easy and fun. Eye contact without saying hello is the harder thing, as you just look away as a natural reflex, but when you do hold and maintain eye contact, you feel a surge of confidence, especially when it's with the hotties.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Bad ass you're doing Krav Maga. Hell if you build a good enough rapport with a chic, that could be an awesome way to initiate some contact "Oh I just learned this move in class tonight, it's so awesome here I'll show you" muahah I find after meeting some one, entertaining yourself first and laughing at something or commenting on something comical really lightens the mood up and people generally open up a bit more.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 5

Got 3 hellos in on the way to get beer for my poker night. One with my nextdoor neighbour, another with a big issue guy and one with the security guard at the shop, although i usually say hello to him.

Went for a singing lesson, and I'm pretty stoked as i hit a top B and almost got C. I've jumped from A flat to B in just 3 lessons, with good tone too. My dad said it took him 6 years to reach B, and I've only been doing it for a year and a half.

One of my chick friend's wanted me to come to a pub, but poker night comes first, although i think she wants some of the ol' ****erel in her. It's quite hard having chick friends when you become muscular and adopt a DJ mindset, they all just keep falling in lurve with you, not that i'm complaining.

Won 3 quid at the poker night (it was low stakes so I got a 150% profit), mostly because people thought I was bluffing and tried to call my bluff with when they had a sh!t hand.

So 22 hellos done, I'll be doing some mass hellos on the weekend. They are pretty easy, but they do give you a surge of confidence, same as eye contact.

 

[CaptainJ]

Yeah Carlitosway, I'll use Krav Maga to pick up girls (literally xD). One girl already told me how krav maga was the best of the martial arts, so it's already having an effect.

I've also found that making a joke (it doesn't even have to be funny in the slightest, it's all about your attitude) is a good way to start a conversation, and does open them for the more conversational topics.

 

[Rescue Mission]

radical thinking here....but why not just say all 50 hellos as fast as you can? Why break them out into a full weeks worth? Why not get the 50 hellos over with within like an hour of just walking in a mall or something?

It almost seems like you are telling yourself subconciously that you are a loser just because you treat these "hellos" as something special.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

CaptainJ, I always wondered whether you were a fellow Brit.

What part of North London are you based? Haringey, Islington or Enfield Boroughs? And also what school are you attending, surprised to hear you're still in school and yet well-schooled in Game, just by some of you're replies in here and threads.

I did this Bootcamp before, just like Phat_Rabbit's audios, and it was a complete disaster (nearly getting called "gay" and "camp" for saying "hey" to guys), but a good laugh lol, I guess thats what you get in the reserved inner-London city regions.

 

[CaptainJ]

Week 1 Day 6

Went for a pure hello session in the park and got 18 done, the first 3 are usually hard and leave you choking, but once you get past them they just come out naturally because it becomes fun. It's even better when you get people smiling back and asking how you are doing. Also had a quick convo with a dude at a bus stop, opened with the classic "Has the *bus number* come yet?" and you can chat about anything from there.

Went up to the high street for clothes shopping, but choked on the hellos, they are much harder in crowded environments, where people are rushing around, stuck in their own little worlds. It's hard enough to get eye contact, and when you do, they usually ask you for directions xD. Quite a few hotties out and a bout, and I caught myself naturally thinking of possible openers and how I would approach that girl. It's a start.

So 40 down, 10 to go.

 

[CaptainJ]

Rescue mission, good idea, I was thinking myself that it's better to do lots of hellos in one sitting then drag it out over a week.

Cheers HeyPachuco, I guess people are more impressionable at a young age so it's easier to learn. You got almost got called gay on bootcamp!? How'd that happen? "Good afternoon" "wtf queer". You're probably right about inner city regions, I've also found that people are more closed off to strangers there.