Can't stand my dismal dating life anymore

[Last_straw]

Hi guys, new to the board. Basically I came here because I can't stand my horrible dating life anymore. Here's my info, mid twenties, student completing second degree, average looking to good looking, no car, and poor (lol). I haven't had a date in six months. Last date I had ended pretty meh, walked away with a kiss (never saw her again). Currently have zero girls and no prospects. It just seems like women don't like me. I'm on my last straw here (hence the name), I don't know if I want to live the rest of my life like this. Need extreme help (don't know if anyone here can even help me).

FYI, I'm in the process of reading the DJ bible, so if you have any parts to recommend pls do.

 

[ARrocket]

Fifteen Lessons by Pook is a must-read.

Read as much as you can, and make sure to APPLY what you learn.

Don't put too much emphasis in women. Keep on striving to improve all aspects of your life, and women will find their way into the equation.

Welcome, and I'm looking forward to seeing your reports!

 

[slaog]

Put the effort into developing yourself and understand attraction and your life will be great.

 

[Desdinova]

The first thing you need to know is that there is no quick fix to becoming an attractive male. You'll need to learn and apply knowledge as previously stated. Starting out is the most difficult as you must go outside your comfort zone. However, after you've gained experience in attracting the opposite sex, it gets easier until you don't even think about it.

You also will learn that having a woman by your side is NOT the purpose of life, but can be a benefit (or even a nuisance)

Read the entire DJ bible. Focus heavily on the parts where you believe you are lacking.

 

[Last_straw]

The first thing you need to know is that there is no quick fix to becoming an attractive male. You'll need to learn and apply knowledge as previously stated. Starting out is the most difficult as you must go outside your comfort zone. However, after you've gained experience in attracting the opposite sex, it gets easier until you don't even think about it.

You also will learn that having a woman by your side is NOT the purpose of life, but can be a benefit (or even a nuisance)

Read the entire DJ bible. Focus heavily on the parts where you believe you are lacking.

I'm not thinking that women are the purpose of life, however when you've never had women you begin to wonder what it's like to attract them. I already know where I'm going in life and am working towards that. But I'd still like to get better with women (any success would be good enough for me).

I don't know what/where I'm lacking though. I'm a decent looking guy, I'm interesting (I've done more things in my life than most ppl), I'm pretty social (though lately I've pulled back from the social scene a bit to take time for myself). Not having a good job is my only flaw (that I can think of). But that'll be taken care of in a year once I graduate (needless to say I can't wait).

 

[DonJuan11]

- when you've never had women you begin to wonder what it's like to attract them.
- I'd still like to get better with women
- I'm a decent looking guy,
- I'm interesting (I've done more things in my life than most ppl)
- I'm pretty social
- Not having a good job is my only flaw

That's a flaw if you want to use it as one.

You have to do something, create something, be positive about something that you love and enjoy. It appears you are focusing so much on kissing and having sex with a women that it's ruining your perception of them. Offer the girl security, comfort, passion, excitement, and STRONG EMOTIONAL FEELINGS and they will come.

Women will also give you sex IN EXCHANGE for something. What will you give them for sex? Cash? Security? Laughter? A good time? Dancing skills? Milk? Juice? A Car? Women don't give it up because you are you, they give it up IF THEY GET SOMETHING IN RETURN.

What will you give them in return?

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm not thinking that women are the purpose of life, however when you've never had women you begin to wonder what it's like to attract them.

I now get laid like a rock star and life is just as meaningless as when I didn't. If you are looking to find meaning to your life, I promise that it does not exist in some bimbo's crotch. You only think that's what you need, because that is what you do not have.

 

[xdreamz]

^^ very true, we want it because we don't have it. improve yourself: do u think a beautiful girl wants a guy that sits on his couch all day..start finding parties and meeting people that will help build prospects.. no matter how great u think you are we can always learn and get better. if u find urself getting rejected all the time then you wait it out, be yourself, and strike again. don't go crazy over it.

 

[Megaman XIV]

The first thing you need to know is that there is no quick fix to becoming an attractive male. You'll need to learn and apply knowledge as previously stated. Starting out is the most difficult as you must go outside your comfort zone. However, after you've gained experience in attracting the opposite sex, it gets easier until you don't even think about it.

You also will learn that having a woman by your side is NOT the purpose of life, but can be a benefit (or even a nuisance)

Read the entire DJ bible. Focus heavily on the parts where you believe you are lacking.

OP. Listen to this. Listen to Papa Desdinova!

Get equipped with +1 rep!

There are secrets where fairies don't live.

 

[Drum&Bass]

Im a firm believer and always will be a firm believer that if you want to attract women you MUST learn to attract friends (same sex friends and then opposite sex friends) !!

If you have the ability to make people like you and filter out the friends who aren't really your friends, your at a huge advantage and women will come easily.

I recommend starting with the art of conversation and LISTENING to people. Learn how to go anywhere, talk to anyone and have an enjoyable conversation with random people, that should be your first step.

 

[synergy1]

Im a firm believer and always will be a firm believer that if you want to attract women you MUST learn to attract friends (same sex friends and then opposite sex friends) !!

If you have the ability to make people like you and filter out the friends who aren't really your friends, your at a huge advantage and women will come easily.

I recommend starting with the art of conversation and LISTENING to people. Learn how to go anywhere, talk to anyone and have an enjoyable conversation with random people, that should be your first step.

^^

don't believe in quick fixes myself, but after distilling everything that I have learned...this is probably the closest thing you'll get.

When I was younger, I wanted to understand how to attract chicks in the quickest way possible which meant trying to talk to them. Having learned a great deal of experience, what I just mentioned is like going from A to D without incorporating B and C. Basically, the ability to make friends, hold interesting conversations (which means becoming an interesting person) really pulled everything together for me. It wasn't a quick fix by any means, but is probably one of the single things that really changed my level of success.